AIBU? Husband and England football

[mumlearningtorun]

Am i being unreasonable?

my husband has turned around this morning and decided he’s going out to watch the football tonight with his friends, and staying out as it’s quite a long taxi journey to where his friends live, he’s decided to stay at his parents in their spare room as that’s where all his mates still live.

this has been sprung onto me & I have actually been looking forward to watching another game together, it’s been exciting, celebrating together etc

now I’m on my own? I feel a bit disappointed and I’ve now got the ump.

AIBU?

Can you go with him?

I'd ask if I could join them.

I mean, are you a football fan? I'd always rather watch the match with other fans.

can you go with? Leave kids if there are any with his parents if they are agreeable?

Go with him?

I would join them, but I have two young children. My parents are abroad & his parents are out watching it with friends, so it’s just me myself and I, it’s not feeling exciting now

I am, we often watch all the games together and I get he’s not watched one out with his mates yet, but I’m a bit miffed to be in on my own!

Go together if you can. Your DH could have told you this on Tuesday as the time and day was known then.

Are they his children too? If so, then this is extremely unkind of him.

Can you invite people round to watch with you? I don't think your DH is being unreasonable to want to watch it out with his mates.

What would have happened if you had made the same decision? Told him this morning that you’re going out tonight and back tomorrow?

Bit annoying for you but I think he’ll really enjoy this match with his mates. Can you whip ‘round the supermarket & pick up some snacks & beers for yourself? What age are the kids, will they be in bed or watching too?

In bed, they’re 4 and 2

Sadly, it’s a bit short notice otherwise I would have !

??? You don’t get to make unilateral decisions that result in one party having fun and the other left on their own with dc to look after without consulting your spouse! Or if you do, that’s incredibly disrespectful

the op probably would also rather watch the match out with mates!

Say fine but make it clear if they are through to the final you are the one going out and he stays at home.

Well then you can go out solo for the semi.

Wow so he's decided he gets a fun night but you are the childcare?
What a tosser..

It depends....is he normally a football fan?

When our kids were little, I stayed in for the games if dh wanted to go out.

I like watching world cup/Euro's but I'm not a football fan. Whereas dh is a huge fan, has a season ticket to a local team, has friends he watches with. It was a big deal for him so I didn't resent him going out to celebrate...the atmosphere is better out and about than at home

If you are both equally into football as each other, it is a bit rubbish that he has just decided he's off out, and you're home and I'd tell him that.

But he's got the kids all day tomorrow for the spa day you've just booked, hasn't he?

??? back at ya. OP didn't seem offended by my suggestion. Not sure why you're so triggered.

Yeh I’m not triggered, I understand it’s nice watching with his friends, I’m just wondering if I’m being unreasonable for being grumpy and bummed that I’ve now got to get the kids ready for bed and watch on my own.

I’d be annoyed tbh. My DH had a gig booked with his mate for the second to last one (the sat night one). They changed their plans to watch an earlier gig as he knows we watch it together. That said I understand him wanting to watch with his mate but it’s really shitty of him to leave you alone.

He’s also about to leave, 5pm? The hardest time of the day, between dinner and bed. I want to pull my hair out 😅😂

If England make the semis, be sure to make it clear your DH that you don't expect to be watching it home alone! Hope you enjoy the match tonight.