Aibu - dont want to clean up diarrhea.

[Sugargliderwombat]

I am absolutely LIVID my disgusting partner has caught our children's stomach bug and so far this morning i have found:

Diarrhea around the toilet bowl and underside of toilet seat.

Shitty pants on the floor of the bathroom (same distance from toilet as the bin).

Shit stains in the bed.

He has gone to work. Yes, I know.

My aibu is that unless bedbound you are NEVER too ill to clean up your own shit. I have never, ever been too ill.

To avoid a dripfeed YES he has done this before. Vomited all over toilet seat and floor and said was too ill to clean it up. Again I was furious. If you got out of bed to vomit you can quickly spray and wipe it.

A great many of us will have had Norovirus alongside our kids/toddlers and babies, and will have managed to clean up after everyone.

He is beyond anything that can be excused or helped. I would be so repulsed that divorce would be the only option. I am sure some have divorced for a lot less.

The toilet bowl left in that state is crap.
But the pants? Left in the floor with shit on them
The bedsheets?
And then going to work.

Why would I be surprised if he also isn’t thoroughly washing his hands either 🤮🤮🤬🤬

34 years with my partner and NEVER had to clean up after him when sick. Would have given me the permanent ick. Sorry but that is effing disgusting - if he is well enough to get to work he can strip the bed and put it in the machine, clean the loo and bin his soiled undies. Sorry, but I would not be able to look at him the same ever again.

But then there'd be twice as much diarrhoea sprayed 🙄

Did you clean it?

Shame the children are ill or else I would have said book a hotel and leave him to his mess

If hes well enough to work hes well enough to clean. Thats it.

Bet he wouldnt clean your shit

Your post actually made me shudder, OP. Do you have a spare bedroom? If so, I’d be decamping there and leaving him to sort out the sheets. I’d be very cross if this were a teenager: from a grown man, it’s beyond unacceptable. If he was well enough to go to work, he was certainly well enough to clear up after himself. Hell, if he was so ill he had to stay at home, he could still have rinsed his pants out or thrown them away. Truly beyond unreasonable behaviour, OP.

It is digusting I agree

HOWEVER you said he’s done it before! My question @Sugargliderwombat is why you are putting up with this gross behaviour

my advice is get cleaned up and then pack his bags - why would you want to be with someone like this it’s absolutely 🤮

I judge you both.

Him for doing it and you for staying.

I bet he wouldn’t do it if some beautiful, young woman was staying at yours for the week.

But what are you actually going to do about it apart from writing about the disgusting details here????

Well you are choosing to stay with him, he doesn't really care how angry you get as he knows you will clean it up.

How come this filthy specimen is still your partner? I'd be flinging him out of the door, along with his shitty underwear and sheets.

He's utterly disgusting and doesn't respect you or your kids (are they also his?) at all. Get rid.

He went to work. He can clean up.
Couldn't live with this.

i bet his work mates are thrilled at him spreading his stomach bug.
my partner who is going blind and struggles still manages to clear up to the best of his ability I often just have a quick mop round only as I am fussy but it is okay. If he needed to he would put everything in the washer or put his pants in the outside bin so i would not have to deal with them

Bet the filthy pig didn't clean himself properly either before he set out to spread his germs at work

What a dirty soapy bastard!

What a dirty soapy bastard!

IF it's a bit and he was going to clean it up later, but was forcing himself into work..well it's still not great.
But should he even be going to work in this state?

Does he disgust you in other ways too? It sounds like you have grounds for reconsidering the relationship.

YANBU

I only cleaned up after my late husband after he had a major stroke...and even then, the poor soul apologised profusely.

Wow but your bar is low.

Nah, leave it for him to clean when he gets home. He does it because you respond inappropriately.

I couldn't stay with a partner who shat in the bed and left it. I really couldn't.

I would have supported you contacting his work to say he is ill, so he should be sent home. He is failing in basic requirements of the Health and Safety at Work Act if there is any possibility of his germs being spread.