AIBU to object to my partner wearing his late father's underwear?

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As the title says, am I being unreasonable to object to my partner wearing his (late) father's underwear?

His father died a few years ago, and his mother gave him lots of quite nice clothes of his father's to have. I recently discovered that he'd also inherited his father's underwear which he is now wearing! He claims it has been washed countless times and is in good condition, so he doesn't get why I would object. But, I do....! Would you??

And you would be perfectly happy for him to bin any of your clothes that he didn't like you owning/wearing for any reason, I presume?

So do people who feel this way also refuse to eat at friends' homes and restaurants - or at the very least insist on taking and using their own crockery, glasses and cutlery like Alan Partridge?

Just think of all those nasties that you could be getting second hand. Other people's drool; they could have mouth, chest or other infections or diseases; mouth ulcers and cold sores; they may well have given somebody else oral sex with the same mouth that they also put that spoon or fork into - and which you are now putting into your mouth! If you use a fork when eating a meal at your in-laws' home, you're effectively taking your FIL's genitals into your own mouth - how utterly disgusting is that?!?!

If you don't believe that thoroughly washing something before somebody else uses it afterwards makes any real difference, that is...

Definitely not.
Bin them. In

How can anyone think this is anything other than weird and vomit inducing? Nobody should be wearing anyone’s underwear, dead or alive.

PS - unless this is a wind up?

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This post has really tickled me because I have a lovely joules jumper and some sloggi knickers that were my late grandmothers, the important part is the knickers were brand new in their packet though!! (My mum and nan were both very young when they had children so she wasn’t old old when she died and dressed quite trendily!) however, I am all for minimising fashion waste so if he’s happy to wear them, why not? My brother wears one of our late grandads suits too actually so maybe it’s a family thing?

Spot-on @AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle- it’s illogical! To be fair, a couple of posters have acknowledged that it isn’t logical but that they just don’t like the thought of it.

But many don’t seem to realise that there is no difference between using cutlery/sheets/towels in a hotel or hospital, and wearing laundered underwear that someone else has worn. Can’t imagine how horrified they’d be that I used second hand cloth nappies for my first DC (I wanted to try different brands to see which suited our DC best before buying a load of new ones.) I await now some posts telling me that was disgusting and feeling sorry for my poor baby 😂 I did eventually treat her to some brand new ones once I’d found out which brands were good.

For me it’s because it’s the clothing on my husband immediately cradling his cock and bollocks and is the item of clothing I pull off him to have sex.

It doesn’t matter that they’re clean. I don’t want to be faced with his dad’s pants when I’m feeling frisky- obviously. What about if he wore his mum’s pants, I mean it’s all just fabric and it’s clean isn’t it? What does it matter?

It matters because they are a couple and underwear is an intimate thing. If the marriage is sexless and platonic, well crack on wearing dead relatives undercrackers I guess.

I prefer knowing that my husband’s pants have only housed his bollocks and no one else’s thanks.

Fair enough @Youhavereachedyourdestination- like I said, for some people it’s the thought of it. That’s a valid reason not to like it. No one has to justify why they don’t like the idea.🤷🏼‍♀️ But the posts suggesting there is some sort of hygiene issue are incorrect IMO.

To quote Paul Calf in Paul and Pauline Calf’s Video Diaries ‘I’m not wearing dead man’s pants’.

One of the worst things I have ever witnessed was the departmental cricket box, passed from one player to another. I knew future DH was a gent when he declined it as had his own.

I still wear my great grandmother’s bloomers, just as my grandmother and my mother did before me.

I mean, I wouldnt want my parents underwear whether they were alive or dead, or anyone else's for that matter but I have put YABU because if my husband wore his father's underwear then I wouldnt object, its surely a purely personal decision, its not me thats wearing them!!

I would find it equally strange but let’s be honest guys don’t overthink 😂

Yeah, that's where I landed on this. Strange but not going to overthink it! My passing thought that it was odd (and consequent post) has spurred a lot of strong views on MN, some even suggesting I rethink my entire relationship 😂.

As long as he respects your request he doesn’t wear when seeing you… all good 🤷‍♀️

I mean in theory it should be fine but something about him wearing his dead father’s undercrackers is a bit icky!

hahaha! Typical MN conversation with so much drama for no reason 😂😂

Excellent

Gross. Why would you wear someone elses underwear?

Having worked in hospitality, I can assure you those towels will have seen and done some things that would make you scream …… 😂

The only thing reassuring here is that rudely speaking is his fathers balls and willy once in there. But other than that I am very peculiar about underwear.....it is like I am sleeping with his father

Ahem. It might seem quite reasonable to wear someone’s used (but clean) pants but in practice I have seen how underwear wears differently in the - ahem - gusset area.
Specifically, the area can discolour over time and, while still clean, can take on a somewhat yellow-ish hue. To be fair women’s pants can also discolour but perhaps not to the same extent.
So it’s not unreasonable that people might find this off putting…
Apologies if TMI.

That would give me serious ick..

Well if it makes him happy, what's the problem? At the age now when DH and DS mix up their underwear, what's the difference?

Please stop being so hard on him, let him do it.