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To think my universal credit feels generous.

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:10

I got to my early 40s without ever needing to claim but circumstances find me single and paying the lions share of child related outgoings.

I work full time on£31,000 and have found out this year thanks to applying that I get on average about £800 from UC. It has been an absolute life changer and will hopefully be able to afford a modest uk holiday actually during the summer holidays and pay the school back some debt im in for after school care.

So many benefits bashing threads so I just wanted to present another side that as a cash strapped mum of two who works full time, UC is making a positive difference to our life. I didn't even think id qualify!

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Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:36

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:23

But could do, prior to splitting with ex? If two people chose to have children then choose to seperate, surely they factor in the costs?
The parents no longer want to be together, so someone else picks up the bill for that choice?

It's about the children, not the parents. Are you honestly saying that a woman (or man) leaving an abusive partner should "factor in the costs" before leaving them?

CeciliaMars · 20/06/2026 16:38

So someone on £31k a year gets topped up to £45k. Thats admitting that £45k is the bare minimum needed to get by as a family. And yet that’s what most teachers/nurses/midwives earn after 20 years in the job. How is that fair?

purpleme12 · 20/06/2026 16:38

Hadenough32 · 20/06/2026 16:33

We've never been eligible for help. Oh works full time earns roughly 40k. We have 4 kids. No money for luxuries like holidays but we get by. I applied when 2 child cap was lifted and am shocked. We've had £800 pm nearly last 2 months. Haven't spent it as keep thinking it's a mistake and they'll ask for it back. We share one car between us. Thinking might be able to run two cars now!

If you keep saving it though it'll soon add up and your savings will go over the threshold

So you need to spend it

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 16:39

Pickledonion1999 · 20/06/2026 16:30

That's it isn't it. A single person newly unable to work due to illness or disability and qualifying for the LCWRA has just had their UC ( excluding housing costs ) cut from around £830 to £615 per month with the halving of the LCWRA element of UC. How any sick person lives on that I do not know. UC is so generous for some yet absolute rubbish for others. Sick and disabled people being targeted over families with two healthy parents to provide for them.

Edited

Yeah, it is madness someone working full time gets more in UC top ups than someone who is unable to work at all.
But UC is meant to mean work pays, and this seems to be the case.

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:41

Frequency · 20/06/2026 16:28

The last time I became a single parent, it was because DH up and decided to die suddenly. I must remember to get out the Ouija board and tell him how feckless he is for choosing sudden death over employment when he has children to fund.

Sorry for your loss X

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:41

Frequency · 20/06/2026 16:34

UC is only "generous" if you have childcare costs and high private rents. It is not the claimants who benefit, but we must blame the claimants and not the LL who are lining their pockets with taxpayers' money in exchange for often substandard housing; they're providing a valuable service Hmm

Oh don’t worry. RR has made the economic conditions so unfavourable for private landlords that they are selling up. Which, in theory, is great. But, she hasn’t provided enough social housing for these displaced private renters to move to. So now, far more families are in totally unsuitable temporary accommodation. Which the government pays a fortune for, so costs the tax payer far more and families utterly fail to thrive in. Could you manage 3 children in a bedsit with no cooking or washing facilities? I couldn’t.

Jenkibubble · 20/06/2026 16:42

Pickledonion1999 · 20/06/2026 16:26

Exactly. The ex no longer wants to contribute enough and no one is enforcing he does. And this ridiculous rule that CM is not counted despite the fact that many many non resident parents pay reliably and regularly. I guess they do have to now find two lots of housing though which doesn't come cheap. .

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Not always the case at all !

Ex and I split and we had rhe kids 50/50 (therefore no maintenance paid to / by either of us )
My income was topped up a small amount by UC

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:43

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:36

It's about the children, not the parents. Are you honestly saying that a woman (or man) leaving an abusive partner should "factor in the costs" before leaving them?

Edited

Who said anywhere that either partner was “abusive”?

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:43

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:28

Less than 40% of people claiming Universal Credit are in any kind of work. Of those claiming UC, the average hours worked is 21 per week. Less than 11% of UC claimants work 30 hrs per week or more. So, unless I am missing something massive (fully prepared to admit that I might be!) how is this a problem of businesses not paying a proper wage? I couldn’t pay my bills if I worked 21 hrs per week.

You could if you got paid properly for your time and labour.

Imdunfer · 20/06/2026 16:44

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:33

No one is paying for her to go on holiday. She has prioritised that after clearing her feet with the money she owes for ASC.

She could spend it on coffees, takeaways and all the useless things other people spend their money on like nails, eyebrows, botox, tattoos and £200 haircuts.

When you qualify for a benefit, you don't get a letter telling you "this is for a holiday".

She's not going to the Maldives, she's hiring a caravan FFS.

With an extra ten grand tax free in her pocket, if she was just about surviving before, then she could go to the Maldives no problem and still have £5k to improve her lifestyle.

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:44

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:43

You could if you got paid properly for your time and labour.

No, I couldn’t. And when did we start expecting to be paid a full wage for part time work??

Pickledonion1999 · 20/06/2026 16:44

Jenkibubble · 20/06/2026 16:42

Not always the case at all !

Ex and I split and we had rhe kids 50/50 (therefore no maintenance paid to / by either of us )
My income was topped up a small amount by UC

So you only actually had them 50% of the time anyway so significantly less costs anyway in terms of food/ heating etc. Appreciate you still had to provide housing for the full week though.

PinkEasterbunny · 20/06/2026 16:44

And on the subject of the north, it is worth bearing in mind that jobs paying £30,000k p/a are not the norm; in fact, jobs are not the norm full stop. We have a massive problem with a lack of opportunity and poor or failing infrastructure.

Erm, are you sure about that @Frequency ?

bestcatlife · 20/06/2026 16:48

It seems that the more you earn, (within reason obviously) the more UC you get, whereas I thought it was designed for people with a very limited income. I get that it encourages people to earn more and then sort of tapers off but it’s quite an unfair system. Also means most people can’t afford to do those very part time / zero hour contract roles, which would be beneficial to disabled people for example, looking to return to work but are too ill for full time work.

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:48

PinkEasterbunny · 20/06/2026 16:44

And on the subject of the north, it is worth bearing in mind that jobs paying £30,000k p/a are not the norm; in fact, jobs are not the norm full stop. We have a massive problem with a lack of opportunity and poor or failing infrastructure.

Erm, are you sure about that @Frequency ?

I lived and worked in “the north” for more than 40 years. Most of my friends and family still do. I attended a standard comp, with blue collar parents. All my friends and family did. She is wrong.

bestcatlife · 20/06/2026 16:51

And totally agree that the system is completely backwards in terms of the limited capability for work element being halved (!) with virtually no push back from anyone, yet some folks do seem to do quite well out of UC.

JoyousOpalLemur · 20/06/2026 16:52

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 15:26

Why do you have your own company if you can't afford staff wages? Would you not be better getting a job?

Why would you need to if the benefits just sort you out anyway?

VictimNoMore · 20/06/2026 16:54

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:36

No worries error.

I agree that companies should pay more bit i work in the NHS so that's a whole different thread!

So you have Blue Light discounts, as well as NHS pension top-ups, as well as Council Tax discounts too?

Pickledonion1999 · 20/06/2026 16:55

bestcatlife · 20/06/2026 16:51

And totally agree that the system is completely backwards in terms of the limited capability for work element being halved (!) with virtually no push back from anyone, yet some folks do seem to do quite well out of UC.

Yes this halving will affect any new claimants who have conditions which may improve. This includes people having cancer treatments, severely mentally ill etc. People struggling to afford travel to hospital appointments and decent food and heating when ill. Yet someone else is getting £800 extra whilst earning a decent wage and an ex who could contribute .Nothing makes sense.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 16:56

bestcatlife · 20/06/2026 16:51

And totally agree that the system is completely backwards in terms of the limited capability for work element being halved (!) with virtually no push back from anyone, yet some folks do seem to do quite well out of UC.

Because some people believe that cutting the money of unwell/disabled people cures them and they jump straight into a job.

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 16:57

CeciliaMars · 20/06/2026 16:38

So someone on £31k a year gets topped up to £45k. Thats admitting that £45k is the bare minimum needed to get by as a family. And yet that’s what most teachers/nurses/midwives earn after 20 years in the job. How is that fair?

A teacher doesn't earn £45k after 20 years. My son is in his fifth year and earns £54.5k.

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 20/06/2026 16:57

CeciliaMars · 20/06/2026 16:38

So someone on £31k a year gets topped up to £45k. Thats admitting that £45k is the bare minimum needed to get by as a family. And yet that’s what most teachers/nurses/midwives earn after 20 years in the job. How is that fair?

That’s my salary and my monthly bills take every penny. I don’t have a pound left for emergencies, MOT, if any bill goes up, a holiday is simply unimaginable and that’s sad. My kids are teens and I will never be able to take them on holiday ever again.

The cost of living is horrific compared to a few years ago.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 20/06/2026 16:58

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:23

@Error404FucksNotFound I dont think I'm getting too much. I am getting help that possibly will enable a small caravan holiday and help buy my children clothes.

But the title of the thread is that it’s generous, that sounds like you think it’s too much. What you are saying in the the thread and the title are contradictory to each other

WLMummy · 20/06/2026 17:02

Frequency · 20/06/2026 14:18

Agreed.

I also have to assume that OP is living in the north and either has family help towards childcare or has children who no longer need childcare while she works.

She'd feel very differently if this weren't the case.

And on the subject of the north, it is worth bearing in mind that jobs paying £30,000k p/a are not the norm; in fact, jobs are not the norm full stop. We have a massive problem with a lack of opportunity and poor or failing infrastructure.

Then stop voting in Labour who aren’t working and aren’t getting the country to work!

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 17:02

homebytheseanearme · 20/06/2026 16:43

Who said anywhere that either partner was “abusive”?

The fact is - you don't know.

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