Family mocked in group chat- was i overreacting?

[AncientWasp]

At a wedding not long ago, my parents were there as were several of my friends. Few days later I was sitting near one of my friends and she was scrolling through a chat she has with 2 of our friends. I know it was wrong to look, but I was shocked to see 'Wasp's Mum' something about the dress she was wearing and 2 laughing emojis on the comment.
It moved too quickly to read the full comment properly but it was implied they were having a laugh at whatever my Mum was wearing.
I immediately said to my friend that I did not appreciate that, this was not ok. They don't know my Mum, this wasn't some friendly banter to her face, they were mocking her behind her back.
They don't have to like what she's wearing but I found that very catty. She apologised and said no harm was meant.
I decided to drop it and move on but I am put off this friend a little bit right now. Was I overreacting?

This would change the entire friendship for me.

Decent adults don't make fun of other people.
That type of banter is pretty pathetic.

You have new information about this person. I'd definitely rethink the friendship.

Yes you are quite correct - it was wrong to look.

But you have done it now so I guess you dump them and move on.

No offense meant? What does that mean? If you talk about someone behind their back and make fun of them then you absolutely mean to offend them. Leave the bitch.

Well done for sticking up for your mum.

These friends are two faced. I would go low contact.

Not an overreaction. Unless they were able to show me what was said and I was able to decipher it wasn’t anything horrible I.e something like “omg when Wasp’s mum did the can-can and her dress split 😂😂” where they were just talking about the funny parts of the day, I don’t think I’d be able to get past it either.

I am Gen X with Z and Alpha daughters and they would definitely call me out for commenting on someone else's appearance. In my experience they are far more respectful and inclusive than my peers were are still, in some cases

It is mean, cheap and unkind. I am wondering about the ages of the people involved @AncientWasp

The friend is 38 who made the comment

How horrible of them to mock your mum, it’s horrible to mock anyone - how rude and judgey are these so called friends. To top it all off your parents gave them a lift too. They’re really rude and I would be going low contact with them.

Common being the operative word eh?

Your 'friends' are mean people, seriously find new friends....I would hazard a guess that this is rooted in jealousy.
They're jealous of you, your family / your relationship with your mum / how fabulous she is etc. These things always stem from jealousy.
Life's too short to spend time with people who mock other people.

Yeah, I couldn't get past that. She accepted a lift too then mocked your mum in a private chat..

She is a bitch.

Bin them off. Honestly, they’re not getting any nicer and you’ll be better off without them rather than ever wondering if they’re slagging you off behind your back.

What kind of friends? Old school friends or work mates?

Either way they sound.... simple. I'd reconsider being friends as that must be the level they engage with life and I'd find it just too basic.

I'd also say that they don't respect you if they don't mind slagging your mum off.

You could say, ‘phew, I don’t feel so bad for you now about the awful things people were saying behind your backs about how you and X looked’.

Nah, not really. It was cheap. Very cheap. After getting a lift, they can’t even appreciate or show a bit of decency. I wouldn’t ever be going out of my way for them again.

That must have been so hurtful. Far more hurtful than if she'd been catty about you. Because it's your Mum. ☹️

Doesn't seem like she's much of a friend tbh.

Bollocks, so why didn't she say it directly to your mum then if it's all so normal? She's vile. Don't let her convince you otherwise. She'll be one of those twats who says she's straight talking but never says anything to anybody's face.
Which is pretty much anyone who claims to be straight talking.

I’d fall out with her straight away.

I wouldn’t want to be friends with anyone who was bitching about what someone wore anyway but my friend mocking my mum would absolutely cross the line.

Or kept her gob shut altogether.

I'm a millennial. People my age could be nasty about their own peers when teens, never about the older generation though. We were raised to have respect for elders, would never dare say a cross word to or about someone's mum.

Does it excuse the behaviour depending on what she was wearing?

if any of my friends did this, I’d be so upset. Though I don’t think they would!

She's no friend. Awful and zero class.

It's not about having a sense of humour!

if someone nicked my Mu they could go to hell & stay there. Her & the other bitch.

I would have thought that friends instinctively don’t mock someone’s parent.