Aibu - dont want to clean up diarrhea.

[Sugargliderwombat]

I am absolutely LIVID my disgusting partner has caught our children's stomach bug and so far this morning i have found:

Diarrhea around the toilet bowl and underside of toilet seat.

Shitty pants on the floor of the bathroom (same distance from toilet as the bin).

Shit stains in the bed.

He has gone to work. Yes, I know.

My aibu is that unless bedbound you are NEVER too ill to clean up your own shit. I have never, ever been too ill.

To avoid a dripfeed YES he has done this before. Vomited all over toilet seat and floor and said was too ill to clean it up. Again I was furious. If you got out of bed to vomit you can quickly spray and wipe it.

Foul. I wouldn’t have stayed with him after the first time it happened.

If you have by chance a second toilet, delegate the dirty one to home and use the other for yourself and the children.
Push the sheets onto his side of the bed and half fold clean ones on your side.
Hang his s…. pants on the wall on his side of the bed as an art decoration, think Tracey Emin.
Take a photo and sent it in the family WhatsApp to shame him?

3% of people (morons) said you were unreasonable! I couldn't imagine loving someone, wanting them to love you too, and doing this. It is an absolute embarrassment.

Total gross out. It made feel sick just reading it. I would put him in room by himself. A garden shed would be even better. With some plastic buckets for his toilet considerations.

Get rid of him asap. He really is a serious health hazard.

YANBU Gross . Make sure when he is cleaning it up he uses bleach not antibacterial spray . I used to use antibacterial spray and got every bug going when my kid was sick started using bleach and haven’t caught a bug since . Nothing works except proper bleach. I know I’m derailing a bit here. He might not be deliberately malicious just careless but I’d be nipping it in the bud for next time for sure .

Lazy cnt.

His bags would be packed and on the doorstep when he came back from work.

It is not about his pride.
He is stating his opinion of you, Sugarglidetwombat.
He is telling you, in no uncertain terms, that you are subservient to him. He is being extremely passive aggressive, even overtly agressive. He is showing his utter contempt for you. Full stop.

The question is: how much more are you willing to take and why are you letting your children learn this behaviour?
You stated something about not being able to get off the train. Bollocks. You are getting something out of the relationship and sadly you are willing to sacrifice your children.

Hang on, he's well enough to go to work but has left shit everywhere? I don't think I'd stay in that relationship if it was me. At the very least I'd use his credit card to pay for a hotel room until he's cleaned up thoroughly.

How low is your bar OP?

Technically, you should leave the mess for him to clean up. Two problems with that though. By the time he gets to it the whole house will stink and the germs will have spread. The other problem is that being the disgusting lazy slouch that he is, you'd have to supervise him cleaning or he'd have the whole bathroom smeared with poo.There's not an easy answer to this dilemma.You have my deepest sympathy. Talk about major ick!

Oopd. I meant NO easy answer.

I'm waiting for the update that he shat himself in the office and got sent home early ... Seriously I'm in absolutely agreement with all the other posters. Disrespectful, degenerate behaviour and this is not the first time. He deserves to have his nose rubbed in it.

Rub his nose in it. Vile bstd. So, he's gone to work, to spread the bug around. Probably leave his shit for some poor cleaner.

Hi. I just want to say please, as you have said you are finished , leave sooner rather than later, I stayed, it cost me my mental health, which is still broken now after 6 years.

Honestly, if I'm vomiting or having diarrhoea that isn't making the toilet, then no I'm probably not well enough to clean it up. But then of course, I'm also not well enough to go to work. The one time I remember being supremely unwell, heavily pregnant too, and I had an accident in bed. Husband cleaned it up, got me in the bath, and changed the bed. While I cried in the bath out of sheer mortification, he got on with it. Never spoke of it again.

He can't have it both ways.

100% agree.

No way. My oh had seriously bad food poisoning after few weeks ago. To the point he was extreemly week and struggling to stand, I thought he was going to need drs. He managed to clean up and also aim his poo and puke accurately. I would have understood if not as he was incredibly unsteady BUT not if he was well enough to go to work!!!

You and I both.

Your anger may eventually dissipate OP but his complete lack of respect for you (and his colleagues) will not.

He is a filthy, inconsiderate pig and I seriously dont think you should waste another millisecond with him.

It sounds drastic but honestly, start your new life now

How is he not utterly disgusted by himself?

Because it's only you seeing it, and he doesn't care. He would definitely care and be embarrassed if you told other people what he's done. As you should. Life will be better without shit in the bed.

I really hope you tell family and friends what he has done.
What he left for his children to find, and for you to clean up.

This is domestic abuse IMO and I think you need to contact Women's aid for support.

He really is scum.
Don't protect him by staying quiet.

3% YABU- love to know the reason why!

Absolutely disgusting. Thank god i dont live with a man anymore.
I could not deal with that.

Dirty bastards.

This 💯
Plus being a dirty ba*tard