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Four kids tuned up

257 replies

Boymum776 · Yesterday 22:33

My son is in Reception, and he’s one of the youngest in the year. We invited his whole class to his birthday party through the class WhatsApp group. There are 30 children in the class. This year I’ve taken my son to pretty much every class party we’ve been invited to, or at least every one we were able to attend. I’ve made an effort to chat to the other parents too, even though a lot of them already know each other because their children all went to the same nursery.

Four children turned up to my son’s party. The venue had a minimum of 12 children, so I still had to pay for 12 places. It’s not even just about the money, it’s seeing your child so excited for their birthday and then watching hardly anyone come. I’m just so angry and disappointed. It honestly feels like a parent popularity contest rather than people thinking about the children. They’re only five years old. At this age, birthdays should be about making kids feel included and celebrated, not about who the parents already know. I feel like writing a bit fuck you in the class chat, obviously I won’t… but HOW do I get over the anger when I have to see these people 5 days a week!

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BirthdayTrash · Today 18:06

godblessmeitssummah · Today 17:50

What’s a nursery parent? I have two children in reception and year 4 and never heard of this

Presumably a parent whose child went to the same nursery as another parent.

The nursery version of a “school mum/dad”

Mama2many73 · Today 18:12

Not the way we were brought up.and not what I'd expect . If we were invited to a party and we didn't have anything important on, we went. I feel its the polite thing to do. And our kids did too.
When I see posts like this on here /fb my heart goes out to the kid. I hope your son had a great time anyway ( I think as parents we take it much harder).

nutbrownhare15 · Today 18:29

I'm sorry that so few showed up. It's a really busy time of year. I would suggest having a party WhatsApp for those that reply to the invitation confirming the details and also sending a reminder the day before. In theory you shouldn't need to do this but it does add in accountability for their positive response plus reminds any who might forget.

nutbrownhare15 · Today 18:30

godblessmeitssummah · Today 17:50

What’s a nursery parent? I have two children in reception and year 4 and never heard of this

Presumably it's parents who know each other from nursery

pouletvous · Today 18:45

Didn’t you send a reminder the day or two days before?

DontBuyAnotherBook · Today 18:56

pouletvous · Today 18:45

Didn’t you send a reminder the day or two days before?

You shouldn't need to send a reminder!

godblessmeitssummah · Today 18:59

DontBuyAnotherBook · Today 18:56

You shouldn't need to send a reminder!

Well maybe we shouldn’t, but that’s life.

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