AIBU to want a cleaner while being a SAHM?

[Ayla1991]

I became a SAHM almost 2 years ago to my 2 DDs (21 months and 4 year old). I look after the 21 month old full time and the 4 year old is at nursery 3.5/4 days a week. Before this my husband and I shared household chores 50/50 with me taking on slightly more. Since becoming a SAHM I do all the cooking, cleaning and admin but he helps a lot when he gets home from work. This is mainly things like tidying after dinner, taking the bins out and feeding the dogs, so no big jobs, although I am very grateful he helps as I consider most of the home stuff my job.

Now for the AIBU. I absolutely despise cleaning. I know it’s my job now as a SAHM but I hate it so much. I also don’t have much time to do it as my 21 month old barely naps, only around 30 mins a day if at all and both kids have late bed times (low sleep needs) so I clean when my husband can watch the kids on the weekend or after the kids sleep at like 10pm. I would really love to get a cleaner maybe even once a month to do the jobs I really hate doing.

I know people may ask if we can afford it and that’s the tricky bit. We can’t sustain our current lifestyle on just my husbands salary but we are partly supported by my redundancy package which was pretty generous and can probably last another year or so, however the more we spend the less time I can have off work. So technically we can afford it but it probably isn’t wise

i know my husband would support it and he always offers to do the cleaning since I also have a problem with my right arm which makes the heavy jobs painful, but I really don’t feel right him doing it. So my question is, would you judge a SAHM for having a cleaner? Do other SAHMs do this?

I'm a SAHM and I would definitely have a cleaner if I could afford it, it's hard dealing with 4 kids and trying to keep on top of the endless mess

Back in the day, a sahm would put them in a play pen for short periods to keep up with household chores. In my family my Dad was away a lot so my Mum, with 3 under 5, had to do everything and none of us were nappers during the day. Also at the time washing with a tub and mangle, daily trips to grocery store in a budget, cook from scratch, eventually one tv with 3 channels, a dog, 3 rabbits and elderly parents to look after.

No one particularly enjoys the day to day drudges of housework and many of us have to do it when we get back from work.

Yes it is a bit precious and unnecessary expense to have a cleaner with two parents and one at home full time.

Sorry, I've been brought up to be more resilient and just get on with it. I was a sahm for maternity leave and followed with the playpen, safe, in view, got loads done!