To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

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I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

If it was my good friend I would just call them and ask if there was i issue with my menus and food?? Does she eat a lot when there, does she have a gastro problem you dont know about? Do yoh serve rich food? I dont think its a dig unless there is more context, I would call and offer to do a lighter menu if she struggles with your food??

I think it depends on the strength of your friendship. If my bff did that then it'd be a very different response to if the friend wasn't particularly close. Sounds to me like your pal isn't a close one, because her response is a bit rude and snooty, also bullsht. If they genuinely were ill after the last time, and you and DH were fine, then I suspect it was either a bug they already had in their system or they had something before/after being in your company. It's got fck all to do with ingredients being bought from shops they don't use, unless you live in a different country where tap water is a no-no. I suspect not. Her response is snotty and she's clearly been caught out and feeling like the unapologetic tw@t she is.

I’d arrange to go out and tell your husband that as he has decided to be a disloyal twat he can get on with it.

Not read the whole thread, but Pepto Bismol isn't for symptoms caused by bad food, or food poisoning, it's marketed as relieving symptoms "due to overindulgence in food and drink".

It's a bit insensitive and I'm sure she'll be embarrassed to have sent it to you, but she's not saying your food and drink are bad or that you're a bad host, just that she'll probably be unable to avoid being tempted to overindulge. That's a compliment of a kind, in my book!

ETA: read more of the OP's follow up posts now and completely changed my mind. What a cheek. She can piss right off. Invite someone else instead!

Beginning to think the OP’s posts are invisible on some apps.

Yes she is.

If you read the whole thread you'd know what she came back with. It's not "overindulgence".

Agree with this.

You'd call her even though she didn't actually tell you? That's pretty thick-skinned of you.

Personally, and despite not - IMO - being overly sensitive, I would react very differently if someone said something to me (I'd be glad they'd told me and would try to find a way to fix the problem) compared to discovering that they had some kind of running joke going on with a friend/friends about my sh1t cooking (I'd be really offended).

I'm a little sceptical that some posters don't see why that's not the same thing.

Talk about a dramatic overreaction. So many people are way too over emotional. I would have took it as too much good food & alcohol. Unless you think you’re a bad cook & host, why would you take it as a negative. Stop being so dramatic and enjoy the time with your friend & her husband.

It's remarkable. In the time it took for them to type out their pointless response since the thread has moved on they could have clicked to read all OP's posts at the very least.

OP, book a spa day for Saturday c/w an overnight stay and let him get on with it.

Hopefully you can see my update now. I've left my post up as a warning to others to read the thread. I'm afraid the way the site handles quotes makes your post look a bit daft, as it seems to have updated the quote of my post when I edited it even though presumably you had never seen the edit when you posted!

It’s called not being over sensitive, if she was unhappy to come due to bad cooking, she would make an excuse. Since she hasn’t, why would you be upset. People really need to stop being so petty & emotional over something so irrelevant. Your all grown ups, so act like one

I’d have them over and put a big bottle by her plate telling her isn’t that what you wanted.

I would find that very insulting if I received the message. Yes uninvited her.....it's not going to be a pleasant evening with that hanging over you all.

Maybe she was going so she could report back again to the other "friend" about "Guess what she made this time, ha ha!"

Or maybe the husband -as suggested - gets on well with the OP's husband, so he's the one who wanted to go, and she was just being nice to her husband.

She doesn't sound like much of a friend

And your DH should be more supportive of you. Personally I wouldn't host for a couple like that again. Her messages were patronising and rude.

“You are welcome to cook if you prefer and we will come to you. Looking forward to it!”

Tell him to watch the bloody match at their gaff then! As his stomach’s so delicate, it might be for the best anyway…
Honestly though, I would have interpreted the original text as bitchy and the follow up as a pathetic attempt at damage limitation. Why should you have to put up with your Saturday night being ruined because of the rudeness of these so called friends and your partner’s prioritising his wants over you.

My husband would get a should bloody shrift. Guests are a ‘2 yes’ situation. You don’t want them so they don’t come. ‘For the women to sort out’! What a dick

If you like her and you think catty behaviour is unlike her, then I’d be very open and make a joke of it during dinner, just to break the ice and take the higher ground. If your instinct tells you that she’s capable of being two-faced, if not totally intentionally, then cancel - you won’t even need an explanation.

Ignore my post above - I’m guilty of not reading whole thread. Having read more, I’d tell her to FO.

So she'll need immodium as well... 😁

Don’t feel guilty .. that’s an insult …

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