To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

[Dinnertext]

I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

I'm cringeing even more at her "explanation"
She's rude! I would have been absolutely mortified in her position, not retaliating.

The person she thought she was texting has obviously been privvy to her gossiping about you before.
You don't send that sort of text unless it's a continuation of things said already.

I'd be fuming.

I'd try not to take it to heart..If you enjoy her company you could maybe mention it when she's round at yours after a wee drink. Probably not worth getting your knickers in a knot over it..We all make mistakes.

What a snobby cow.

dod you get an invite to theirs inbetween?

As a woman in her 40s antacids are a daily pattern of life now. Thats why I dont see if as offensive.

Even when someone pointed out that you missed an update, you posted again having completely ignored the subsequent updates

Maybe OP is not a good cook? Not everyone is a good cook, it’s not the worst insult ever. I have a lovely friend who is an awful cook but thinks she great. She also desparately tries to get us over to cook for us, as she thinks she’s really good. Bless her, I just deflect and arrange to eat out, or go to the pub.
It does get a bit tiresome though.

I didnt ignore the updates just the I wouldn't initially see it as rude.

Disparaging the food you prepared specially for them to others, is offensive and the height of bad manners.

‘You may consider yourself a top rated food critic, worthy enough to pass your derogatory and bitchy remarks on to others, but your manners are clearly in the gutter. So for that reason, thank you all the same, but your counter offer isn’t as appealing as you seem to think it is. We have now made other plans but do enjoy your olives. Bon appetit! ‘

Don't offer food. You and DH eat earlier, put out crisps and that is it. Don't mention food.

Tbh I'd have uninvited and if I really wanted to see them either suggest her and your DHs meet up and I would stay home. Or you all meet at a pub and can eat if you want.

She would not be welcome at mine again.

Of course it’s bloody rude, what part of mocking somebody’s hospitality behind their back cannot be seen as rude . Laughing about it with someone else and then not offering an apology when got caught out . If she had a genuine concern, she should have told you kindly.

The only mistake was in sending the text to the wrong person. Everything else was intentional. Why bother with “friends” like that.

I call BS on her and her DHs upset stomach op. How nice of her to be too polite to tell you. Does she think she is financially better off than you? Her loss, she wouldn't come if she didnt enjoy your company. I suggest leave the men to it. You will be otherwise occupied meal prepping for the week or prepping your regular cake stall donations. She can sit at home alone and fume, at herself. If you wanted to ne a bitch offer to drop her DH home so he can get plastered with your DH. I bet the men eat with you if not at the pub.. put of interest what level of effort does she put in when reciprocating?. An apology would not go amiss either.

There's that and there's accusing someone of giving them food poisoning. I do hope they took stool.samples to the drs.

I think she was rude and hurtful. I can't imagine your ingredients are much different to anone else's, she could have said before that, much as she likes it, she cannot digest some rich food easily and make a suggestion of less of something. Or else suck it up, it wouldn't kill her.

she felt too polite to mention and to decline the invite

But she wasn’t too polite to bitch to another friend about it was she?! Does she ever invite you to hers? I would not be hosting her on Saturday, or at any other time.

Never again would she set foot over my threshold.

Well the awkward ship has well and truly sailed.

tell h to host it himself then!

seriously, she’s awful, she’s NOT your friend. H can go for a drink with the H, but you’re better than this

how dare she!

Anyone, not 'anone'.

I like many others on here would be telling her where she can stick her olives

I thought that she was referring to over indulging until I saw her reply. She was being mean. I’d avoid her, she sounds awful. She’s obviously telling other people your food isn’t good enough for her because of where you shop. What an absolute load of rubbish.

If it was one of my friends I’d just say,”Oy what’s wrong with my food.” Laugh about it and genuinely ask if it’s been upsetting her. We are friends

I’m in my 50s and really can’t eat late/heavy. I’ve been on antacids since my almost 21yo was born.

I would suggest going out, earlier, so I can have half a chance of eating what I liked and what wouldn’t keep me up all night. I would not be so rude as to comment about the food to a third party.

that was a bitchy dig by the guest bitch and you know this.

@Dinnertext really should cancel.

I bet the food bitching is not even the half of it.

when caught out, this woman hasn’t even apologised, she’s justified and doubled down.

I also like how she described herself as too polite to tell you. Not that she didn’t want to cause you any upset. Your feelings aren’t even considered.

That is exactly how I would respond. DH can run his own friendship with the other H. I would have nothing to do with them from now on.