Drunk messages from friend about staying at her house last weekend

[Footballjess]

I have woken up to my friend sending me a series of really shitty messages late last night/into early hours - obviously been drinking.

Last weekend, I stayed over at hers and her husband’s with my DH (they live about an hour away and we were watching the football which started late).

DH and I started to have sex when I realised my totm had started early so we stopped. There was a little bit of mess on the bed which I did my best to clean but had to tell my friend the next day and I offered to buy new sheets.

She was fine at the time and said not to worry. Her messages have called me all sorts, said I was disgusting to have sex when in her spare bedroom and that I should have known it wasn’t the right time.

I am really taken aback by the messages and haven’t replied yet. I’m thinking of just leaving it until she sobers up and hopefully apologises?

But it's just sex!!! How's it disrespectful?! I'm honestly baffled.

She said no out of politeness.

This sort of situation is where you just strip everything off without asking instead of making the host deal with your bodily secretions.

That’s what I would have done. Hot water and some hand soap in the bathroom, she would have been none the wiser.

I’d bin off the friend though, no one needs a friend that sends nasty messages, drunk or not.

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Just as you don’t expect guests to start cooking when they come over for dinner, you don’t expect them to start using your washing machine either (without permission).

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I wouldn’t have been having sex in her house but I don’t think you should have told her! If I’d bled onto the sheets due to my period I’d have stripped the bed and washed them.

She has called me, she sounded absolutely mortified and was beyond apologetic. She said she had been drinking heavily after a big row with her hubby. She said she had no issue with what happened and that she was just feeling crap about her relationship so took it out on me. Life is too short so I’ve accepted her apology.

Bullshit. The whole thing.

I never understand when people do things they apparently don’t mean when they’re drunk. I did a lot of drinking in my younger days, and never turned into a different person, being angry about things I’m not really angry about. I think people use it as an excuse but it never sits right with me.