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AIBU to think King Charles comes across as a really crap dad?

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mintleavesandthyme · 06/07/2026 16:00

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c77yykl87yno

I mean really, this is just pathetic. No one is believing that KC couldn’t find a spare bed for his son. AIBU to think that as the parent KC needs to get a grip and grow up instead of just fuelling the drama?

Headshot of Prince Harry in a blue suit, white shirt, and dark green tie looking off-camera in a room with several men in suits out of focus in the background,

Buckingham Palace says Prince Harry will not stay at palace

Royal sources say the Duke of Sussex had not responded to the offer of accommodation at a Royal residence by the deadline last week.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c77yykl87yno

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Pipsquiggle · 06/07/2026 17:59

Honestly, H&M don't care about the UK.

This leak of 'KC won't let us stay in his palace' is not for the UK.
It is to feed the narrative in the US for their fans and to perpetuate the 'victim' card that they like to play.
Anyone with half a brain cell knows that you can't just schlep up to Buckingham Palace without some degree of notice.
Apparently they asked him to respond by a certain date. He didn't. This is what happens 🙄

KittyHigham · 06/07/2026 18:00

ThatCyanCat · 06/07/2026 17:48

On a point of fact, the Met provides security here for royals of UK domicile. I don't think that's unreasonable given the royals are considered to be civil servants of a kind, and an attack on any of them could be very harmful to bystanders too. They're part of the British institution so in that sense it's like the Met providing security for a famous London landmark. I know as a republican that won't sit well with you, but it makes sense and is consistent; if we do have a royal family, rightly or wrongly, they will need security.

Harry gave that up when he ceased being of UK domicile (how the hell is the Met supposed to cover him in America?). Maybe it applies when he's back here, I don't know, but I can certainly see why it would require notice if so.

Only working Royals get funded protection and only when doing Royal duties. The King, Queen and the Wales are the exception. They get round the clock protection.
The York sisters lost their funded security protection in 2011. They maybe princesses but they're not working royal family.

BigWillyLittleTodger · 06/07/2026 18:01

The bottom line is Harry could have flown in with his family, spent time with KC and no one would be any the wiser, he has created this utter shit show by announcing his every fart to the media, this could have been a completely private visit but that was never his intention, he thrives on the drama and being a victim.

HelenaWilson · 06/07/2026 18:02

If I was KC, I'd have offered Harry a bedroom at Clarence House

If I was Camilla, I wouldn't have Harry in my house, given the things he's said and written about her.

Anyway, aren't they in Scotland at the moment?

BrandiedAromatics · 06/07/2026 18:02

As I understand it the point is that the official Royal protection includes guns. If Harry brings his own security they are not allowed to carry guns.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 06/07/2026 18:03

Harry has lost in the court of appeal about this in May last year. I’m not sure it is on going. The newspaper case is. Harry is just spoilt and entitled. He could see his father without all this leaking and fuss.

waterrat · 06/07/2026 18:04

Charles could have got on a plane to meet his grandkids - he only has two sons and two sets of grandkids. It's absolutely tragic to allow any family row - with a son harry clearly desperate for some sort of reunion - to carry on.

I think the modern 'cutting people off' is so sad. Families need to get on DESPITE disagreements, not only if they can all get along

I think charles seems toxic and harry seems very very desperate to bring his grandkids over to meet him.

MrsShawnHatosy · 06/07/2026 18:04

He wasn’t well fathered or mothered himself so what do you expect?

the80sweregreat · 06/07/2026 18:07

Harry decided to dish the dirt on his family knowing that they couldn’t defend themselves. He only has himself to blame for a lot of this.

mintleavesandthyme · 06/07/2026 18:08

the80sweregreat · 06/07/2026 17:46

Yep, they are!

Totally

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FenellaFeldman · 06/07/2026 18:08

waterrat · 06/07/2026 18:04

Charles could have got on a plane to meet his grandkids - he only has two sons and two sets of grandkids. It's absolutely tragic to allow any family row - with a son harry clearly desperate for some sort of reunion - to carry on.

I think the modern 'cutting people off' is so sad. Families need to get on DESPITE disagreements, not only if they can all get along

I think charles seems toxic and harry seems very very desperate to bring his grandkids over to meet him.

So desperate that he's not done so since 2022?
Harry has no job, plenty of time and plenty of money. He's also 30 odd years younger and in better health.
Maybe he should have got a plane to take Archie and Lilibet to see Grandpa?

IcedPurple · 06/07/2026 18:08

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 06/07/2026 17:59

no it’s not just a case of changing the sheets, because that’s not where Charles lives - he pointedly didn’t offer a room in his own home.

But a room was possible to make available to harry. The King surely would not have offered if it was never possible to make good on that offer. The arrangements - however extensive they were, should have been made assuming it was a “yes” from Harry from the point the offer was made. Even if he then turned it down. The Palace should have prepared for the visit they offered. And as they knew harry was over for the court case, they knew the dates, this isn’t something they couldn’t do, it’s something they didn’t do.

It’s an own goal, it’s a gift to Harry’s claim of being a victim. It’s wasted all the effort the palace PR have done to reframe the story to being Harry throwing a tantrum, Charles not being to blame.

But a room was possible to make available to harry. The King surely would not have offered if it was never possible to make good on that offer. The arrangements - however extensive they were, should have been made assuming it was a “yes” from Harry from the point the offer was made. Even if he then turned it down. The Palace should have prepared for the visit they offered. And as they knew harry was over for the court case, they knew the dates, this isn’t something they couldn’t do, it’s something they didn’t do.

Come on, that's ridiculous and you must know it.

You're saying the King should have organised security staff, cleaners, caterers, drivers, furniture movers etc, all of whom will need to be paid and rostered, for a visit which might not even happen? You're saying a 41 year old man is incapable of making basic plans for a trip he knew he was making months ago? Harry is basically unemployed. Why on earth could he not respond to an invitation on time?

And you must also know that it's a little bit more than 'making a room available'. As has been explained many times already, Harry would be travelling with an entourage, who would have to get security clearance before being allowed to stay in the official residence of the King.

Harry's a grown man which children of his own. Long past time for being coddled and indulged.

mintleavesandthyme · 06/07/2026 18:09

waterrat · 06/07/2026 18:04

Charles could have got on a plane to meet his grandkids - he only has two sons and two sets of grandkids. It's absolutely tragic to allow any family row - with a son harry clearly desperate for some sort of reunion - to carry on.

I think the modern 'cutting people off' is so sad. Families need to get on DESPITE disagreements, not only if they can all get along

I think charles seems toxic and harry seems very very desperate to bring his grandkids over to meet him.

Yes this is my read on it too

I think the rest of the world are enjoying the drama of media that show how fucked up the family is

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Additup · 06/07/2026 18:09

Tbf the Charles, if one of my children had written a tell all memoir portraying our family in a bad light I wouldn't be very welcoming either.

IcedPurple · 06/07/2026 18:10

waterrat · 06/07/2026 18:04

Charles could have got on a plane to meet his grandkids - he only has two sons and two sets of grandkids. It's absolutely tragic to allow any family row - with a son harry clearly desperate for some sort of reunion - to carry on.

I think the modern 'cutting people off' is so sad. Families need to get on DESPITE disagreements, not only if they can all get along

I think charles seems toxic and harry seems very very desperate to bring his grandkids over to meet him.

Charles is a Head of State. It's not as simple as 'getting on a plane'.

By contrast, Harry is a relatively young man who seems to do pretty much nothing from one day to the next. Why couldn't he 'get on a plane'? Doesn't sound 'very very desperate' to me. I think you're one of the few who has fallen for the emotional manipulation Harry has been attempting to engineer these past few weeks.

Passingthrough123 · 06/07/2026 18:10

He's not a crap dad, but he is the King and when you're the Monarch, as Queen Elizabeth II demonstrated time and time again, there are many occasions were duty and protocol has to eclipse everything, including your children. This is one of those times.

(PS. Harry is a spoiled brat and I don't want a single penny of my taxes being spent on him.)

mintleavesandthyme · 06/07/2026 18:12

Passingthrough123 · 06/07/2026 18:10

He's not a crap dad, but he is the King and when you're the Monarch, as Queen Elizabeth II demonstrated time and time again, there are many occasions were duty and protocol has to eclipse everything, including your children. This is one of those times.

(PS. Harry is a spoiled brat and I don't want a single penny of my taxes being spent on him.)

You’re quite happy with £200million going to the king so he can live in luxury though?

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icingonmycupcake · 06/07/2026 18:13

Charles is a coddled man-baby. They don't usually make great parents.

Booboobagins · 06/07/2026 18:13

How short memories are. Harry and Megan outshown Wills and Kate 10 fold until WKs team got on the offensive. Now there's a rift not least due to racism and it's Harry and Megan's fault!

Seriously, this was contrived. KC should seek to heal the rife. He's the head of the family, that's his job. End of.

So YANBU @mintleavesandthyme

Autumngirl5 · 06/07/2026 18:13

Harry was offered accommodation in Buckingham Palace but he did not accept.
He is a man child who loves to cause endless drama. This is all of his own making and I feel sorry for the king.

BigWillyLittleTodger · 06/07/2026 18:13

waterrat · 06/07/2026 18:04

Charles could have got on a plane to meet his grandkids - he only has two sons and two sets of grandkids. It's absolutely tragic to allow any family row - with a son harry clearly desperate for some sort of reunion - to carry on.

I think the modern 'cutting people off' is so sad. Families need to get on DESPITE disagreements, not only if they can all get along

I think charles seems toxic and harry seems very very desperate to bring his grandkids over to meet him.

You do realise KC is Head of State don’t you? He can’t just hop on an EasyJet and fly to Montecito, can you imagine the security and logistics? His diary is planned months if not years in advance, plus he is sick and elderly, his son is jobless, he could come over anytime under the radar to see his father, he chooses not to.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 06/07/2026 18:14

Charles is toxic? Yes, made mistakes but look at “Spare”! He won’t be expecting Camilla to be anywhere near Harry or William and Kate. Harry has been the architect of this. He’s completely manipulating the situation and nothing he says is true.

lifetheuniverse · 06/07/2026 18:14

He has cancer and is still havng treatment - why should he go running around after his fit and healthy son and his family.

OhBotherSaidPoo · 06/07/2026 18:15

I find it utterly incredible that a middle aged man, supposedly mature enough to be an officer in the army, run a charity, father children and organise a whole athletic competition, can't seem to be bothered to reply to an email confirming acceptance of accommodation.
Why does he have to act like a petulant child so often.

AgnesMcDoo · 06/07/2026 18:15

Nah. It’s all a PR stunt by Harry. I feel sorry for his poor dad.

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