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Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

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Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

OP posts:
Rebeldiamond1 · Yesterday 23:32

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Is this a joke post?

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · Yesterday 23:33

cheekybtch · Yesterday 18:06

"Her"? But...but...but....women are perfect. I thought this was a woman writing. Are you a lesbian?

Haha, no I'm male. And no, women definitely aren't perfect.

Side eyes the 3 million bits of hard foot skin that DP has peeled off and left on her bedside rug for me to hoover up

Rebeldiamond1 · Yesterday 23:34

Spicyseniorita7 · 30/06/2026 22:23

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with preferring a man to pay for me and having traditional values. I want the man I marry to be able to provide for me and our future family- I don't want to be penny pinching when I'm on maternity leave or begging him for pennies.

So many of my dates have consisted of men expecting that I pay for my own dinner and glass of wine or worse, wanting to go for a walk like I'm some sort of border collie. I don't make loads in my job in the public sector and it is nice to have someone look after me and treat me from time to time. His family are very well off too. But he has been incredibly mollycoddled his entire life, has never really cooked a meal for himself and I had to show him how to use the washing machine. His mum does it for him usually (I didn't realise this until recently).

Yeah defo a comedy post. No ones that picky or if they are they wouldnt come on here and advertise it to the world.

TidyOchreDeer · Yesterday 23:45

The part about him blowing up the packet to pop it and covering you in crisp crumbs admittedly made me laugh harder than I’ve laughed at anything on mumsnet for a long time 😂

I’d definitely get the ick from this too, OP!

toiletpaperthief · Yesterday 23:51

I would wait more to move in together, it's only 7 months and he's starting to give you the ick... This ick will only get much worse once you start sharing the same space. I would let this relationship progress a bit more before moving in together. In the meanwhile I would let him know that you find his crisp hobby gross. If you're the health conscious type and he's a junk food lover this is going to be a big issue. At 7month s you're still in honeymoon stage and he's already giving you the ick.

ThisWiseRobin · Today 00:05

I'm thinking that if these habits are giving you the ick so soon on the relationship, its doomed.
You don't even live together so I'm prepared to bet you have a few more nasty surprises to come.
Honestly, have you never blown up a crisp packet and popped it, its brilliant.

earsyringing · Today 00:41

Oh god no - you cannot live with this.

Besides the bad manners, if he is that rigid with eating, and can't tolerate unfamiliar foods, you will have other unwelcome surprises in store.

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