Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

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I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

So text him to bring you some water?

I find it difficult to understand how in such a heat and with no drinkable tap water, you were so low stocked…

Hardly a passtime requiring peak fitness levels 😂

Or, alternatively - in a normal world a normal human being who is weak, ill, distressed and unsure if she's in the wrong or not asks if she is in the right to be disappointed in her husband's behavior, and people answer that no, of course not.

Not the MN thing of 'what did you expect/ why didn't you speak up for yourself/ why aren't you following American health system advice/ why didn't you sleep on a towel in the bathroom/ what do you mean you were sick in a bin, who does that/have you every thought he might be tired/ in the time you posted this you could have boiled a kettle/ etc etc

So yeh, I agree with you, MN folk are crazy 🤣

I’m the same as pp. I have carpet in the bedroom so wouldn't risk bring sick in there. Also the smell of vomit next to bed would stop me from sleeping . I hope you feel better soon though.

Because not everywhere is like where you live

We lived abroad until very recently (albeit somewhere where you could drink the tapwater) but mainland Europe.

There was no such thing as a supermarket delivery in the first place, let alone any sort of app for same day delivery.

Even if there had been, the supermarkets stocked mainly food - not painkillers or electrolyte sachets. These would have to come from a pharmacy (no delivery possible) and they would be closed between 12 and 2.

Hope you're feeling better soon OP.

I also find it odd you live somewhere you can't drink the water but only have 3 x 1.5 litre bottles at home. Seems a bit irresponsible on both your parts. What if you were both ill? What if something happened and you couldn't get to the shops/they were closed/there weren't any deliveries? If you have coffee/green tea presumably you do have drinks anyway.

I he had asked if you wanted anything before he let would three have been time for him to fetch water/set up a delivery?

You are obviously lucky enough to have never been so ill that just getting out of bed makes you vomit instantly. You sound very hard and unsympathetic.

A sick bucket! And it was full sounds revolting!
If you are able to post on here then you are able to get some water for yourself (and empty the sick bucket!)

That wouldn't help with diarrhoea

If you had 5 litres of water 24 hours ago I imagine he never would have considered it would be close to gone now.
It’s annoying you don’t have any, it doesn’t sound like it’s reasonable for him to assume you had already consumed so much, if you can post on MN all morning I’m sure ordering wasn’t a big deal.

If you have time to be on mumsnet and could get a delivery could you not get fresh water from the sun by building a DIY solar still.
You just need to place a container of dirty or salty water in a hole, cover it with clear plastic, and weigh the center down with a rock. The sun evaporates the water, leaving contaminants behind, and fresh drops condense on the plastic and drip into a cup.

Also I hope you're feeling better soon, and I don't know anyone that would sleep on the bathroom floor rather than their bed

@ClawsandEffect

i drink the water most places, including Spain, in small towns, from wells … no issues. I drank the filtered water in India even, though I admit not the standard tap water, though I did in Sri Lanka by accident without ill effects

Sounds horrendous. Especially the bin full of sick bit. If I was puking, I’d stay close to the loo.

Pretty shitty of your husband to not make sure you have everything you need. Mine would do it automatically.

That's a bit harsh, I have a medical condition that means I can wake up with no sense of balance so cant easily get myself to the toilet and when it happens am sick as I wake up...I keep a collapsible bucket between bed and cabinet just in case.
It might be normal for you to be sick in the toilet but some of us don't get the choice.

If my DH had gone to work without checking in on me in the morning, if only to see I hadn’t choked to death on my own vomit during the night, I would be furious !

How nice for you that you're able to do that.

I can't do that, for one thing the bathroom is entirely the wrong shape and for another, I can't get off the floor, I'd sublux a hip, get a pressure sore that would take months to heal and cause myself even more pain.

Funnily enough - we're not all the same. If I am poorly (with gallstones usually) I am in bed with a sick bucket and water to hand and need help to the bathroom. This would still be the case if I were not disabled, because gall stone attacks like kidney stones, are agonisingly painful and cause you to vomit and shit without warning. I have bottles of oromorph to hand 'just in case' - they don't hand that out for shits and giggles!

Good grief, this thread is a horrendous read! What is wrong with everybody! Its like bingo for the absolute worst of humanity - I genuinely cannot believe some of the replies on here are from actual human beings.

OP, hopefully you've managed to source some water by now, but if not, is there anyone local you know who could help? A friend or a colleague?

As somebody who had a kidney stone removed three weeks ago and had a stent inserted, I totally understand the vomiting. While I was waiting in A&E , the triage nurse gave me a sick bag. It was horrific. Do you need to go to the hospital because if left untreated you can get sepsis. Some stones are to big to pass.

Not unreasonable at all. Hope you feel better soon

Thats nasty.

People get so ill that they cant make it to the toilet. Hope you never experience that.

OP has kidney stones, you drink as much water as you can to flush them out. It's recommended three litres a day.

Well ita not he didn't leave you any water.

How is he supposed to know you drank everything unless you said to him?

But surely you’d immediately empty the bucket down the loo? Otherwise it would stink.

Iced tea is your friend here OP. Hope you feel better soon.