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AIBU after being reported for apparently targeting a member of staff

221 replies

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:25

OK no one is going to believe this to be true but I need to share it. I was spoken to today by my line manager as I've been reported in our 'call it out' policy. I made a member of staff feel targeted and picked on.
I bet you won't be able to guess what I did that made them feel so bad.
It's so crackers I actually thought my manager was joking.
Anyone want to guess?

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Owly11 · Yesterday 21:38

I like your dress/shirt/whatever

Secretsquirrelshh · Yesterday 21:38

Ate a cake in front of them while they were trying to lose weight?

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:39

When I said I laughed it was not in a mocking way or derogatory at all, it was more an incredulous one

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SardinesOnButteredToast · Yesterday 21:40

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · Yesterday 21:31

Just. Tell. Us. We're not four year olds in a guessing game.

You sent an email in Gen Z speak, Capitalising. Each. Word. And. Using. Copious. Full. Stops in a tedious manner?

SardinesOnButteredToast · Yesterday 21:40

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · Yesterday 21:31

Just. Tell. Us. We're not four year olds in a guessing game.

You sent an email in Gen Z speak, Capitalising. Each. Word. And. Using. Copious. Full. Stops in a tedious manner?

HelpMeGetThrough · Yesterday 21:40

Was really irritating by acting like a primary school kid, wanting adults to play stupid guessing game.

Asuperblyfeauturedroomandexcellentboiledpotatoes · Yesterday 21:41

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:37

During a coffee break, another staff member said they thought Taylor Swifts wedding was over the top and a bit ridiculous. I said "yeah I agree" the complainer said it was to keep it private and I laughed and said "in madison square garden" the other staff member said he didn't get the hype over taylor swift and I said I didn't either. End of conversation.
Apparently this deeplynupset the complainer as they love taylor swift and they felt mocked.

Well how the fuck were we supposed to guess that?

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:42

Asuperblyfeauturedroomandexcellentboiledpotatoes · Yesterday 21:41

Well how the fuck were we supposed to guess that?

Exactly!

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Owly11 · Yesterday 21:43

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:37

During a coffee break, another staff member said they thought Taylor Swifts wedding was over the top and a bit ridiculous. I said "yeah I agree" the complainer said it was to keep it private and I laughed and said "in madison square garden" the other staff member said he didn't get the hype over taylor swift and I said I didn't either. End of conversation.
Apparently this deeplynupset the complainer as they love taylor swift and they felt mocked.

It sounds like you did take sides in the argument. If you are older perhaps they see you as having more power in the organisation. It's obviously ridiculous of them to report you but I can see how it might have felt to them that you were dismissive of one person's view and supportive of the other.

Sunshineandoranges · Yesterday 21:43

Id have said they now made me feel awkward and id find it hard to socialise with them thus they have created tension in the workplace.

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:43

HelpMeGetThrough · Yesterday 21:40

Was really irritating by acting like a primary school kid, wanting adults to play stupid guessing game.

A stupid guessing game that you joined in with 🤣

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Gengha · Yesterday 21:44

I hope the manager told them to get a grip!

HelpMeGetThrough · Yesterday 21:44

Well that was a load of Sunday night shite.

PocketBattleship · Yesterday 21:44

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:37

During a coffee break, another staff member said they thought Taylor Swifts wedding was over the top and a bit ridiculous. I said "yeah I agree" the complainer said it was to keep it private and I laughed and said "in madison square garden" the other staff member said he didn't get the hype over taylor swift and I said I didn't either. End of conversation.
Apparently this deeplynupset the complainer as they love taylor swift and they felt mocked.

And to think that generation get accused of snowflakery.

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:44

Owly11 · Yesterday 21:43

It sounds like you did take sides in the argument. If you are older perhaps they see you as having more power in the organisation. It's obviously ridiculous of them to report you but I can see how it might have felt to them that you were dismissive of one person's view and supportive of the other.

No it wasn't like that at all. I don't have more power. I was boiling the kettle, other worker sitting down with complainer (no idea they liked TS)

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Gengha · Yesterday 21:45

Owly11 · Yesterday 21:43

It sounds like you did take sides in the argument. If you are older perhaps they see you as having more power in the organisation. It's obviously ridiculous of them to report you but I can see how it might have felt to them that you were dismissive of one person's view and supportive of the other.

It wasn’t an argument by sounds of it. It was a bit of chat about an event that’s been high profile in the media. It wasn’t even critical of TS as a person.

HelpMeGetThrough · Yesterday 21:45

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:43

A stupid guessing game that you joined in with 🤣

Welk, I did exactly guess did I, just made a comment.

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:46

HelpMeGetThrough · Yesterday 21:44

Well that was a load of Sunday night shite.

I wish it was. Luckily my manager is a common sense sort and had dealt with both of us very professionally

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KeepPumping · Yesterday 21:46

Timeforabiscuit · Yesterday 21:28

Talked to them stood up, while they were sat in a chair?

Talked to them stood up while they were sat on the toilet?

PenelopeJoanSterling · Yesterday 21:47

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:46

I wish it was. Luckily my manager is a common sense sort and had dealt with both of us very professionally

but what did they want to achive by it ?

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:47

Gengha · Yesterday 21:45

It wasn’t an argument by sounds of it. It was a bit of chat about an event that’s been high profile in the media. It wasn’t even critical of TS as a person.

It really wasn't an argument at all. It was at the same stakes as "have you seen this film" "no I don't like horror films"

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CheekyPombear · Yesterday 21:47

Didnt give them a birthday card?

KeepPumping · Yesterday 21:48

GeishaTrumpet · Yesterday 21:31

You looked at them funny?

Then asked them their age.

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:48

HelpMeGetThrough · Yesterday 21:45

Welk, I did exactly guess did I, just made a comment.

🤣

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Kalanthe · Yesterday 21:48

Vintageshirtsearch · Yesterday 21:37

During a coffee break, another staff member said they thought Taylor Swifts wedding was over the top and a bit ridiculous. I said "yeah I agree" the complainer said it was to keep it private and I laughed and said "in madison square garden" the other staff member said he didn't get the hype over taylor swift and I said I didn't either. End of conversation.
Apparently this deeplynupset the complainer as they love taylor swift and they felt mocked.

How were we supposed to have guessed something so specific 😂😂😂

Obviously it's ridiculous and the person reprimanding you knew this, but they have to follow the company policy. Next time be careful what you say and keep strong opinions to yourself if you work with snowflakes. Break chat is nice but work colleagues are not your friends, anything you say can backfire against you

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