AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

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Just woken up to find my best mates partner has sent me a dick pic with a message saying he wants me 🤢🤮 I have to tell her don't I

What? I am neither.

I doubt dick pic guys mum thinks he's the type to do it either

I think they meant because of the difference in what fanny means.
(But I've managed to send neither)

Apparently some women do

It was an poor attempt at a joke.

In US English Fanny is backside.

In UK English it's the Vulva.

I'm Scottish. A fanny is a fanny, hence the old irn bru advert when the young couple had named their wean "fanny" and the family were like 😱.

But yes, I'm the same. Never, ever occured to me to take my knickers off, take a photo of my fanny and send it to my husband's pals. No matter how drunk I've been.

I love this idea, it's diplomatic as hell and has the plausible deniability aspect to it 🤔. I think I will be using faux naivety for every sticky, problematic situation going forward fuck em , they can't prove otherwise.

I've had random men sending me dick pictures on Instagram (unsolicited I'm hasten to add) and I report and block. This is different though, it's from a good friend's partner, someone you're exchanged pleasantries with, but you don't know very well.

I would have told the friend in your position OP too. Your friend had a right to know what her partner is up to behind her back. Let's be honest, I doubt it's his first rodeo, he's probably been sending these type of messages to multiple women throughout their relationship.

Yes, alcohol played it's part in the man sending the message and picture but it doesn't excuse him. You are his partner's friend, and he's sending you a dick picture and lusting after you. It's a smack in the mouth to your friend, how awful for her to now know that her partner has been lusting after her friend. It's not exactly going to do much for her self-esteem.

Leave your friend to decide what she wants to do regarding her relationship. I can't imagine she's going to want you to report the incident to the police, but that's your choice if you decide on this path.

Stop that! Seriously. This UK English thing. If you mean "English", say that. Stop dragging the rest of us into it.

We, in Scotland, part of the UK, call it a "fanny". In fact, for a number of years we used rhyming slang and called it a "Shareen".

In tribute to Shareen Nanjiani.

I've never taken a photo of my nethers, drunk or sober. So never had to face the risk of sending it to someone inadvertently. Maybe more men need to follow the same practice (how come they never accidentally send it to their nan?).

Nutshell. This was no accident.

What a load of drama. I would have deleted it and pretend I'd never seen it. Your poor friend.

@Blondiebeachbabe Are you serious? People like you are part of the problem. Thank goodness your unfathomable attitude is one that’s all but disappeared now: I’m so proud of my DD and her friends for absolutely refusing to put up with any of this shit. Women who support abusive men make me sick.

They are like a huge worm.

Sometimes just a worm.

Doesn't matter. Drunk or sober, I have never had the urge to photograph my genitals, but or breasts and share those images with anyone. The name people use for their anatomy is completely beside the point.

FFS it was intended to be a joke about fanny meaning different a thing in the US from the UK.

Personally I would be offended and actually angry enough to not worry about upsetting friend. What if your son or someone else had seen it? I would be telling her that I was pissed off and that it is never to happen again. Hopefully it might be the catalyst for her to get rid. Wonder if you were the only female to get a pic.

No.

I don't know why men think women want a dick pic. They are ugly things. That only make you go ick.

I overheard a screaming match between 2 sisters about one sisters boyfriend sending dick pick to the other, the sister who’s boyfriend it was sided with the boyfriend. The messenger always gets shot, message him just say think you sent this to the wrong person, and tell her you think he sent you a dick puck ment for her. Block him.

Men who send unsolicited dick pics are plain fucking revolting.

Women who defend it, too.

I couldn't imagine clicking a pic of my Shareen and thinking, nice, I'll send that to my best friend's husband. WTF goes through their tiny minds. Disgusting behaviour.

To clarify before anyone asks, I have read the full thread and my thoughts -

OP - I'd do an online 101 Police Report stating facts. Mention your friend has asked you to not take this further but as it is quite clearly a criminal offence you want it logged. And see what the Police suggest going forward. At this point you don't need to let your friend know -

Why? This guy may have previous. This is the sort of stuff that comes up on Claires Law, sexualised behaviour, unsolicited (and unwanted) pics. This may be the first time he's done something like this - and a good scare may make this the last. However he may have done similar before.

Lets not normalise this sort of behaviour in writing it off as "it could have been a mistake" / "he could have been drunk" , etc. The law is there for a reason, it's been bloody fought over to keep us safe, let's use it.

Not a helpful comment, but I just don’t understand why men think a picture of their naked mole rat is attractive?

They are the ugliest things ever and should only be handled in the dark.

You are absolutely right, @NeedToTakeTimeToChill. Do these men really think it is an attractive body part? I mean - I love dh, but his willy is not his most attractive feature, for sure!

Oh for heavens sake - bring back the laugh emoji 😂

To answer the question, despite not being an excuser, I can't say I have 😉

Can you tell us more about how this has come about ? Do you guys chat regularly or did he out of the blue send his wee Willy winky ?