AIBU to quit coaching because of difficult and aggressive parents?

[StressedOutFedUp]

A couple of years ago I trained up to teach children a particular sport. I was really passionate about it, and thought I would really enjoy it. I don't do it FT and I WFH in another job.

The children are mostly really nice, but it is the parents that are the problem. I have never experienced such vitriol in my life. I have had 6ft + dads blocking my way demanding to know when their DC is going to be doing this and that, and personally blame me when their DC aren't selected for certain things.

Last week I had one dad corner me because his child was not progressing as much as he wanted. The truth was that this child is not interested, comes up with every excuse in the book not to participate (sore ear, sore toe, sore tummy) and opts out of the tasks I give them. I am constantly threatened with "I'll pull my DC out if you don't....."

The people running it can only do so much. They get it too.

The parents get very upset if they see another child progress in the lesson. It's like a competition and they are missing out. I'm sorry, but some children are really good at sport, and others are good at art, music or drama. You can't force it.

I have to go there tomorrow and I am just dreading it. I think I have sunk cost fallacy. I spent a lot of money training up, and I don't usually quit. However, I am not enjoying it, feel really stressed out waiting for the next aggressive outburst and I now feel unmotivated. I used to put so much effort into preparing for it, and now I feel why should I bother.

I feel my options are quit or stay and be miserable, but wonder if others who coach/ teach DC can offer me another solution.

AIBU to quit?

Most likely because they think it reflects on them as people. If their kids are losers then so are they. Clearly very insecure and see their children as an extension of themselves.

It's just incredibly immature. It's much easier for children to deal with not being in the spotlight all the time if parents reassure them it's a normal part of life and their time will come. This build resilience and perseverance. Maybe some parents want their dc to be the winner the the favourite and best ALL THE TIME.

Personally I think that's quite unstable.

My husband quit coaching for the same reason.

he put hours into it.. and his own money.. to make it a good experience for kids.

He was constantly berated my parents….the final straw was when he asked for parents to confirm if their child was attending a tournament. He got hardly any responses despite sending out reminders… making it really difficult to plan. He ordered pizza as a post match treat for the kids.. out of his own pocket… and a parent had a go at him as the kids had to share a pizza as double the amount of people turned up as had confirmed.

After years of utter bullshit that was that.. he quit the same day

I hear you OP. I volunteer in a sport in a number of capacities including coaching and club secretary. Most of the kids and most of the parents are at least ok, many are really nice, but we have a vocal minority who drive me mad. I don't know if there's something in the water this year but I have been typing the words "Please remember that all our coaches and club officials are unpaid volunteers" an awful lot recently.
I don't think you can win. When everything goes completely smoothly, well it can't be very much work can it, it looks really easy, but as soon as there is any minor problem you are an incompetent idiot. And what do you mean by finishing 4 mins early this week, they're paying for this you know! (A whole £3 an hour 🙄)
I go through peaks and troughs. I'm in a trough right now as I often get a bit worn down about half way through the year and we've had several big competitions close together which are really hard work and have a tendency to provoke petty complaints.
But I know I'll get my get up and go back in a bit, and whenever I'm about to throw the towel in something nice usually happens to stop me!
Of course you are not unreasonable to give up if a voluntary activity if it is bringing you no pleasure but do be sure you're not just in a temporary trough. "Never give up on your worst day" has proven to be good advice for me.
Well done on everything you've achieved. It's valuable, even if you don't feel appreciated

Definitely this.
Ban the confrontational parents, and let them take their kids elsewhere.
Good riddance.
You will be doing the children who want to learn, and the parents who are genuine a massive favour.
Do not give up on something you love.

Have parents always bee so entitled?

No, things have shifted in the last 2/3 generations

No, definitely not. This is something I’ve noticed getting increasingly worse in the last 10 years and this is echoed by Teacher friends as well

Shame, these aggressive and self entitled attitudes are actually harmful to all, not just teachers, coaches but the children in the team as well as the bully parent's own children. Just awful.