AIBU to refuse to move in my garden so that a neighbour's dog stops barking?

[Motnight]

I'm fairly certain I am not but my neighbour's attitude has made me wonder.

Earlier today, just after 7 am, I was sitting at the bottom of my garden on the bench drinking tea and just listening to the birds and looking at my flower bed. Our garden is that of a typical London Victorian terrace, surrounded on 3 sides by other gardens. I was probably 2 feet away from the fence separating our garden from opposite neighbours.

The neighbour's kids were out playing, Not particularly loudly but I could here them (I often do and it's not a problem at all, we are all living in close proximity, that's part and parcel of it). Suddenly their dog starts barking very loudly. It goes on for a couple of minutes. I then hear a male voice saying "is there anyone there?". I say, yes, your neighbour, hi (we've never spoken before). The man then says my dog is barking at you. He knows you are there. I don't know what to say so say nothing. The man adds can you move further up your garden please so my dog stops barking. I say, sorry, what did you say as I can't quite believe he is asking me to move. I have been completely quiet, minding my own business and just enjoying my garden. He repeats it. I say no, I am having my tea (!). He says, but your garden is as long as ours, there must be space for you to sit elsewhere, and if you don't move we will have to take the dog in. I reply, look I am sitting in my garden and I am going to stay here for as long as I want.

The man sighs loudly and says thank you for nothing, I'll return the favour some day. I hear a bit of rustling and muttering and then silence. Kids and dog and man have obviously gone back into the house. And I am left thinking WTF.

What a nerve. You upset next door's dog by sitting in the wrong place in your own garden. This country has gone mad.

I was about to write exactly this!

When ndn's yappy ddog is in full belt she tells him it's no wonder he has no friends!!

I would have laughed in his face before telling him to fuck off. You weren’t the one ruining the peaceful morning.

Don’t you just love the hot weather

Why do you think that is? Don’t you think people might be more than a little sick of being asked to accommodate an animal that is not even theirs into their lives? Or have an animal That’s is not even theirs act aggressively towards them? Because as a runner it happens on every single run I do and my goodness it’s wearing!

It sounds like he's planning revenge for the problem he caused in the first
place :/

You’re expected to step over them sprawled in pubs.

we live next door to an entitled bitch

they have a staffie,hes no problem but then they bought the yappy fucker from hell

it yaps,barks and growls at any movement it thinks its senses

next door will lean out of the window and wetly shout at it (we think its called 'raine' but in her accent it sounds like shes screaming 'rape!) and when that doesn't work,they shut the door on it,so of course this makes it bark even louder

they keep breaking a bit of our hedge so 'you can shit in next doors garden' (if it ever does,they are getting it back through their letterbox)

if we dare go out of our back door/use our garden we get yelled at for setting their dickhead dog off-it barks for hours

i'm sick of their entitlement-training the damn thing would take time out of her free time (she doesn't work but spends a lot of time yelling down her phone or in bed)

but nope,it's our fault for wanting to use our own garden-we say they got the damn thing,train it

As soon as my 2 dogs start barking they are in.

I have similar with my neighbour, his dog barks at the fence if any of us or our dog is in the garden. Ours does sometimes too, we've worked very hard to train her so she rarely does now. We've spoken to neighbour about it who says 'its in their nature' and 'dogs will be dogs'. After we talked and his dog was barking I heard him say to someone else in his garden 'see, what can I do about that?' He seems to be unaware of the idea of training a dog. Some people just lose all common sense when it comes to dogs

It really isn’t, it just takes consistency and time. Don’t wait “a few minutes”, EVERY time they start barking they go straight inside. No exceptions, and don’t leave them alone in the garden until the training is complete. If your dog barks constantly in the garden it’s because you can’t be bothered to stop it.

Even if you move then the dog may continue barking.

Our dogs are fuckers who sometimes bark at the neighbours despite us trying to train them out of it. When it happens we apologise to the neighbours and take the dogs inside, ot wouldn't ever occur to me to ask the neighbours to move 🙈

I also have a dog who might bark in that situation - I'd be hugely apologetic to you and would be taking the dog right inside, every time.

We have dog NDNs on all sides and it goes with the territory that they will bark. Strangely though the NDNs at the bottom of the garden have an issue with NDNs on the left side's dogs saying that they stress her dog out but it's her dog doing the barking!! and she wants them to take their dogs inside!! Surely she should take her own dog inside?? NDN on the other also has dogs but one of them only barks when NDN is out but is a good warning system if he doesn't quieten down after a bit because someone been at the front door or gate!
I will admit to owning a cat that teases all of them by sitting on the shed roof or fence!! 🐱

I wouldn’t have even answered him to start with because his dog barking because someone else is in their garden is completely a him problem.

Expecting you not to use the end of your garden so their dog doesn’t bark madness

YANBU op. Neighbour is batshit. My previous neighbour was similar. She asked me if I could train my cat not to groom herself in a certain place on our patio as the dog could see her through a gap in (her) fence and used to go bonkers. I wondered if she’d ever had a cat - probably not if she thought I could train her

Mind you she also told me that my cat was smirking at her - which to be fair she might have been!

Obv he is a twat

hope that helps @Motnight 😘

No you're not. Troll hunting is specifically banned in the Talk Guidelines.

IF .......... IF NDN dog was a very new , very traumatised rescue who was finding his feet and anxious that something was going on that he had no control over , then I might consider , but it would be as a courtesy to an animal out of its depth .It wouldn't be an ongoing courtesy though .
But otherwise , no , he NDN) can naff off .

Goodness, the children were out playing and the dog barking was all happening at 7am? I’d be furious, even city dwellers deserve to not have noise nuisance at that hour.

It’s a relatively easy train to stop the dog barking. It goes in the house till it stops. It’s told “good girl/boy” and given a treat if that’s its motivation, when it’s not barking.

YANBU. He needs to train his dog.

And why should you move? If the garden is long, why couldn’t he move the dog to where you weren’t close?

You know with 100% certainty YANBU.

No-one's going to tell you that you should've moved elsewhere in your garden, due to someone else's dog.

That was a lot of typing/detail to have people confirm what you absolutely know 🤷‍♂️