AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

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Just woken up to find my best mates partner has sent me a dick pic with a message saying he wants me 🤢🤮 I have to tell her don't I

Tell me you're a doormat without telling me you're a doormat.

Ffs raise your standards 🙄

God these men are disgusting. The thing that really confuses me is why and how they are so entitled to send it to their wive's FRIEND. And it's so common.

I hope your friend kicks his ass to the curb.

Well done OP you did the right thing. Why do men think women want their dick pics 🤢🤢🤢

More like YOUR poor friends. 🙄

What did I just read?
Seriously?

Not so much a doormat, more an enabler.

I agree.
He knows what he did , let him worry about that .
I like a peaceful life .

Why don't you think they will visit?
They visited me when I reported one.

Do you excuse the Sexual abuse, rape or the murder of women and children when a man has had too much to drink ? If this drunk man had sent the photo to a 16 year old girl would you say that is ok ? It is women like you that allow men to think their predatory behaviour is acceptable.

Yes its gross that men do this. Totally out of order. But think about the aftermath.

Flaming Nora! "Think about the aftermath"? The aftermath that a disgusting man who committed a sex offence has face consequences?

Yeah, I'm very much in favour of that "aftermath".

Well done, OP for doing the right thing here. I think you have handled it admirably.
im sad to say I’m not shocked by the amount of posters excusing or minimising his behaviour.

I think this is the best way. Let's her know and she can make her own mind up. The main thing is she will be aware.

Exactly! Why do women do that!!!!

I'd assume this wasn't for me in the circumstances you've mentioned. I'd let him know you'll be telling her if he doesn't.

Some folks will absolve men of any behaviour-
IT's your fault because you're contactable.
My poor little diddums was drunk.
Blah blah blah.
You've done nothing wrong amd I'm sorry you've had the misfortune of being harassed by this predator 💐.

Apart from the fact that things have moved on this is a stupid idea because sending the image initially or forwarding it are both illegal.

Don't do this. You legally might be on dodgy ground (revenge porn). I would just show her your phone.

Is he controlling???
I wonder if he’s done it deliberately so she cuts you off….

I can’t believe someone would really be that stupid to just send a pic in the hope you will respond ‘oh god I thought you’d never ask YES let’s meet up’

…unless there is more backstory…

I think you need to raise your standards if you think this is perfectly fine. A get out clause because "They were drunk"!!?? FFS 🤦‍♂️🙄

You are absolutely right to have told your friend and hopefully this will be the catalyst she needs to finish with him. Would I report to the police? It depends on the latter. If I thought she was going to finish with him and cut all contact, then I would. But if she stays and he's then the subject of a police investigation, how will that impact her? Do they have kids together?

I think right now I'd view and decide everything through a prism of what it might mean to her.

She should be worried about losing you as a friend as her boyfriend is sexually harassing you. The focus should be on what she does to maintain her friendship with you, not the other way around!

All the posters suggesting OP minimise or avoid telling her what happened to avoid “drama” are unbelievable. I’d be mortified if my partner behaved badly towards a friend and would feel somewhat responsible for bringing him into their lives.

I’d have done exactly what you have done OP. I have a small circle of very good friends, we know each other inside out and any of us would do the same for each other, it’s the right thing to do. You’ve handled it well.
Feeling for you both this morning, how unpleasant.

Also shocked by some of the responses… im
glad those people aren’t my friends!

Sadly I think some people DO excuse all sorts of predatory and abusive behaviour by saying 'he was just drunk' or 'it was just messing around', @ERthree. I am not saying that @Blodyneighbour thinks this way, but a depressing amount of people do. Or there's the lovely line about 'he was only young/he's got a bright future, and we don't want to ruin that with a criminal conviction' shite - never mind the fact that he's ruined some poor woman's entire life.

Yet more mysogonist women who excuse sexual assaults and inappropriate behaviour like this. You lot or equally responsible for rape culture as the vile men. Try looking at your conditioning a little closer

In the UK, sending an unsolicited photograph or film of genitals to someone without their consent is a specific criminal offense known as cyberflashing under the Online Safety Act 2023. It carries a penalty of up to two years in prison.

But by all means send them. See you in court.