AIBU with my reaction to DP’s humiliating TikTok?

[Weeks76]

I have had 4 different friends message me today to say they saw a video which included my partner on TikTok. There’s a local account which always posts videos of interviews with the public and businesses particularly people on nights out and drunk. DP watched the England game in a bar so was out really late, and was interviewed on the street after. Everyone was really jubilant, the person filming asked him “after such a long night, do you have anything left in the tank” and he replied “that’s for me to know and the missus to find out when I’m home” to a load of laughter.

I was asleep with our DS and up early so I obviously wasn’t waiting up for him. I’ve told him I don’t see the funny side and he has just said he was absolutely plastered, really buzzing after the match and got carried away so I should just laugh it off. Am I wrong to still find it offensive?

Lighten up OP. It was quite funny.

I hate bloke banter but I honestly cant see a problem with this.
I would have had a laugh with the people messaging and replied ' well I found out when he got back!!!" or something daft.

Were these people close friends or trying to stir the pot or embarrass you?

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!
Say what? 😆 🤣 😂
No one is going to think that and I'm having a wild guess here but seeing he is your dh they are going to know you have a shag now and then.
' no pants dance" is way more cringe than a drunken comment. You have wrote that sober, I presume!

I'd say to him everyone gets one free pass for stupidity and he's had his.

He had a few drinks and made a silly comment - its not a big deal. He didnt say "i'm going home to shag me wife"

I’d roll my eyes , call my husband a plonker and leave it at that .
( we are old now and we don’t drink so husband is never going to be interviewed when he’s drunk these days )

You are not wrong to still find it offensive. Absolutely your call to feel how you feel about this.

However I think your partner meant no harm to you from what you have written here: You did quote him as saying he replied “that’s for me to know and the missus to find out when I’m home" which I read as he gave a response that tells the interviewer that he thinks it is a private matter too.

Others may not agree with me and that's fine.

You're the weird one here, with the 'no pants dance' (vom). No one is imagining you two having sex after hearing his comment, jesus.

It was a benign joke. Not especially clever and not especially funny, but hardly offensive or a big deal.

It’s pretty funny.

It’s a compliment. And funny.

Humiliating? Which bit? i see a bit of a lame joke at worse

I see absolutely nothing wrong with what he said. He basically said it's none of your business in a jokey way.

You saying "no pants dance" is far worse than anything he said 😭

THIS!!!

My DH is not the type to joke in this particular way but it's obviously tongue in cheek & a funny harmless quip. He sounds very quick witted & couldn't have been that drunk to blurt out this reply. At least he had his wife in mind 😂

Oh for god's sake, grow up.

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

I'm fairly sure your friends already know you have sex, and if you think they're picturing it happening based on a joke your husband made, you have an incredibly inflated notion of your importance in other people's lives.

They saw a joke on TikTok, laughed and then moved on, because nobody is anywhere near as invested in this as you seem to imagine.

Maybe not tbe most tactful of statements but hardly a relationship wrecker. . And if he's apologised then you either accept it or you don't. No good holding a grudge..either put up or shut up !

I would of laughed and found it funny. Harmless joke!