AIBU to not let in laws use my villa for free in peak season?

[dilwithvil]

I have a villa in Europe by the beach that I own independently of my husband. It’s effectively a high-end Airbnb in a very popular area and is usually fully booked from mid May until late September. It’s one of my income streams (I’m a SAHM but I manage several investments/assets, and this is part of my income). My husband also earns a very good salary, for full context, but all of “my spending” (coffee with a friend, make up, clothes, dentist) is paid by me from this income. I earn more than my husband.

My in-laws would like to use the villa for a week in peak season for free. My view is that peak season is when the villa earns money. If I block out a week for them, I’m not just “sharing a holiday home”, I’m giving up a week’s rental income.

I’ve said they’re very welcome to use it either in low season, when bookings are much quieter, or at very short notice if a peak-season booking unexpectedly cancels (which almost never happens).

They’re unhappy with this because they want to be able to plan a holiday well in advance, and they don’t want to go in low season because the weather is less reliable. Even if they paid half the market rate this is more than they would usually pay for a holiday, so they don’t want to pay that either.

For context, my parents do occasionally use the villa in peak season. The villa ultimately came from my side of the family (family money/early inheritance), so I don’t really see that as the same thing. Without them, there wouldn’t be a villa in the first place.

Also, while I get on reasonably well with my in-laws, I wouldn’t choose to holiday with them for a week or two, so inviting them while we’re there isn’t really something I want to do either.

AIBU for saying that if they want to use it in peak season, they should either pay the market rate (or even half), or go in low season? Or should family simply be allowed to use it for free regardless of the income I’d be giving up?

Except she has offered to let them use it. If he wanted to then he could pay for it, but he doesn’t want to.

And of course she’s ‘possessive’ of it, it’s an income stream for her.

You what? Because OP’s DH has an income, OP’s income (managing this rental and other things) doesn’t matter?

That then is entirely a ‘you’ issue. I have no such qualms.

Yes. They probably won't even be very appreciative.

Well quite. Shame on their high earning son who has never taken them on holiday with all his wealth.

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I don’t have an issue as I’m not tight.

Of course darling, in fact why don’t you just have it. I don’t need it, I have a husband.

But I don't understand why she doesn't also contribute to the family budget. Yes looking after children is hard but it was her choice. And just because they don't need to use childcare (although she did say she still.enploys a nanny) there is no reason for her not to contribute to the household budget. She sounds extremely wealthy as well as quite mean
She earns more than him but contributes nothing financially. She spends all her money on treats for herself.

No I don't think all DILs should pay for in-laws but there were quite a few posts on here asking who would pay for in-laws, I'm saying we have, and in fact DH has paid more out of disposable income for my parents at times, and helps with supporting my elderly DM.

If times were tight then the help we have provided might be different. The OP has been gifted assets which gives her more income than her earning DH. All that money is hers, doesn't have to put it towards any household costs. Do we know how much impact it would have on DH's personal money, which has to be lower than OP's as she out earns him and he pays all bills etc out of his earnings, if he offered to pay for his parents holiday

Where did I say it didn’t matter?!

I just meant all the bills are paid, her money is for her luxuries.

Because his income is already spoken for paying for the household which she doesn't contribute to financially

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I admire your determination to be offended on behalf of the in-laws!

In your mind, if you can dismiss what I quoted, literally copy and pasted from the OP, go ahead. I wouldn't want to ruin your outrage and indignation.

Have a lovely day😂

I'd understand it more if you were struggling for money but you sound pretty well off. On the other hand, I don't think in-laws should assume a right to a free holiday. What does DH think? In your situation, I would either offer the villa for free, or discounted - half price maybe?

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Anyone not achieving that level of unselfishness should be ashamed of themselves and stop posting.

She owns the house they live in which is quite a large contribution actually.

Read the OP again.

The point was that have an issue with being seen as tight, and thus seem to think we’re all so averse to it. Nope.

A reputation for tightness works brilliantly for repelling those with a sense of entitlement to what you have. I highly recommend it.

OP earns more than her DH. She simply said her spending money comes out of her personal income.

I agree with you as you would in effect be paying for their holiday with the money you loose. However you sound like money is not an issue for you and if it would please your husband and he would make a similar concession to your parents if the shoe were on the other foot then I may reconsider. I would however suggest that if you do it once for a week without explaining this clearly then next year it could be 2 weeks or they will want some other family members to get the same treatment……..

The mortgage free house you mean? That she paid for?

Op hasn’t said he can’t cover it, but that he won’t.

Outrage/indignation? what the fuck you on about
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Have a lovely day.. 😂 in other words you couldn’t answer my question, could you? Interesting. 🤔

I’d still love to know what you think the OP meant on the post I quoted.

If I owned a villa by the sea that was an income stream damn right I would be “possessive” about it!!

The problem is, it wouldn’t be a one off either. If you give in to pressure one time they’ll want it year after year.

Surely it’s pretty reliable weather wise in May/September? Would you allow a week then, or do you count peak season as the whole summer May-Oct?

shame on you 😂😂

and if you have a hairdressing salon, you'd better take your MIL at peak times for free instead of taking care of a paying client!

if you own a restaurant, you'd better reserve the best table at your busiest time and give the full tasting menus to your in-laws for free instead of bothering about paying customers?

I could go on 😂

No, not all but it’s generally viewed as a negative.

I’ll bear it in mind should I ever become very wealthy and the filthy, vulture-like parents-in-law come knocking.