Aibu to think it is right she has been reported

[FedUp120028]

So,

My friend has made the assumption that I made the report, I didn't.

A mum I have come across, has come from a DV relationship, so I get her going through a tough time. This woman had her child out till very late at night and drove home under the influence of cocaine and alcohol. I ummed and arred about reporting but I don't know the little girls name, however someone has reported her and I said to my friend good bloody job because I would have reported her to the police if I was there and knew she was driving so I am glad someone did.

We have fallen out now, she has cancelled on my birthday plan assuming it was me, but AIBU to think and tell her its a good thing?

If she's blaming you for ACTUALLY reporting the other friend, then clarify (again) that it was not you who reported and you don't know who did. If she wants to end the friendship or snub you because you said that reporting was the right thing to do and that you would have done it yourself if you'd had the information needed, then it sounds like you have conflicting beliefs and she is not willing to consider your (fairly mainstream and acceptable) view on this. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, but if she can't let the difference of opinion go it might be the end of the friendship.

I am quite happy to end the friendship if she thinks taking drugs around children and then driving under the influence is okay - we are obviously different people.

Make your mind up. You told you friend
"good bloody job because I would have reported her to the police if I was there and knew she was driving"

So did you know or not? Did you not report because you weren't there and didn't know, would would in principle, or did you not report because you didn't know the chidks name?

And this is why we have the Preston varley s
The baby ps.. the Victoria climbie s

So your friend was getting high and drunk with her mate whilst whisky the kid slept on the sofa.
Then the three of them got in the car, dropped off your mate and those two continued.
Someone reported them.
Your friend then told you about all this.
You said you'd have reported her too if you'd known.

So what's this about knowing her name? Of course your friend is pissed with you, she's also a fu king terrible human with shit judgement and you should, by all accounts, be judging them both.

This isn’t friend material.

She's no friend. Forget her, move on. You were going to report, someone else did it before you, you can sleep at night. You can't make anyone believe you btw.

The only person in this story that is a bad person is the mum who drug-drove their child. I hope the woman gets some help and out of the DV relationship and onto a much better life.

You're better off without either of those two.

Im confused. Her child is grown up and doesnt live with her? So the "child" could have said no mum Im not getting in the car with you?

You need to reassess your social circle.

I think you and your friend have different values so best to end the friendship.
Letting someone drive whilst high and drunk, and with a child, is not what a friend should do either. She should have got her a taxi. If she can afford coke she can afford an uber.

@Dollymylove

The OP is talking about two separate individuals - one friend with a grownup child and another woman (the person who got reported) who has a younger child.

No.
Druggie friend put her young child in the car. Shit friend cadged a lift too.

Shit friends child is grown up so doesn't feel it's necessary to report druggie Mom because her own child wasn't affected as they weren't there and are adults.

I think you’re messing this up op, your story doesn’t make any sense. It’s always best to read what you’ve written if easily confused.

Except it all happened yesterday so she couldn’t have reported

I had a friend and neighbour who drank and drove. I was very clear that if I had the opportunity (ie I knew when she was driving and intoxicated) I would call the police. I genuinely didn’t care if she fell out with me over it. I like my friends to have morals.

Can I just get this right.

A woman you know drove her car with her child in it while she was under the influence of alcohol and cocaine, yes?

And you've come here to ask

"AIBU to think and tell her its a good thing?"

I absolutely despair that you (a presumably grown woman) needs to ask this question.

And I sincerely hope you're not a driver or ever end up in charge of children.

You should NOT need to ask this for goodness sake.

You are either over reacting or have misread it.

"AIBU to think and tell her its a good thing?"

What have I misread exactly?

Would you tell the OP that yes, she's being unreasonable to think it's a good thing a parent was reported for drink/drug driving with her child in the car?

What's your reasoning if so?

This thread is so confusing. I would suggest finding new friends.

So yes you’ve not read it properly. In fairness to you it’s a poorly written OP

Of course I've read it properly.

How are you reading it then?

The OP is checking whether she's being unreasonable to think and tell her it's a good thing that her friend was reported.

Fair enough the last bit about telling her, but unreasonable to think it was a good thing she was reported??

How could it possibly be unreasonable to think that?

ETA: Even the question in the thread title is a worry that it had to be asked.

Safeguarding is EVERYONE’s responsibility

Do you understand how discussion boards work? OPs friend has fallen out with her over this, it’s more of a discussion about it, suggesting she should never be allowed to be in charge of children or vehicles is just plain stupid. Whether she said this to her friend or not wouldn’t have changed the outcome, she would have just not been voicing her opinion on it.

Wow, she’s not your friend then OP. You’re well shot of her.