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To think my universal credit feels generous.

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:10

I got to my early 40s without ever needing to claim but circumstances find me single and paying the lions share of child related outgoings.

I work full time on£31,000 and have found out this year thanks to applying that I get on average about £800 from UC. It has been an absolute life changer and will hopefully be able to afford a modest uk holiday actually during the summer holidays and pay the school back some debt im in for after school care.

So many benefits bashing threads so I just wanted to present another side that as a cash strapped mum of two who works full time, UC is making a positive difference to our life. I didn't even think id qualify!

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farref · 20/06/2026 22:11

youalright · 20/06/2026 21:28

To give her kids something nice and make memories after one of the shittest years of their lives

Do it on her own dime and not the taxpayers?

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:11

LuckyHazelFox · 20/06/2026 22:06

Xeno there is no defending her. She's a cheat in more ways than one!

Not taking medication does not mean fraud. It can be a symptom of their illness.

I have a friend with bipolar who comes off her meds. She feels "fine" (manic) so stops taking them.

I have also stopped mine to stockpile for ODs.

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:12

LuckyHazelFox · 20/06/2026 22:10

😆 🤣 she went mad at her ex when her GP called her into the surgery for a meeting 😆 can you believe the cheek of her. Brass neck but it takes that to fiddle the system.

I can imagine her kind. No doubt, the kind that books numerous holidays using her benefits while claiming she cannot work.

Littleorangeflowers · 20/06/2026 22:12

I work and get UC because I have kids. If I didn't have kids I don't think I'd get anything.

What I find interesting is that I pay tax too. My UC is double the tax I pay.

Also that UC is effectively paying landlords.

Also that me having more money to buy shoes clothes etc for the kids means I spend more.

Why not tax me less and give me less UC?

I'm not saying I understand. Economics is really not my strong point. Is it a socialist policy does that mean? Has it caused real problems with wages, rents etc?

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:12

farref · 20/06/2026 22:11

Do it on her own dime and not the taxpayers?

OP is on £31k. When she pays for her holiday, how do you determine whether she paid it with her earnings, or her UC?

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:15

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:12

OP is on £31k. When she pays for her holiday, how do you determine whether she paid it with her earnings, or her UC?

OP's Title: 'To think my universal credit feels generous'

I think this says enough 😂

cmonspring · 20/06/2026 22:16

How is that possible? We earn under 24k as a family and get less than £300 a month UC payment, we have 1 dc at home

farref · 20/06/2026 22:16

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 21:39

Memories can be made in many spaces.

Like going to a free exhibition in a gallery or museum

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:17

farref · 20/06/2026 22:16

Like going to a free exhibition in a gallery or museum

Absolutely.

I guess we are just missing the mark?

Littleorangeflowers · 20/06/2026 22:19

cmonspring · 20/06/2026 22:16

How is that possible? We earn under 24k as a family and get less than £300 a month UC payment, we have 1 dc at home

Because you only have one child. If you had three kids you'd get money for them too. Six kids, even more.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:22

cmonspring · 20/06/2026 22:16

How is that possible? We earn under 24k as a family and get less than £300 a month UC payment, we have 1 dc at home

Depends on housing and childcare costs. OP has more than 1 child and is a single parent.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:27

LuckyHazelFox · 20/06/2026 22:10

😆 🤣 she went mad at her ex when her GP called her into the surgery for a meeting 😆 can you believe the cheek of her. Brass neck but it takes that to fiddle the system.

I don't actually believe that. A GP wont call a patient in for a meeting based on what someone else has told them.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:29

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:15

OP's Title: 'To think my universal credit feels generous'

I think this says enough 😂

OP didn't think she would get any at all. I read the title to mean she was surprised at the amount.

farref · 20/06/2026 22:30

Mum's on £31k. Dad's also on the same AND contributes to the kids..... Why the need for uc

Frequency · 20/06/2026 22:31

Ime. People on lower incomes are good at budgeting but they have no choice in the matter. The budgeting descions they make are not do we spend an extra £500 a month on the mortgage for two extra bedrooms or £200 a month for a better car. It's do I skip dinner twice a month so the kids can have Netflix and watch Stranger Things like their peers or do I replace the clapped out washing machine that takes 3 hours to run a quick cycle or do I put the tenner a week it would cost on tick towards 3 days in Haggerston Castle next Easter?

People on higher incomes are free to make the same sacrifices should the fancy take them.

LuckyHazelFox · 20/06/2026 22:31

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:27

I don't actually believe that. A GP wont call a patient in for a meeting based on what someone else has told them.

They would want to assess the patient's condition, judging the effects of the medication. She was swinging the lead. So that's not only ripping off the system but also think how much those meds added up to. A complete waste of money. I had no sympathy when I was told. The ex is normally placid but she's been giving him a hard time for years.

farref · 20/06/2026 22:34

People say "it's their money. Nothing to do you." You wouldn't say the same about MPs expenses would you. Taxpayer funded stuff that they are entitled to, but we watch where it goes.

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:36

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:29

OP didn't think she would get any at all. I read the title to mean she was surprised at the amount.

Considering the OP admitted she can look into booking a modest caravan holiday, it denotes her financial situation. OP then resorted to backtracking and mentioning she will look into camping holidays.

An inflammatory post for those who genuinely need benefits to survive.

catspyjamas1 · 20/06/2026 22:38

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 21:58

They are not one household! They have also split up. You can live with someone and be separated, and the other person's income not taken into account.

I am on UC, and have a DP of 3 years. His income is not taken into account at all because we do not live together and do not share finances, just like the OP.

It is a very slippery slope to go down if you think the income of people you do not live with should have their finances taken into account when applying for benefits.

Edited

No, both parents regardless of living situation should pay for the children they chose to have. Basics.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:39

farref · 20/06/2026 22:30

Mum's on £31k. Dad's also on the same AND contributes to the kids..... Why the need for uc

Dad's income does not matter. They do not live together.
Child maintenance is not taken into account.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:41

farref · 20/06/2026 22:34

People say "it's their money. Nothing to do you." You wouldn't say the same about MPs expenses would you. Taxpayer funded stuff that they are entitled to, but we watch where it goes.

TBH, I don't really care about that. Lots of jobs have things like expenses.
Obviously stuff like an island for ducks (or whatever it was) is taking the piss.

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:43

catspyjamas1 · 20/06/2026 22:38

No, both parents regardless of living situation should pay for the children they chose to have. Basics.

The embarrassment I would feel knowingly procreating a village of children I know I couldn't afford, while expecting handouts.

Audacious.

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:46

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:36

Considering the OP admitted she can look into booking a modest caravan holiday, it denotes her financial situation. OP then resorted to backtracking and mentioning she will look into camping holidays.

An inflammatory post for those who genuinely need benefits to survive.

Edited

That is because she looked into caravan holidays and saw how much they are in the holidays.

I go on caravan holidays but I don't have kids so they are a lot cheaper. You can also pay in instalments.

My sister takes her kids on the odd caravan holiday. It can cost £1k for Mon-Friday in the summer holidays. She tends to take them abroad now as it is cheaper.

The Sun still do their cheap deals. £9.50 now. Would you begrudge OP that?

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:48

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:43

The embarrassment I would feel knowingly procreating a village of children I know I couldn't afford, while expecting handouts.

Audacious.

Where did you get that?

OP said she has found herself single... implying that she was with her kid's dad until their relationship broke down (she did not say why).

BlueFahrenheit · 20/06/2026 22:53

XenoBitch · 20/06/2026 22:46

That is because she looked into caravan holidays and saw how much they are in the holidays.

I go on caravan holidays but I don't have kids so they are a lot cheaper. You can also pay in instalments.

My sister takes her kids on the odd caravan holiday. It can cost £1k for Mon-Friday in the summer holidays. She tends to take them abroad now as it is cheaper.

The Sun still do their cheap deals. £9.50 now. Would you begrudge OP that?

The OP came to her senses and realised how ridiculous she seemed.

I do not begrudge anyone a holiday; however, do not imply that you have been struggling and now, thanks to your benefits, you can book a holiday.

It's nonsensical and obtuse.

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