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AIBU to refuse to move in my garden so that a neighbour's dog stops barking?

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Motnight · Today 15:58

I'm fairly certain I am not but my neighbour's attitude has made me wonder.

Earlier today, just after 7 am, I was sitting at the bottom of my garden on the bench drinking tea and just listening to the birds and looking at my flower bed. Our garden is that of a typical London Victorian terrace, surrounded on 3 sides by other gardens. I was probably 2 feet away from the fence separating our garden from opposite neighbours.

The neighbour's kids were out playing, Not particularly loudly but I could here them (I often do and it's not a problem at all, we are all living in close proximity, that's part and parcel of it). Suddenly their dog starts barking very loudly. It goes on for a couple of minutes. I then hear a male voice saying "is there anyone there?". I say, yes, your neighbour, hi (we've never spoken before). The man then says my dog is barking at you. He knows you are there. I don't know what to say so say nothing. The man adds can you move further up your garden please so my dog stops barking. I say, sorry, what did you say as I can't quite believe he is asking me to move. I have been completely quiet, minding my own business and just enjoying my garden. He repeats it. I say no, I am having my tea (!). He says, but your garden is as long as ours, there must be space for you to sit elsewhere, and if you don't move we will have to take the dog in. I reply, look I am sitting in my garden and I am going to stay here for as long as I want.

The man sighs loudly and says thank you for nothing, I'll return the favour some day. I hear a bit of rustling and muttering and then silence. Kids and dog and man have obviously gone back into the house. And I am left thinking WTF.

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Ihatelittlefriendsusan · Today 18:21

Dog owner is s twat.

The second my puppy (still learning) starts he is called in. Every. Single. Time.

Yes it is a pain but also he learns that if he wants the freedom he needs to not be a dickhead.

Unfortunately I also have arsehole neighbours who are currently on holiday (3rd weekend away) and their dogs are out 24/7/365.

ScribblingPixie · Today 18:29

There's one down the bottom that barks at me. I tell it off in the same way I would have when I owned my own. It does the trick. Owners probably wouldn't like it if they heard but too bad.

Passingthrough123 · Today 18:30

Motnight · Today 15:58

I'm fairly certain I am not but my neighbour's attitude has made me wonder.

Earlier today, just after 7 am, I was sitting at the bottom of my garden on the bench drinking tea and just listening to the birds and looking at my flower bed. Our garden is that of a typical London Victorian terrace, surrounded on 3 sides by other gardens. I was probably 2 feet away from the fence separating our garden from opposite neighbours.

The neighbour's kids were out playing, Not particularly loudly but I could here them (I often do and it's not a problem at all, we are all living in close proximity, that's part and parcel of it). Suddenly their dog starts barking very loudly. It goes on for a couple of minutes. I then hear a male voice saying "is there anyone there?". I say, yes, your neighbour, hi (we've never spoken before). The man then says my dog is barking at you. He knows you are there. I don't know what to say so say nothing. The man adds can you move further up your garden please so my dog stops barking. I say, sorry, what did you say as I can't quite believe he is asking me to move. I have been completely quiet, minding my own business and just enjoying my garden. He repeats it. I say no, I am having my tea (!). He says, but your garden is as long as ours, there must be space for you to sit elsewhere, and if you don't move we will have to take the dog in. I reply, look I am sitting in my garden and I am going to stay here for as long as I want.

The man sighs loudly and says thank you for nothing, I'll return the favour some day. I hear a bit of rustling and muttering and then silence. Kids and dog and man have obviously gone back into the house. And I am left thinking WTF.

Oh my god, I think my old NDN might be your new one! How long has he lived there?

JohnofWessex · Today 18:34

I suggest neutering

Owner that is not the dog

JohnofWessex · Today 18:36

But seriously I think that we need to start with compulsory training for anyone who wants a dog, and the starting point has to be that you understand how your dog is expected to behave and your responsibility to enforce that

Thistooshallpsss · Today 18:45

Just end dogs . Simples

Bonkers1966 · Today 18:51

Another entitled pet owner. Who knew,?

crazeekat · Today 18:52

Honestly, self entitled fuckwit. Wonder if he would ask a man to move. Please don’t ever ever move!

Bufftailed · Today 18:55

I have a dog and similar set up. Your neighbour is being stupid. He has to stop the dog barking. Well done for standing your ground.

30mins · Today 19:06

Entitlement of some people —eye rolls—

TheeNotoriousPIG · Today 19:12

It is your neighbour that needs training... to take the dog in when it's being a problem. Yes, it needs loo breaks, but no, it does not need to be out long enough to inflict itself on the neighbours.

I feel your pain, OP. My neighbour's two dogs are similar. It has crossed my mind that it is somewhat unfortunate that they are also quite young...

Well done for standing your ground.

caringcarer · Today 19:23

Yetone · Today 17:31

And that is how you train them to stop barking.

Same I bring my 2 dogs in if they bark and don't stop when I tell them quiet and mine are Lhasa Apso so bred to bark and defend territory. They bark, I tell them quiet, and they usually stop or else they know they are back in the house. I hope you get to enjoy the peace of listening to the birds and enjoying your cup of tea OP. If he says any re lse to you point him in the direction of dog behaviourist as he's too lazy to train them himself.

Movinnggbug · Today 19:30

This is bonkers. Your neighbour is rude. When my dog barks like that - when unnecessary - I say “Ddog, stop barking”, and he usually does because if he doesn’t, he comes inside. That’s how you teach them to listen to “stop barking” surely?

Sorry you have a bad neighbour. Have you met him before?

IsawwhatIsaw · Today 19:52

I have a friend who told me she seldom goes out in her nice garden now because of a dog that will bark loudly incessantly when she does. The owners couldn’t care less and were aggressive when she tried to talk to them.

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