To call off girl’s holiday on the day?

[whereismyhisband]

I’m due to go on a girl’s holiday for a week with a friend, an all inclusive to Cape Verde.

This friend had warned me that she’s somewhat of an anxious traveller, but that it would be fine.

Our flight is at 4:45pm. Our airline has said be there a maximum of three hours early.

The airport is half an hour from my house and my job is 15 minutes in the other direction from my job.

I am working until 12, so that I only needed to take a half day of leave.

She has been texting me since 6am asking if I’m sure I want to work today, and asking if we should leave for the airport at 10! I can’t deal with this today, I have a lot to do before I finish at work and don’t see the need for it. I’ve never traveled with her before and to be honest if I’d known she was like this I’d not have booked it. AIBU to just not go?

So your half day is only 2.5 hours (10.30am til 12pm), of which you spent your time reading 100 messages and 15 mins chatting to your friend.

You finished at 12pm, 15 mins drive home, were all showered by 12.04pm and then left and did the 30 min drive to the airport where it then took you just 7 minutes to park, get to the terminal and check your bag in...

Is this a reverse and you're the super nervous person who has been at the airport since 7am???

You are projecting
You have no idea if OPs friend has a phobia
Being anxious about missing a flight isn’t a phobia

Yes I think arriving any earlier than 1pm was pretty impossible unless the OP bunked off early.

I think she might have thought OP was her friend.

She was certainly wrong about that.

Why on earth are you going with someone like this? Is she going to be like this during the holiday. The obvious option is that you say you are busy at work and you will either meet her there or she can come with you a bit later. That is it!

OP sounds very unkind, but if she wants to lose a friend, then sure, cancel at the last minute becasue her friend gets in a flap about the airport. She doesn't have to go along with it.

Just catching up - shame was really hoping the flight would be delayed so that OP could self-combust with anger. Anyone tracking the flight? What time is touchdown?

Travel anxiety is real, yes, but no one has the right to inflict their anxiety on anyone else and ask them to change their work.

Being annoyed about receiving over 100 messages and a 15 minute call before you start work is NOT an overreaction.

Just say you don’t like her.

Also, that you don’t understand anxiety.

That would be quicker.

Question is, if you were so busy you just can’t deal with it, why waste time posting on MN about it?

The poll results are speaking for themselves with this one.

After being incredibly busy “at work” for 2 hours but still managing to reply 15 times.🤔

Fucks sake is it not real?

🤔

Given your background with severe mental illness you should recognise the difference between safety seeking behaviours when feeling utterly out of control and overwhelmed and self indulgence and histrionics

Tbh I'd be wary of 100 messages, is she going to act like this over every thing abroad if she's anxious? Plus asking you to leave work.

I agree you lose a week of "relaxing" and extra money if you go along with it. Beware the sunk cost fallacy.

I say I'm an "anxious traveller"

What I mean is I turn up (alone) early, I check I haven't lost my passport about 566 times. I plan my route and what I'm going to eat the first night.

I don't expect others to adjust their schedules for my emotions!

I've sometimes tended to be a bit of a magnet for socially awkward people who needed someone to be their "safe space".

It's absolute hell. No one else wants to go with them and you see why.

And if you follow through with one social plan with them (where you've been both their carer AND been dominated by them) they then hyperfixate on you as their " Social Friend" who is committed to them.

😆 🤣

No-one with that level of anxiety would travel to CV now. Shigella, anyone?

Also. I didn't know BHX had its own time zone...

You are massively overreacting. And honestly don't sound very nice.

You sound like such an awful person.

You don’t need to “indulge” in her anxiety but fuck me, you could try and be understanding. It is an illness. It is of course ridiculous, but people with serious anxiety can’t help it.

I hope she finds this thread and realises you aren’t a real friend and drops you.

Plane currently over the Bay of Biscay, scheduled arrival at 9.50pm UK time.

I’ll go and happy to be there anytime she would like. Which airport?

I'm sure op will parachute down and arrive early

You are a delight.

You are not a friend.
You are selfish and mean.