To call off girl’s holiday on the day?

[whereismyhisband]

I’m due to go on a girl’s holiday for a week with a friend, an all inclusive to Cape Verde.

This friend had warned me that she’s somewhat of an anxious traveller, but that it would be fine.

Our flight is at 4:45pm. Our airline has said be there a maximum of three hours early.

The airport is half an hour from my house and my job is 15 minutes in the other direction from my job.

I am working until 12, so that I only needed to take a half day of leave.

She has been texting me since 6am asking if I’m sure I want to work today, and asking if we should leave for the airport at 10! I can’t deal with this today, I have a lot to do before I finish at work and don’t see the need for it. I’ve never traveled with her before and to be honest if I’d known she was like this I’d not have booked it. AIBU to just not go?

It's not a normal or healthy reaction to bitch this much about an alleged friend on a chat forum either but here we are.

There's 7 of us i have really bad anxiety we still only aim to be there 2 hours before boarding 😅 I get super stressed out my partner basically tells me to get a grip and sort myself out , once i calm myself down it goes much smoother me losing my shit actually slows things down and makes it 10x harder ( who would of guessed 🙃)
I thought you were a shit friend but the more ive read i wouldn't blame you for cancelling tbh !

£800 pounds is v cheap for a holiday to Cape Verde (that just happens to have had a lot of publicity due to the World Cup).

I had a look earlier, and if they are sharing a room then it's totally feasible.

Example below

Be more understanding if you travel more than her .
You cant just say im not going now thats an over reaction aswell.

I’m quite a tough person and friend and hate faffers but my god.. she’s better off going without you, the way you are speaking about her is horrid!

This is hilarious. I can understand some of your friend's concern now 😂

I'm glad you made it there in good time. Your friend's anxiety around the flight does sound next level and rather irritating. Unless you have an absolutely fabulous time on holiday together that makes the pre-flight anxiety worth ensuring, I'd just take this as a lesson learned to pick a new holiday pal next time. You're clearly not well-suited travel buddies!

I would add though that some of my family missed a flight from a London airport in summer 2023 (can't recall which now) because there was an issue with the tech at security, so despite arriving around 4 hours before their flight (they had a 4 hour drive to the airport so had to factor in potential traffic, but the drive ended up being a breeze so they were super early) they still missed their flight because security couldn't process everyone in time. So whilst I'm sure it's rare, shit happens.

This sounds like a threat. It will create an awkward atmosphere.

Op, why not just tell her to relax, there’s plenty of time. You would see her at gate at x amount and if she is really feeling anxious she can leave as early as she likes but you will leave work but before 12pm.

She's already gone.

Well, if she is no longer your friend then cancel it. Anyway, your intolerant attitude will ruin this holiday.

And she’s feeling strong.

Sorry. I am in US at the moment. So lost complete sense of UK time ☺️

Sorry, I didn't realise!

I don't know about strong, but she will be feeling knackered with the busy day she's had.

You make it sound like she’s chosen to respond to the situation like this. That’s not how anxiety works. I’m glad you haven’t experienced it but have some empathy for those whose life experience is different from your own.

Do people like this not have any empathy for the people they are demanding change their plans and behaviours for? Because of their issues?

Well said.

Am I the only one tracking the flight?

I’m sorry, got caught up in Eagles lyrics.

😆No. Tragic, aren't we?

Probably because I highly doubt the op and "friend" are on it.

I just find it’s more fun to believe most OPs. It costs me nothing and increases my entertainment. I’m still devastated over rainy puddles. Other people ruin everything.

What are the Eagles lyrics?

Already Gone.

It’s not “She’s already gone” but “I’m already gone”. But listen, I have to keep myself entertained until OP lands and posts an update.

'Cause I'm already gone
And I'm feelin' strong
I will sing this victory song
Woo-hoo-hoo, my, my, woo-hoo-hoo