AIBU to raise concerns after school let father-in-law apply suncream when not an approved collector?

[Tryingtohelp12]

My father in law called in today to drop something off and I said can you do me a favour and drop dc2 Suncream at school I’ve just realised it’s not in her bag and it’s on your way past. Just leave it with the office (my child school has allowed them to take their own cream in this week and apply it themselves). About 20 minutes later came back and he said the office wouldn’t let him leave the cream and had retrieved my child from her classroom and allowed him to apply it.

i have no problem with him actually doing this as we are close and he is trustworthy, but was really surprised, he’s not on the list of approved collectors as he has never done a school run for us and honestly could have been anyone. What if he’d come in and said they need to take child out of school- would they have let him?

I mentioned it to the teacher at pick up who said she will look into it but now I’m worried I have overreacted and got the office staff in trouble.

No he should not have been allowed contact with DC. If she was too young to sun cream herself, you should have been contacted.

Also, for what it's worth, OP consented to FIL dropping sun cream into school. It doesn't say that before he went into school she gave consent for him to apply it.

And school were none the wiser either way.

@BaffledOwl
I agree with other posters, why on earth did the OP send a person not on the list to run an errand for her to the school? You say she had consented for him to deliver the sunscreen but not to apply it. What a shame she couldn’t find anyone who could have done both errands. Hang on, the one person who could have done both was the OP. Only she couldn’t be bothered. All of this fuss because the OP believed in getting other people to do her errands. And also believes that schools have paid errand runners to deliver stuff that she sends in via a third party. Just supposing that the FIL was actually a baddy who would go into schools and deliver harmful irritants under the guise of it being sunscreen for a random child hé happened to know attended the school. After all , the OP hadn’t phoned the school or written a note for the poor FIL so there was no way of checking that he wasn’t a random bad guy gaining access to the school by supposedly delivering a snack or sunscreen or homework book.
You only have to do a few highly improbable what ifs to see that the OP was well out of order for making someone not on the approved list deliver something for her.
Poor school, poor FIL, lazy parent.

Yes, he is one of many sun cream predators out there who try to apply high SPFs to strangers.. terrifying

You're entirely focused on errands and entitlement that you're willing to overlook clear safeguarding failings. What has happened in your life to give you that perspective?

@BaffledOwl You do seem overly interested in me. I am nothing to do with this situation. Remember the guidelines are clear about no personal attacks. However, I am interested in this issue. In my opinion you are trying to cover up for an entitled poster who sent someone unknown into her daughter's school to deliver an item because she couldn't bother to go herself. Posters have invented errand runners in schools ( they don't exist) . All of this because the best qualified person to do the job couldn't be bothered to go or even ring the school. I don't like entitlement. I think it is wrong that the OP set up this chain of events by expecting two favours, two errands, to be done for her. She could have asked her next door neighbour or the Amazon delivery guy. All equally unknown to the school as her FIL. It all could have been avoided by doing the right thing and going herself to do her own errand.

No, the child would have said if it wasn’t her grandad.

What I am saying is Op chose to do this. She knew he was not a contact.
i would have been mortified if I had caused this much trouble, by complaining.
And who will get the blame? Not the highly paid SLT. No it will be the support staff.

That it would have been better all round if the OP had let them know who was dropping in the cream doesn’t make the error by the school ok.

Part of safeguarding in schools is often actually about protecting children from poor parental choices.

Thankfully in this case it was fine, but school staff shouldn’t, under any circumstances, have allowed a person they weren’t prepared to allow to leave suncream (presumably because he was unknown given the kids had been taking their own cream) to physically touch a pupil in their care. School staff don’t even handle children to put on sun cream in the vast majority of cases.

They should have given the child the cream (either with or without phoning parents) or told grandad he couldn’t leave it. The choice they made was the worse possible one in safeguarding terms and a decent SLT won’t ignore it, and tbh the staff themselves should have had a “ah shit” moment when they thought about it later.

But she knew him and obviously recognized her grandad. It wasnt a stranger applying cream.
You are stating the obvious which is irrelevant to this situation .

Yes, we're all aware of that.

The issue is that it isn't ok for every single person a child recognises to apply suncream to them! As you say, that's surely obvious to anyone with half a brain cell!!

If the support staff made the error then they deserve the blame. This isn't a miscarriage of justice!

Not the thread. The situation itself. She put the grandad and the school in a lose-lose situation.

No, she didn't.

The win situation for the school would have been to follow safeguarding procedure and either call the parents to check or have the child apply the suncream themselves. Simple, easy, standard behaviour.

That may have irked some people who would then complain/start a Mumsnet thread, but that's neither here nor there. The school would still have done the right thing. It doesn't matter if parents complain about the school doing the RIGHT thing, that complaint they can brush off.

😂😂😂

Miscarriage of nustice!Get real. A granddad put suncrea. On his granddaughter. The mum asked him to take cream to school. The school wouldnt pjt it on but told granddad to do it. 35 degrees that day. Child would have been burnedd.
Mumset posters make mountains out of a molehill.

Oh well plenty of other minimum
wage jobs around. Ones where you don’t get character assassinated by parents on a regular basis. I bet you are one of those parents.
Another WFH? Who has no sense of reality of life?

This may have been answered, but how would you have reacted if the school had refused to accept an item from an unknown adult?