AIBU to object to my partner wearing his late father's underwear?

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As the title says, am I being unreasonable to object to my partner wearing his (late) father's underwear?

His father died a few years ago, and his mother gave him lots of quite nice clothes of his father's to have. I recently discovered that he'd also inherited his father's underwear which he is now wearing! He claims it has been washed countless times and is in good condition, so he doesn't get why I would object. But, I do....! Would you??

Er, no. Deeply odd

Ha! Yes, that's our usual solution - we respect each other's preferences when we are together on weekends, and do our own thing when we are not! Works very well for us. I have bought him pants from oddballs in the past, they are very entertaining.

You have said “the agreement was you don’t wear them when you are together”!!

Did you ever meet his dad?

I once discovered that a particularly vile pair of my ex's pants had originally belonged to his late grandma's toy-boy. Those went straight in the bin!

Yup, this is my preference!

Yes, he was a lovely man.

If they are nice and to his style why not, if they are ancient white Y-fronts no. Does he wear them to bed? His bits in his dad's pants in your bed a bit weird definitely.

And you have d made that clear to him? And he respects it?

Thanks to all the posters for your responses. Entertaining range of responses to our domestic disagreement. I'm feeling vindicated by the vote too, so thank you for that too!

Just to clarify - this isn't and was never a deal breaker. It was more of a ' really?!' and an eye roll reaction from me rather than a you-do-this-over-my-dead-body type reaction. But an eye roll is not the reaction he wants from me when he gets down to his underpants so this will sort itself out. Especially as we don't live together and I don't need to wash or see his hand-me-down underpants! He has a full range of others too.

Does this count?

On clearing out a late great uncle’s clothes, we found packs of socks unworn as still had the tags on. My DF wore these

I've lent knickers to a friend when we went on holiday and she had forgot her knickers, can't say I would be bothered at all.

I am going to guess he’s pretty…. Careful with his money

Just when I thought I'd read it all on here! 😂

But he wouldn't have been wearing them after he passed away.
Nothing wrong with it as far as I can see.

Unless it was new in pack its full weird.

Pants, absolutely not. There’s a reason charity shops won’t take them. It’s not at all like other clothes- they’ve been up someone else’s arse crack!

What’s all this about pants being up someone’s arse crack? Folks are wearing the wrong size if that’s the case. (Or wearing thongs and I think OP would have mentioned that if it was the case).

Got this image of white Y- fronts in my head 😂

Don't see what the problem is and why you are questioning him about it.
Why is it bothering you so much?

There are some things in life that it really is OK to just throw out. The underpants of a bloke who has died definitely fall into that category.

Charity shops will take trousers, shirts etc - but not underwear
Ask him if he would be turned on by you wearing your mum's knickers

Not on Mumsnet. If you don’t want your man wearing dead daddy’s pants you’re a weirdo and what’s your problem?

I wouldn't have a problem with it - presumably he only wears non holey pairs with no staining from the previous wearer. Dd3 often wears her older sisters' knickers that they left behind when they moved out. My db died 2 years ago (I have no idea what happened to his underpants - df may be wearing them but he was a very clean person). I wear his socks and tshirts.

It depends on whether they r well worn and also the type. Y Fronts as in tighty whiteys arm noooooo. If they r just boxers and reasonably loose I wouldnt be bothered really x