AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

[AIvSC]

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

Did he expect you to have booked sc, or that you’d bung his family a few freebies?

The ai-upgrade price seems ludicrous - is it worth saying he knows the rate is £20pp/day from your invoice so can they exceptionally honour that?
Failing that, if it’s a sc apartment it’s up to him to run to the supermarket and stock up on drinks/icecreams for his kids - they just nip back to the room for them. His instruction to your kid is bonkers - it’s his booking, his kids, his snacks budget…

Why should your kids be penalised? You paid for the extras. That's why people go AI fgs.

😂

No reason not to use that one tomorrow. It’s very funny! You never know he may even laugh!

Well they can fuck off, can’t they! You wanted AI, paid for AI, so you’re damn well using the fucking AI!

I would reply ‘we’ve paid £80 per day up front for the AI and you are just buying the drinks one by one instead, it’s not big deal, it’s just a different way of paying for it’. Holidays with kids mean lots of drinks and snacks, they either need to pay up or go to a supermarket; which is standard practice on SC holidays.

You can still say it tomorrow!

I wouldn’t go on holiday with them again. Anyone who likes ordering women and children around like that is not someone I would want to socialise with

You pays your money and you take your choice. The advantages to going AI are that you can munch and drink all day and everything is already paid for. I sometimes do this and sometimes do SC or half board. I really do not think anyone can complain that that you are enjoying AI when they are not given you paid for it. The challenge though is with the kids. A bit more awkward with them as they are maybe too young to understand the difference. However I really do not think that is your problem. Relatives should have thought about this.

It’s nuts - surely they know that they could upgrade to AI at reception and have the same deal? Then their kids could do as they like and they’d actually pay less at the end? Or are they just not good at maths?

Fucknuggets

love it

why did it cost you another £600 but now will cost them £2220 to upgrade

has he asked the other half of group who booked ai to not use it or just you

he’s insane

but yes ai for kids is well worth it. An ice cream. A coke. A slushy. Water all add so

Sorry @AIvSC but in what is likely to be the hottest year in history they are expecting your kids to go without the drinks that you have already paid for, just because they are too tight to pay for their own kids?

Well you know what you can say to that.

And I am confused by the reference to "free" that I see in some of your posts. Nobody is getting anything for free. You have just chosen to pre-pay for your drinks and meals while they chose to pay as they go. You are both paying for everything. They chose to gamble and it sounds like in this case it didn't pay off.

I say that because if you keep using the word "free" then you are buying into their narrative that you are getting something extra, whereas they need to understand that this is simply their own choice and they need to stump up now or have some very grumpy and dehydrated kids.

Just carry on as you are. It’s your holiday with your kids

This reminds me of why I'd never agree to this type of holiday. 🙄

I think the abve sums it up nicely.

Don't tolerate this nonsense for one single second.

You've paid for your children's food and now they want you to ban you children from having it just to make them feel better. INSANE

"No I won't be doing that and you need to mind your own business" on repeat.

And go to dinner before them, at different table.

The Absolute fools.

I bet its not going to cost an extra £2k to upgrade either. He's just too tight to pay for the upgrade so he wants to make it sound impossible to pressurise you into agreeing to only let your kids have drinks when his do.

If they want to get in a strop about it let them.

You've said enough now in justification and explaination . Shut down further discussion and just keep saying a simple No... on repeat... you don't have to feel guilty because he's a twit. Or spend all holiday in the dog house.
Go off and enjoy yourselves..

Do they have a paging service there? I can't help but imagine them paging "Would the Fucknuggets Family, please go to Reception where The Batshits are waiting for them.

Yes...genuinely unbelievable....

Why is everyone getting so unbelievably raging over a story?

To put this in another form of context, I’ve booked a holiday for myself and my children, and my mum has booked the same holiday for her and my nan to join us. I am in the family area of the hotel, and they are in the adults only area. Most things all of us can use, but some things - one of the restaurants, a food truck, two pools and an exclusive bar are adult only so I don’t have access to them. There was a significant price difference.

If I was to tell my mum and nan that it was unfair for them to access these facilities because I as an adult also on holiday there can’t.. would that be reasonable? No lol

Your BIL is being a knob, let your kids enjoy all the snack and icecream and drinks that you’ve paid for. It’s their holiday too, and their holiday stomachs have prepared for this 😉

Yep or
Tell them to pay to upgrade to AI for remainder of holiday
Idiots or they think you are !

Why should she encourage her kids to steal?

I’d just laugh in their faces and then go and get unlimited ice creams or w/e with the kids.

Wow, people never cease to amaze me with the thing they say. They’ve chosen not to pay for the AI option, you have but they are saying it’s not fair for you guys to use it. Honestly, i’ve never heard anything so crazy. Your kids can continue to get what they want drinks and food wise given you’ve paid, and never go on holiday with them again!

You used the terms "children" and "kids."

Do you mean children, whom you paid for?

Or grown up sons and daughters who booked a holiday and chose not to pay fir AI?

One would be entitled to the benefits, and one would not.

That’s a bit like telling your kids to it is OK to go back into the supermarket and shoplift sweets and toys for their friends because you have just done a huge family shop there.

In fact it is exactly like that.

No one would be telling me what my children can and can’t use especially if I’ve already paid for it. It’s not a you problem it’s a them problem and I’d say you were being unreasonable to even consider limiting your own children to benefit others. Your children are there to enjoy the services provided for them as are you because you paid for them and rightly so. I’d be sending my child to get what ever they wanted frequently just for this. My family would never ask me to stop using something to benefit them.