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Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

540 replies

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

OP posts:
gamerchick · 01/07/2026 11:39

Oh dear, I think it's hit or miss of whether that would bother the rest of us. But you've got the ick, it's not going to work.

Time to say goodbye. You'll never be able to live with him.

gamerchick · 01/07/2026 11:41

Although the sophisticated crisp thing did make me laugh. There are crisps snobs in the world Grin

Whatthefork1 · 01/07/2026 11:43

This sounds like my DH with the crisps (he isn’t a fussy eater though). Had I have known about his crisp habit at the start I would never have stayed with him for 12 years and had two children with him- my 4 year old now also tips the crumbs into her mouth too.

TiredMummma · 01/07/2026 11:44

Dump him. You’ve been with him 7 months and haven’t mentioned your feelings? It’s not about ticking boxes, if crisps are annoying you this much will you ever love him? Don’t ‘settle’ for the sake of it.

ALJT · 01/07/2026 11:45

You sound like a snob, heaven forbid he enjoys his wotsits over kettle crisps!

nomas · 01/07/2026 11:47

I think you have the ick. Listen to that feeling and dump.

Crisp dust smell is gross.

mumumental · 01/07/2026 11:49

In a similar vein, my dd says she is truly over men who are picky about food and who won’t touch vegetables.

Horsemadlady1234 · 01/07/2026 11:50

Sorry but this post gave me the ick. Set the poor lad free before he gets stuck with you! I thought I was picky

Anarchy99 · 01/07/2026 11:50

gamerchick · 01/07/2026 11:39

Oh dear, I think it's hit or miss of whether that would bother the rest of us. But you've got the ick, it's not going to work.

Time to say goodbye. You'll never be able to live with him.

And he will be much better off too!

Having read the OP’s comment about expecting a man to pay for everything, I think he deserves a partner who is prepared to give something to the relationship instead of just expecting everything.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 01/07/2026 11:51

The fact you care/this bothers you, means he isn't the one. I think if you really love being with someone, especially in the under 12 month honeymoon period, you find then endlessly adorable, and chips eating wouldn't put you off. You're maybe self sabotaging or, more likely, you're just not that into him and you're inventing reasons to let him go when he hasn't actually done anything wrong. Either way, I'd listen to what your subconscious is telling you, because in a years time it'll drive you absolutely insane.

Illberidingshotgun · 01/07/2026 11:52

What stands out for me is that the best you can say about him is that he "is kind and not bad looking". If, at this stage, you are not finding him completely wonderful and irresistible, then do both of you a favour and end things now. The crisp thing (whilst it would annoy me too) is secondary to the attraction and chemistry that seems to be lacking. Just because he pays for everything when you go out, doesn't mean that he's long term material for you (or you for him).

Notbridezilla · 01/07/2026 11:53

GordanoServices · 30/06/2026 09:47

I wouldn’t want to be with someone who had no interest in trying different types of food. He does sound very immature. You don’t sound very compatible. The ‘qualities’ you list don’t really count for much.

Yes this. You’ve phrased it as being about crisps but to me that’s not the biggest issue. I love trying new foods and going to different restaurants etc, especially on holiday. So if that was something he didn’t want to do, especially after a discussion about it, then yeah in the bin from me

Anarchy99 · 01/07/2026 11:55

OP - do you think there may be a reason you have had to go on so many disastrous dates in the past? Could it be that you come across as high maintenance? I only ask because it’s unusual to be that offended at having to pay for things.

It’s fine to have standards of course. But if the money is a dealbreaker then you are reducing the field of potential partners quite significantly.

Anarchy99 · 01/07/2026 11:58

Notbridezilla · 01/07/2026 11:53

Yes this. You’ve phrased it as being about crisps but to me that’s not the biggest issue. I love trying new foods and going to different restaurants etc, especially on holiday. So if that was something he didn’t want to do, especially after a discussion about it, then yeah in the bin from me

That makes sense.

If I was with someone who wanted to try all different foods etc I would realise we were completely incompatible and, rather than be looked down upon (as a limited palate seems to be a reflection on someone’s maturity in MN land), I would dump them.

Lmnop22 · 01/07/2026 11:59

This isn’t a crisps issue, it’s a maturity and hygiene issue.

Not being clean, shoving crisp packets down the sofa, not washing hands, smelling like crisps, being immature with blowing up and exploding the bags are the real issues.

WhyCantISayFork · 01/07/2026 12:01

YANBU for not wanting to be in a relationship with someone who has crisp dust all over their fingers/nails and doesn’t know how to look after themselves properly (cleaning up after themselves, cooking and using the washing machine).

YABU for saying kettle chips are “socially acceptable” compared to other crisps 😂

Triskellion75 · 01/07/2026 12:02

Giraffehaver · 30/06/2026 01:00

I don't think you're compatible. He's a slob and you're a snob

This. I also can't abide people who judge those who won't try unfamiliar foods like it's any of their fucking business.

Jiski · 01/07/2026 12:02

I started reading this thinking you were crazy but this man is unhygienic and rude. You are definitely not being unreasonable. Get rid of him.

Anarchy99 · 01/07/2026 12:03

Lmnop22 · 01/07/2026 11:59

This isn’t a crisps issue, it’s a maturity and hygiene issue.

Not being clean, shoving crisp packets down the sofa, not washing hands, smelling like crisps, being immature with blowing up and exploding the bags are the real issues.

It’s an incompatibility issue 🤷‍♀️ Some women would be fine with that.

OtterLovesItsRock · 01/07/2026 12:03

ITMA2000 · 29/06/2026 23:50

To me, one of the points of going abroad is sampling a different culture. 'Traditional roasts' and 'fish and chips' in Spain seem mad to me. Go to Skeggy for that.

Fish and chips may be traced back 500 years to Portugal and Sephardic Jewish cuisine.

Anarchy99 · 01/07/2026 12:04

Triskellion75 · 01/07/2026 12:02

This. I also can't abide people who judge those who won't try unfamiliar foods like it's any of their fucking business.

Same here! Not being able to eat random food doesn’t make someone a bad person!

Qualitypinnacle · 01/07/2026 12:08

Tell him it's making you feel like you can't be with him and see if he's willing to stop, or at least be less gross about eating them. If not there's no way you're going to live with this 3 times a day forever, is there?

WestwardHo1 · 01/07/2026 12:08

Op I thoroughly enjoyed your post. You write so articulately about crisps.

This made me chortle 😁

Harry12345 · 01/07/2026 12:10

Leave the poor man and find someone who eats kettle chips

MyMilchick · 01/07/2026 12:11

BauhausOfEliott · 29/06/2026 23:29

I wouldn’t give a shit if someone ate a few packets of crisps.

I couldn’t live with someone who went abroad and didn’t want to eat any local food though. I can’t stand unadventurous eaters; it drives me mad.

It's the "unsophisticated crisps" though 😂