CRP level and DP’s reaction, would you be upset?

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I have felt extremely unwell in the last week. I eventually went to hospital despite DP (surgeon!!!) telling me I would be wasting hospital time and that I would eventually get over whatever was in my system.

Anyway while he was at work yesterday I was in so much pain I got a taxi to hospital. When I got there I was given an urgent scan with dye as CRP was over 400. I messaged DP and said I was staying in and he said he would be over after work but I was being dramatic about 400 being massively high and he’d seen higher. I just feel so hurt. We’ve only been together 2 years and he does have form for being a bit cold sometimes but AIBU to think this was a shitty thing to say to me especially from a surgeon who surely knows that is a high reading?

edited to add that I am not medically trained but the person doing my scan said the reading was extremely high and I urgently needed the scan. I’ve been googling since then and it says online too that it’s high. I feel like he completely invalidated how unwell I was feeling and how serious this is

I said the same to my Dr DH and he said the same thing. 400 is high, the surgeon is an unsympathetic idiot were his exact words.

He sounds un empathetic and unsupportive. I’d be seriously reconsidering.

I'm sure your partner has seen worse stats in his working life as a surgeon but that's irrelevant to you and your individual situation! Unfortunately, some medical professionals can be egoistical and arrogant....it appears your partner might be one of these!

Your partner dismissed your concerns and belittled you, because he believed he knew better. He's been proved wrong, and is probably trying to save face.

My Uncle is an ex-nurse (retired probably 20+ years) (thankfully an uncle by marriage and not blood!) and my other Aunt was in hospital (not his wife) extremely ill. My cousin had been told by her consultant that she wasn't likely to last much longer. My Uncle basically told my cousin that the consultant didn't know what he was talking about, and didn't believe my cousin. My Uncle and my Aunt (his wife) went away for a couple of nights, no one could get hold of them, when my Aunt passed away. Of course, that was everyone else's fault, that no one could contact either him or my Aunt and nothing to do with the fact he was too arrogant to believe the consultant actually looking after my Aunt!!

I would be re-evaluating the relationship. Someone who is this dismissive, and makes you feel inferior and a nuisance, isn't someone I'd like to be associated with.

That's cool if he just wants to be a doctor. But if he also wants to be a partner he's going to have to get better at it.

Hmm….. major red flag for narcissism. It suspect he doesn’t like the attention being taken away from him.

I’m sorry you’re ill and I hope you feel better soon.

What an awful man and what a poor doctor he must be. If he treats his own wife this badly imagine how awful he must be to his patients ?

I just checked my NHS test results app and mine was 25(250) when I was blue lighted to hospital with a severe reaction to chemo and infection, I can only imagine how unwell you were feeling at 400. I’d be seriously unimpressed if he didn’t offer an apology

Even if he has seen higher levels it's still at a level that needs looking into.

And so what?

Its irrelevant, a GP shouldn't make statements of that nature on a social posting she may know what it is but someone else on this site may have a similar reading and not have a diagnosis.