AIBU to think King Charles comes across as a really crap dad?

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https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c77yykl87yno

I mean really, this is just pathetic. No one is believing that KC couldn’t find a spare bed for his son. AIBU to think that as the parent KC needs to get a grip and grow up instead of just fuelling the drama?

nope- if the cost of putting harry up at Buckingham palace was acceptable enough to offer, then it was acceptable enough to be spent even if he didn’t show.

That's absolutely daft. I can't believe you think it's a serious proposal.

Harry is a grown man making a trip which had been scheduled for months. If he can't be arsed to respond to an invite in time then he'll have to make his own arrangements.

Or not offer. You’re either prepared to spend the money and make the effort or you’re not.

Is this how you behave in your life? Would you invite a friend to dinner and go out and buy all the food, clean the house, etc even if they hadn't bothered to respond to your invite? Would you invite a friend to stay and spend the morning setting up the spare room even though they couldn't be arsed to take the time to confirm their arrival?

Would you? Really?

There is no interpretation of this that doesn’t look like a fuck up from Charles/ his staff.

The general tone of the comments here suggests you are very wrong. Most people don't share your view that a 41 year old should be endlessly pampered and indulged.

By offering so publicly in the first place, they’ve created this mess. Harry has been over before and stayed in hotels, Charles chose to offer accommodation and to make that public, stupid decision not to follow through.

They didn't offer 'publicly'. It is Harry who has been briefing the press on a daily basis for weeks now.

And Charles has always offered Harry accommodation in a royal residence but Harry chose to stay in hotels. This is no different except that for whatever reason, Harry is making a massive song and dance over it.

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It’s been confirmed by BP that Harry has taken too long to confirm he is coming therefore BP apartments can’t be made available. It’s not rocket science rather it’s another chaotic briefing from the Sussex’s. No wonder the King and Prince William are tired of the drama.

Yes, YABU.

Wow, yes - and weren't they grateful?

What did they call it? Poky, or something. And got OW to join them in sneering at it - a lovely period cottage designed by Christopher Wren in a royal compound. But I'm guessing neither H nor M have heard of Christopher Wren.

You reap what you sow.

I don’t understand why people aren’t getting it!
this has always been an open invitation to Harry , everytime he comes to the U.K. he’s offered bp as a place to stay , every single time he has refused and stayed in a hotel!
before his security tantrum he briefed the media with stories that bp wasn’t secure enough and he didn’t want to stay there , the palace kept reaching out to clarify if he was staying or not and finally said Friday was the deadline.
Harry sent a letter clarifying he wasn’t staying on Saturday !
then he suddenly briefs the press on Monday that he’s staying at bp without telling the palace!
obviously it’s far too late to organise things now particularly as he didn’t tell them he told the press!! 🤷‍♀️

Don’t worry folks Harry has found somewhere to stay.

No Room (to) Spare?

I find the press coverage distasteful and it is, to my mind, getting put of control in terms of its focus on highlighting negative interactions between KC and his son. They're a dysfunctional family, but the press are salaciously hyping up every aspect of the fallout. How can there be any room for reconciliation in such an atmosphere?

The press do it because a certain section of society lap it up & it’s click bait. They love the drama & the strife! Look at the Royal boards, posters spent hours all day every day dissecting a photo or a press release about people they have never met.

They'll cope. 🙄

There is no interpretation of this that doesn’t look like a fuck up from Charles/ his staff. By offering so publicly in the first place, they’ve created this mess. Harry has been over before and stayed in hotels, Charles chose to offer accommodation and to make that public, stupid decision not to follow through.

Show me the press release from Buck House that publicises the offer? You can't, because it doesn't exit. It was the Sussex camp who leaked to the press that the offer had been made.

😂

Megan Markle has been a dreadful influence on him. She just winds him up and sits back. I have been to Montichno and it’s lovely. Lots of stunning houses.

Why don’t they just do what they said they were going to do and lead a private life. Oh wait….

They don’t live the same life as you and I or live in the same sort of house, everything is planned with military precision by other people. Harry must know that but wanted it his way which hasn’t happened. He made his bed he’ll have to lie in it, just not at Buckingham Palace lol.

They brief the press constantly and it always seem to backfire on them. No one wants them here. Visiting hospitals, behaving like the big I am. No one really cares anymore. The only slight thing in his favour is he is Diana’s son and we all remember how awful that time was. Markle can do one.

All of this has blown up in his face and he looks very very foolish (and stupid).

If it was one of mine and his ghastly wife throwing his family under the bus on international media I'd make it plain I never wanted to see either of them again. They behaved abominably. They wanted to be out and live quietly. If only they had. She disrespected his grandmother and he sat there like a dork and let her. They wanted out of the RF but shrewdly named the daughter Lillibet and wanted titles for the kids to tie them forever to a family they openly insulted and couldn't wait to get out of. He's treacherous, let him stay over the pond.

Staying at a hotel would cause no end of drama.

Surely Buckingham Palace has security and. team of cooks cleaners and general staff already.

Or is it mothballed till someone stays there and they have to organise agency staff to go in and get everything ready.

Or is everyone on a zero hours contract.

Buckingham Palace is the HQ of the Royal Family, with accommodation included. The late QE2 lived at BP when she was in London, and so there was a full complement of staff (footmen, maids, catering, security, cleaning etc). Like a very posh hotel. So it was probably very easy to accommodate unexpected visitors at short notice like your granddaughters boyfriend.

KC3 lives at Clarence House, so BP now is mainly for the admin of the Head of State and ceremonial purposes. A skeleton staff are assigned to the accommodation part of BP to keep it ticking over and if it’s needed eg to host other Heads of State, then staff are reassigned from other Royal residences to bring up the numbers. The deadline for Harry was for 48 hours notice to re-jig the rotas which I think is still cutting it fine for the staff (who actually would earn more money working for the aforementioned posh hotels). I can’t see Harry beings low maintenance guest saying he’d eat in the staff canteen at BP and strip the beds when he leaves. He’d want the full works like in Granny’s day.

It’s moth balled and undergoing Reno.

He normally stays in a hotel when he visits. Because he deemed it safer if I recall last time 😅

I don't think so. King Charles has a duty to the monarchy as well as being a Father - but realistically could you trust Harry after everything that has happened?

There comes a point where a child cannot blame his Father for x, y and z. Harry needs to live his own life (if that is what he actually does want to do). He's a man now!

I think he’s always been a crap dad, to be honest

There’s also a limit on how long he can get sympathy due to losing his mother nearly 30 years ago as well

I think its sort of mothballed.
C&C don't live in it and recently announced they don't plan to move in after the renovations.
Clarence House is more homely and nobody living in the Palace means it can have more tourists visit it.

100% my guess but I imagine Royal staff move around between the residents as required

I tend to agree with this.

If Markle came can you imagine what she would expect. Quite honestly I think now that unless KC has an emergency health issue that relationship is beyond repair. Of course he and his dreadful wife will come to the funeral with her clinging onto Harry for dear life. Another opportunity to play the victim .

I don’t see a way back for either of them. I wonder what Diana would have made of all of this? In her day she was an arch manipulator of the press but I think she would have got the measure of Markle very quickly and I doubt Harry would have married her.