Inconsequential but HIGHLY irritating things your DH does

[itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes]

I’m not talking ‘fails to do any housework’ or ‘won’t parent his own kids’ but minor irritations that make you want to scream but you can’t because its so petty. For me

Refuses to use the automatic windscreen wiper. Instead he waits until he has no visibility and then manually flips the wiper on once. In heavy rain he’s doing it every couple of seconds. Just put the bloody auto wipers on!!

Unloads the dishwasher but leaves select things stacked up ‘near’ the cupboard or drawer they live in rather than putting them away. Apparently they are left there to ‘thoroughly dry’.

Rage!!!

Swings his foot when eating a treat.
Like a kid/waggy dog.

These things seem inconsequential but in a LTR they really are not.

Read the famous blog post "My wife left me because I left my dishes by the sink"

I put pans on the top shelf! Is that wrong??

Omg this is LTB territory.

I do that🤣

I sent a link to that to my partner years ago, he refused to read it!

😳 I’m guilty of this!

We all do them though and the good far outweighs the bad. Plus I enjoy getting the mild rage occasionally, amd being in the right. If it reaches critical mass, that's a different story, but this is a silly thread about mild peeves.

So, not putting that stand bit back under the coffee machine when he uses a bigger cup. I don't know why it annoys me, but it does.

(1) Shoes not in shoe rack
(2) Dishwasher stacked incorrectly (according to me)
(3) Clothes on clothes horse hung incorrectly (according to me)
I have to redo the last two every time I see them. Objectively I can see that the way he hangs the clothes will still dry them. I just don't like it. (I'm right about the dishwasher though).

I'm sure I have equally annoying habits.

Doesnt surprise me!

@itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes

Refuses to use the automatic windscreen wiper. Instead he waits until he has no visibility and then manually flips the wiper on once. In heavy rain he’s doing it every couple of seconds. Just put the bloody auto wipers on!!

OMG, my DH has started to do this. Just this year (He is 60-ish!) Never used to do it! It makes me so anxious (when I am in the passenger seat.....) I think 'YOU CANNOT SEE ANYTHING!' 😱 During those few seconds that he has no visibility, ANYthing could happen!

Flicking his flip/flop slider (on his foot) up in the air when his feet are stretched out on his recliner footrest!

Watching shitty old crap on Talking Pictures, that was out 25 years or more before he was born, and constantly watching the same 7 or 8 comedies and light hearted dramas from the mid 1960s to early 1990s on a loop.

Also something he says that gives me the rage. 'I've tidied the kitchen for you...' (FOR ME?!!!!) 😠

And the latest one that makes me want to claw out my own eardrums....... 'You didn't mind me doing the washing up did you?' What? The? Fuck? I just say 'why on earth would I MIND you doing the washing up?' It's a roundabout way of saying 'aren't you really grateful and properly chuffed that I've done the washing up? I've saved you a job. Go me!'

Leaves empty coffee cups in his office for days, meanwhile my clean mug supply drops daily

We’re off on holiday on Thursday morning. I’m supposed to be off tomorrow but can’t be. There is quite a bit to do before we go, but don’t worry, MrZelda has been off today so he would muck in and share the load. As I marvelled at the piles of clean washing to be sorted this evening, he decided it was vital that he…cut the front grass. 🤨

The utter rage!!!

Are we married to the same man?

I think a lot of us are, and we should report him for bigamy.

Do we have the same husband? Mine does this, both the ignoring a dirty cafetière (which is particularly irksome as he is so tidy and clean otherwise - what is it about the cafetière?!) and the disappearing kitchen items - I have (only semi jokingly) banned him from the kitchen while I am cooking as every implement ends up in the dishwasher as soon as it leaves my hand. I turn around to use a spatula, cake mix bowl (or similar) in hand - usually juggling something, and it’s gone!! He’s the same with paperwork and other random items, I’ll put something somewhere to remind me to do a task or take it to work and he’ll put it away or file it. I shouldn’t really complain but I do often ask him if he didn’t think if maybe there was a reason I left it out on the side…?

He is, however, the opposite to all the other windscreen wiper culprits - he can’t cope with anything on the screen, whether he’s driving or not - if there’s a speck or drip on the passenger side when I’m driving he will ask repetitively for me to wash/wipe the screen as it annoys him. He’s the same with his glasses, constantly cleaning them.

If you eat meals from it or cook with it, it’s on the bottom. If you drink from it or snack from it, it’s on the top.

It’s not a random oddity, it’s how the dishwasher works. When it first rinses, the dishwasher senses how dirty the water is and adjusts the wash accordingly. Stuff on the top shelf doesn’t rinse so well on the first wash, so the dishwasher thinks your dishes are cleaner than they are if you put the very dirty stuff on the top. This is also why you don’t rinse dishes before you put them in.

I only drink cold water so have a couple of 1 litre glass bottles in the fridge that I can fill up to always have cold water. Dh has now decided that he likes cold water after many years of being happy with straight from the tap temperature, fine so I add another 1 litre bottle to the door collection and explain to him my system so we all know which bottle is the coldest.

It seems he can run a multi million £ business with divisions in different countries but my cold water system completely flummoxes him. I've had two occasions where I've poured my water and its warm, pointed out his error to him on the first occasion, the second time told him he does it again and he will be banned from drinking my cold water, that the fridge in the garage with cold water on a dispenser will be his if he messes up again. So far my threat has worked.

Breathes too loudly
Whistles horrible
Sneezes dramatically
Snores ....then uses anti snoring aids and breathes loudly through his nose instead
Clomps upstairs loudly at 1am after falling asleep on the sofa
He even wees loudly

Oh then confuses us all by mumbling so quietly, it's bizarre.

Puts all the shopping away except any toiletries....they get left on kitchen counter for weeks if I don't move them

Blindly follows the satnav even when it's blindingly obvious it is wrong, or there are clear signs to where we need.

Piles stuff up rather than put it away

Waters the grass but never the flowers

Edited to add more to the list of rage

Mine is really fussy about how the dishwasher is loaded down to plates being in size order and evenly spaced etc. just chuck it in, it makes no difference! 😤

Always wears two pairs of socks and leaves them together when he takes them off. I still love him though ❤️

This drives me mad when my DH does this too. Sneezing is so unhygienic & disgusting when you look at the science behind it - so he could at least infect me discreetly. I find loud farting less off-putting, to be honest - at least it’s not contagious.

And dont get me started on when he doesnt wash his hands after the sneezing…. 🤢

I hate loud and performative yawning too. “Am i boring you? Well, youre nauseating me 😀”

Dishwashers seem to be a major source of angst for many couples! It's the same here. DH has an infuriating habit of leaving dishes in the sink or on top of the dishwasher, even when it is empty.
Another one is that he has a bad back so likes to lie on the floor with a couple of cushions off the sofa under his head and he never picks them up and puts them back afterwards. It only takes me 10 seconds to do it so it is not a major inconvenience but then it would only take him 10 seconds too! He's generally a pretty tidy and considerate bloke but seems to have a mental block on these things and it drives me mad. But then I probably have some pretty annoying habits too.

My DH used to leave his empty coke cans by the sink, rather than in the recycling bin, which is under the sink.