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To think my universal credit feels generous.

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:10

I got to my early 40s without ever needing to claim but circumstances find me single and paying the lions share of child related outgoings.

I work full time on£31,000 and have found out this year thanks to applying that I get on average about £800 from UC. It has been an absolute life changer and will hopefully be able to afford a modest uk holiday actually during the summer holidays and pay the school back some debt im in for after school care.

So many benefits bashing threads so I just wanted to present another side that as a cash strapped mum of two who works full time, UC is making a positive difference to our life. I didn't even think id qualify!

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Pinkypoo123 · 21/06/2026 22:31

Honestly my son was so upset, he did really well,yes he had support but even his mentor said it was a pleasure to work with him and I kid you not at the end of the internship he quit his job saying he'd had enough and was upset for my son! Attitudes need to change in many sectors,if you can work you definitely should,its good for your physical and mental wellbeing, gives you a sense of self worth,is grounding and keeps your brain sharp and focused! Also,its too much about the super rich,not enough incentive for alot of people/ cost of living etc but id do anything to go back to when my grandparents were alive, old school values where they made everything and made the best out of every situation!

DontBuyAnotherBook · 21/06/2026 22:34

LuckyHazelFox · 21/06/2026 19:13

I have every sympathy for coping with disabled children but to be earning a salary of circa 35K and then over 2K on top, something is not right there. Fair enough if as a parent you can't work but that supplement is ridiculous.

We are now getting an £1200 a month due to getting DLA. However I can see my child not being able to start full time in school when he starts school and therefore me being unable to work much. I am sure that is common of families with autistic children.

farref · 21/06/2026 22:45

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:27

depends if i want low quality version vs high quality version, you pay peanuts you get peanuts

Which is why the more skilled professions are paid more

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:46

farref · 21/06/2026 22:45

Which is why the more skilled professions are paid more

not by much and in many cases very little in some companies

BlueFahrenheit · 21/06/2026 22:49

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:46

not by much and in many cases very little in some companies

What industries are you referring to?

Laurmolonlabe · 21/06/2026 22:53

northernballer · 21/06/2026 18:08

Can they? With no children in receipt of DLA? I can't believe this is true!

Even with children in reciept of DLA it is ridiculous.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:54

BlueFahrenheit · 21/06/2026 22:49

What industries are you referring to?

for starters different roles in the nhs

bittertwisted · 21/06/2026 22:56

XenoBitch · 21/06/2026 21:29

Exactly.
I said upthread about a friend who is amazing at budgeting. She has an eye for deals, and if she needs anything she always turns to places like freecycle first. The money she saves goes on seeing her favourite bands.
She is on UC... just LCWRA, no other money.

It makes no sense when people who are working and taking home over twice what she is saying it is not right she can afford stuff they can't. They can, if they do the same. Budget. If someone on less than you can afford a holiday, then there is no reason you can't either.

Good job they are taking home twice as much to pay tax for your friends amazing frugal life lived off other people’s hard earned money

XenoBitch · 21/06/2026 22:58

bittertwisted · 21/06/2026 22:56

Good job they are taking home twice as much to pay tax for your friends amazing frugal life lived off other people’s hard earned money

What point are you trying to make? "Amazing frugal life"? That is weird thing to get funny about. Is she not meant to be frugal then? I mean, she does not have to. But she does so she can treat herself every so often.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:58

bittertwisted · 21/06/2026 22:56

Good job they are taking home twice as much to pay tax for your friends amazing frugal life lived off other people’s hard earned money

capitalism is hardly holy either , relying on the exploitation of workers to turn profits in many industrys

youalright · 21/06/2026 23:20

farref · 21/06/2026 21:38

Someone can't work but can go and see her favourite bands all the time?

I agree disabled people shouldn't be allowed outside

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 23:51

youalright · 21/06/2026 23:20

I agree disabled people shouldn't be allowed outside

wow, you win the quote of the day.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 23:53

youalright · 21/06/2026 23:20

I agree disabled people shouldn't be allowed outside

can we quote you for the news paper headlines , mumsnet user says : ..........

XenoBitch · 21/06/2026 23:58

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 23:51

wow, you win the quote of the day.

It was sarcasm. @youalright is disabled herself. And like many of us, fed up with people coming out with crap like going to see a band means you can work.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 22/06/2026 00:01

XenoBitch · 21/06/2026 23:58

It was sarcasm. @youalright is disabled herself. And like many of us, fed up with people coming out with crap like going to see a band means you can work.

oh shit, my bad. but yes i agree with your points,

XenoBitch · 22/06/2026 00:04

PenelopeJoanSterling · 22/06/2026 00:01

oh shit, my bad. but yes i agree with your points,

It is ok. Tone is hard to read on here, and if I was not familiar with some of the posters already then I would have thought the same as you.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 22/06/2026 00:06

XenoBitch · 22/06/2026 00:04

It is ok. Tone is hard to read on here, and if I was not familiar with some of the posters already then I would have thought the same as you.

thats the thing i read it literally plus im used to some of the viperisms and what some people think etc

homebytheseanearme · 22/06/2026 06:54

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:58

capitalism is hardly holy either , relying on the exploitation of workers to turn profits in many industrys

Where is the actual evidence that this is happening? If it is, it’s shit, obviously. But the governments own statistics don’t seem to support it. If less than 5% of people in receipt of UC are working more than 30 hrs, the vast majority of claimants are not people working full time who still can’t make ends meet?

Redty10 · 22/06/2026 07:25

Fairyliz · 20/06/2026 14:47

You still haven’t mentioned your child/children’s father.
How much is he paying and is he taking them on holiday?

The main problem I see is feckless dads not paying enough so the taxpayer makes up the difference.

Lots of feckless dads I agree, but my understanding is that child maintenance payments are not included in UC calculations anyway so even if someone was getting 1k month it doesn’t affect claim. Is that not true?

ForNoisyCat · 22/06/2026 07:30

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:23

@Error404FucksNotFound I dont think I'm getting too much. I am getting help that possibly will enable a small caravan holiday and help buy my children clothes.

I don’t see the point of your post. You’re bragging.

Laurmolonlabe · 22/06/2026 07:44

PenelopeJoanSterling · 21/06/2026 22:23

exactly my point about capitalism perfectly, companies will happy to pay as little as possible

This has to be a false story- a commercial company absolutely will not let you work for free, the insurance implications alone would be horrendous, I am no fan of capitalism but this story has to be BS.

Vse500 · 22/06/2026 08:18

Holdonforsummer · 20/06/2026 15:20

Good for you, OP, but what I resent is that the UC top up now probably means you take home more than I do as a Band 7 in the NHS after tax.

This is very true, I’m a senior nurse in the nhs band 7.

Seymour5 · 22/06/2026 08:20

XenoBitch · 21/06/2026 21:21

Her kids are adults though. CMS would never force him to pay anything as they are not children.

His kids. She takes responsibility, he doesn’t. Morally wrong.

Imdunfer · 22/06/2026 08:39

XenoBitch · 21/06/2026 21:52

That sounds like the autistic lad who was working for free at Waitrose. Asked for a paid job, and they said no. Happy to use his free labour though.

My recollection of that story is different.

It really wasn't that simple. He needs a support worker which made another employee less productive and was a responsibility, and for him to be paid as well costs them money over employing another person without learning disabilities.

His mother started demanding he should be paid for his work and that resulted in him losing the placement that had really enhanced his life.

The bad publicity resulted in them giving him paid employment, and everyone who shops in Waitrose is picking up the cost of that if he is still there.

And this is where minimum wage is a nonsense. He can work 16 hours a week without affecting his benefits. If people like him were able to be paid a proportion of minimum wage which reflected their actual productivity, then there would be far more opportunities for people like him.

And before anyone shoots me down on that, there are organisations representing disabled people who say the same thing.

amyds2104 · 22/06/2026 08:44

I think universal credit is vital for children and families who go through tough times and get out of financial hardship. I’ve been on it myself when I left my son’s abusive father so I get how life changing it is.

On that note, when you mention the part about being able to afford a little holiday… that’s what pisses people off. You clearly arent prioritising or utilising the money for your children in case you get in financial hardship again. Ie buying new school uniform for September or stuff they may need or putting a little bit aside for if things go tits up again. Instead you plan on going on a family holiday! A luxury my husband and I can’t afford despite both working full time and me doing overtime each week. This part feels like rage bait.

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