Drunk messages from friend about staying at her house last weekend

[Footballjess]

I have woken up to my friend sending me a series of really shitty messages late last night/into early hours - obviously been drinking.

Last weekend, I stayed over at hers and her husband’s with my DH (they live about an hour away and we were watching the football which started late).

DH and I started to have sex when I realised my totm had started early so we stopped. There was a little bit of mess on the bed which I did my best to clean but had to tell my friend the next day and I offered to buy new sheets.

She was fine at the time and said not to worry. Her messages have called me all sorts, said I was disgusting to have sex when in her spare bedroom and that I should have known it wasn’t the right time.

I am really taken aback by the messages and haven’t replied yet. I’m thinking of just leaving it until she sobers up and hopefully apologises?

Lot of women I know talk in great detail about sex, what they get up to with their husbands/boyfriends etc, seems to be just MN where people don’t 😂

Prudesnet would be more apt 😂x

I'm not disgusted by anything (I work with animals for a living so nothing bothers me!) but that doesn't mean I'd merrily leave my sex and period stains on the sheets for my friends to find

I don’t believe your story actually.
Feels too much like rage bait.

I agree with you but OP claims that there wasn't any "evidence" of any activity so I am at a loss to understand what this is all about.

Originally she says "There was a little bit of mess on the bed which I did my best to clean but had to tell my friend the next day and I offered to buy new sheets."

But then at 13.08 she says "No it didn’t create any mess in the bed." so which is it?

Maybe the host wasn't the only one who had overdone the vino-de-collapso ? 🙄

IMO these two people deserve each other and I'm done here.

I might tell my guest not to worry, but privately I'd be annoyed that they'd stained my sheets, left me to strip the bed afterwards, and not either given me money for new sheets or replaced like for like.

However, I wouldn't get drunk and send angry messages if they didn't. I'd just be annoyed and prefer they not sleep over again.

Frankly, I don't care what kind of blood it is. I don't want stained sheets. And I don't want to be told that my guests were having sex in my guest bed. I just don't need to know! Some facts can be kept to oneself (much like whether or not someone was 'sorted out' after a failed 'encounter').

Gosh, we visit a lot but we wouldn’t sleep with each other in someone else’s house, that feels a bit wrong. Certainly would not tell our friends if we had, that is private.

If I messed a sheet like this I’d take it home to launder and if it didn’t come out with Vanish I’d order a new one for them.

No, it’s just that we’ve done it all and it’s nothing new to be discussed in great detail. It’s so performative to talk about sex like that.

Why on earth wouldn’t you have stripped the bed automatically, without running it by her first?

Don’t be ridiculous, most of us here love sex so stop with the superiority complex over sex. You get up, strip bed and get sheet in cold water to ensure blood stain doesn’t set them pop in the washing machine. No “oh we made a mess, would you like me to clear it up”. Do you genuinely think your friend, when saying don’t worry was thinking “oh no, totally fine, I’m happy to clean your bodily fluids off my sheet when hosting you”? Your behaviour after is shocking to me but I totally would be the host saying “oh no don’t worry” because I’m polite. I guess the alcohol made her be a bit more open about how she really feels.

Unless you’re hoping to swing with friend and her husband, you don’t tell them where and when you had sex in their house - that’s crass and weird. Have some class.

Nothing prudish about not leaving that sort of mess for someone else to deal with, love.
Behave.

Well she told her friend for a start. The bit about sex maybe was TMI. But also, with regards to periods. I have terrible periods coming up 48yrs and have a nearly 19yr old daughter who sometimes needs to wash her sheets. It's not nice but we leave sheets to soak and put them through the washing machine, we don't shame people for it. Even if she didn't have sex unexpected her period could of left a mark. I would like to think I would understand a friend had been caught out and not fire off a load of messages about something that has caught me out before too.

I tend to find the people that talk about it most are doing it the least.

Nobody has shamed her for having her period or leaking.

People are shaming her for not cleaning up after herself. And rightfully so. She's an adult who should know better.

And yes we get it OP is sooo cool and uninhibited.
we are all sooo dull and prudish
again one wonders why the OP feels the need to share her wank fodder .... I mean experiences on such a dull site

No one has to shag in a friend’s guest room. There are things called self control, decorum and respect.

She said finishing her husband off didn’t create any extra mess

What? No sex please, we’re British turns out to have been a documentary.

I would much prefer guests leave the sheets for me to wash.

They might wash them on a very hot wash. I would spray on some stain remover to avoid the stains getting baked in.

I don’t think OP was wrong to offer to wash the sheets and to accept the refusal.

She said "I did my best to clean but had to tell my friend the next day and I offered to buy new sheets".

Are the husbands banned from using the washing machines in both houses?

"Doing your best to clean" is not the same as actually bothering to clean them properly (as in, stripping the bed, putting the sheets in the machine to wash etc).

I agree here.

Being annoyed by it does not constitute have zero sex life & being jealous of others! Very active sex life here & I would NOT have sex in a friend or relative's house unless I was there over a week, & we couldn't be heard. If I was anywhere near my totm I'd take no risks at all, & have loads of sanitary protection to hand. IF I had an accident I'd be stripping, rinsing & putting in the machine as well as ordering new ones. The same if it was a nose bleed/ kid issue.