AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

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Just woken up to find my best mates partner has sent me a dick pic with a message saying he wants me 🤢🤮 I have to tell her don't I

I would send a. 'did you mean this for me?' message first. In the event he meant it for you and there was nothing at all in the previous messages that made it look like you were interested in him, I would contact the Police and let them deal with it.

A full picture.... Did she say how big it was 😂. Think we need proof haha x

It's called the consequences of your actions. If you don't want to be reported to the police, don't break the law and stop being a creepy bastard sending unsolicited dick pics. It's really not difficult. God, all the posts minimising what he's done are so cringe, This is exactly why these horrible men get away with stuff like this.

But think about the aftermath

Maybe that's what he should have done.

Sending unsolicited genital images is now actually illegal. I'd be telling the friend that he needs to be more careful as he may not be aware of this and obviously make it quite plain that you do not want to receive these images, ever. He could find himself on the sex offenders register if he isn't careful.

Men who do this should be arrested for gross indecency ,he would be arrested if he whipped it out in Person with a comment like that 🤢

I would tell her, but I'd confront him first so that I could tell/show her his reply. What a sleaze. The trouble is, you would have to be very clear and non-jokey I think, no "I can do better than that", because then it gets into banter. Really lay down the law about disrespect to you and to her, illegality, what on earth made him think you'd be unfaithful to your friend, etc. What a dick he is(!)

Absolutely this. Excellent advice. Sorry OP; what a horrible thing to happen.

I didn't know this ,as it should be tho . Imagine if her child had been using her phone at the time 🤢

I have told her and she's understandably devastated. He has messaged to apologise which I have also ignored and as many of you guessed his excuse was he was drunk 🙄
She knows she has my full support for however she wants to handle it and I won't be doing anything about it until/if shes ready for me to.
I'm surprised and saddened by the few PP who are totally minimising this, it's been made a specific crime for a reason and to dismiss it as 'oh well he was drunk/it was a mistake etc' is very disheartening for all women suffering from the criminal actions of men. When my (now Ex) Husband raped me, was that ok because we were married?

What a load of drama. I would have deleted it and pretend I'd never seen it. Your poor friend.

And who is responsible for the husband's actions @Blondiebeachbabe, because it's sure as he'll not his wife or the Op.

Op - you have done the right thing. Sorry that you have gone through this absolutely awful situation.

Suggest you check those other things he sent you out asap...if still viable.
Maybe there's sonething in them..testing the water, to see how you react...before dending you an unsolicited dick pic.

What a creep. Why is he not yet blocked?Drunk is not an excuse.
I can't believe some people wouldn't have said anything! That's condoning the behaviour.

He would take it as a green light if she didn't say anything though. And her friend deserves to know.

Bless you. I'm so sorry. People underestimate how horrible and upsetting this can be. So often it's brushed off as "drunken mistake" "only joking" or dismissed as drama/overreacting. For some, maybe. But for so many others, very much not. It's upsetting. You sound like a good friend. Hope you will be OK. x

would you not want to know if your partner was sending dick pics behind your back? If someone is openly sending pictures like that, what else are they doing!

Which would give him the message that it's OK to send messages like that at best, or give the message that OP was OK with it at worst.

Seriously? Is that how low your bar is?

Indeed my poor friend who has had her life blown up by the actions of her partner. I'm very glad you are not my friend if you think this is in anyway acceptable

Your friend is very lucky to have a friend like you. You handled it perfectly.

Alcohol reduces inhibitions so I always take "but I was drunk" as to mean "In normal circumstances I want to be a predatory male/female but know it's not socially acceptable, when I have had a drink I think fuck it, I'm going to do it anyway"

Being drunk isn't the cause it's the facilitator and I think football should come with a government health warning. It saddens me how the rates of domestic abuse increases with televised football tournaments

I wasn't going to respond to this but it's bugging me, are you for real? Where's the line for you of what criminal acts are ok as long as the perpetrator is drunk?

An adult male on TikTok in the middle of the night, sending women revolting photos. Wow, what a catch. Your friend should be persuaded to up her game OP.

Not only would i be telling her but i would be phoning the Police. Women allow men to get away with this crap because we don't want to cause trouble, well he didn't care about any upset he would cause when he sent it. Time to stamp this out.

What a horrid man, I can't believe some PP think you should let it go because he was drunk. So, if someone was raped, stabbed or murdered....it's ok if the person was drunk!? You did the right thing telling your friend. You are a good friend and I hope she sees it.