To expect a snack when visiting someone's home for a few hours?

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Context matters clearly, so I will give some background.
We've been invited to friends' place who live outside of London (90mins car ride) and we agreed to come by over the weekend for a few hours in the early afternoon. The invite was not for an overnight stay but more of a housewarming situation - as in come and see how the place looks like (not for a group of people but just us visiting). They have been living in the flat for 5 months now, I am pregnant so couldn't take a trip during first semester due to sickness - now more up for it.
Anyway we had an early light lunch (luckily) and took off today to arrive after almost a 2 hour drive due to traffic. We had a lovely time chatting and stayed for around 2 hours (I literally had to leave and gave signal to my husband as I was starving to the point of being nauseous).
We got offered a tea upon arrival (drink, not a meal - to avoid any confusion) so I had a cup of tea -no biscuits involved.
I have to admit that on my way to the loo I literally stole a couple of crackers from an open bag sitting on a sideboard near the kitchen and I ate that in the bathroom (yeah...).
After we said goodbyes and went into the car my husband started googling for any nearby pub to have dinner - I advocated against in case they go out later, it would be super awkward if we stumbled upon them. So we grabbed some snacks in an off licence for the car and were on our way.
I mean surely as a host you have some concept of your guests travelling to see you and need to travel back - for us this would be almost 6 hours without a meal and I am pregnant.
I just don't get it. Even a box of digestives would have helped.
Maybe it's a cultural difference thingy, she is american he is scandinavian. Anyway aibu?

If someone is visiting my house I’ll subways offer biscuits with tea.
Udually if invited someone especially when pregnant I would always offer food.

Some posters are arguing that we should all 'keep snacks in' i.e. have them on the off chance.
Not sure why you're asking me whether I bring food when I'm visiting as I'm not the one who needs to snack constantly. In any case, the answer is yes, I do sometimes bring something and other times I might bring wine or whatever.

I think if I was pregnant/ diabetic/ had some other medical reason why I needed to eat every few hours I’d of took snacks with me at least in the car. Probably have taken a cake or something with me as a gift and suggested hey shall we have some cake baby is starving. Or even have suggested we go out to eat. You could have said you were hungry. You’re an adult! On their behalf tho yes rude. They should have had some biscuits at least to offer you!

This is a very strange thread indeed. Of course they should have offered you drinks / cake / biscuits if you were visiting by invitation for the afternoon.

You were entirely reasonable to expect that as a minimum!

I think if someone pregnant came to my house I would definitely have offered a snack as I was the same and know how it feels to have insane pregnancy hunger/nausea. I had to eat a low carb snack every 2 hours because I also had gestational diabetes aswell as the hunger and nausea and if I didn't do that my blood sugar would sky rocket although I did get into the habit of taking the snacks with me just incase no-one had anything I could eat.

You dismissed pregnancy and other perfectly ordinary human conditions as 'problems' that people.might have 'on the off chance'... on a parenting site...

I think some people are saying they always have something on hand to offer. ? 🤷‍♀️
If you came to mine today, you'd get grapes and cheese - maybe some cake which is left over from a party this past weekend.
But, I'm out of both milk and sugar ... so you'd have to go without if you want tea/coffee!
(I could grab mint from the garden and make unsweetened mint iced tea though!)

Biscuits
https://www.ethicalconsumer.org/food-drink/shopping-guide/biscuits

"I think some people are saying they always have something on hand to offer. ? 🤷‍♀️"

I understood they were saying that EVERYONE should have something on hand to offer. If you came to mine today, I'd have some strawberries, but maybe they're not good for someone suffering from nausea.

Seems a bit extreme to potentially end a friendship over non-offering of a biscuit! ( even though I agree that the host should have offered one)

I'd consider morning/pregnancy sickness to be a problem, yes. As I would diabetes, which can actually be a serious condition.

Because it was a present for them to.emjoy when they want.

Soup? For a two hour mid afternoon visit? That’s bizarre!

My husband is ‘Scandinavian’ (I mean there are about 7 countries and cultures under that category ) and he wouldn’t treat a guest like that.

Why would you think that your friend is representative of approximately 22 million people?

Morning sickness is not the same as pregnancy cravings which are not the same as needing nourishment when pregnant which is not the same as gestational diabetes which...
And these are all part of being human. Human bodies go through many phases.

The solution to this tender 'problem' is sticking with able bodied cis males.

Rude rude rude.

Stop explaining your host’s behaviour on ‘cultural differences’.

‘Scandinavians’ do not treat guests like that as homogeneous group.

Being pregnant is a perfectly normal healthy biological process. It doesn’t mean one has to gorge on snacks.

You missed my point: it’s the so-called etiquette that’s the problem. Much like people used to smoke a fag after sex or on planes. Take a step back and look at the lunacy.

Strange!

I haven't really taken that from the replies. I think posters (including me) are saying if you know in advance someone is coming, it's nice to lay something in. If you drop by unannounced, I'd be able to scrounge something up, but what it was would be more hit and miss. We're not huge sweet eaters, so I do try to make cookie dough and pre-portioned balls in the freezer as we're otherwise unlikely to have biscuits around.

I don't know where else the Anti Snack Pregnancy Punishers on this thread get their ideas from about what is nice or normal por needed...

To be fair, I am a zorgolite but there is plenty of history and evidence to support that humans didn’t snack. Food was scarce so they ate in big bursts, the opposite of snacking which just keeps you hungry due to blood sugar crashes.

Snacking is big business for processed food companies and the ritual of cake, biscuits etc. is wonderful marketing for them. And it’s bloody addictive.

Or where the ‘anticipate the desires of a pregnant woman because she hasn’t bothered anticipating them herself’ people get their ideas.

Eating something is 'gorging'? Have a snack, while pregnant or not, is equivalent to smoking? On a plane? I think you might be the one who needs to step back.

Otters have a high metabolic rate 🦦

While I agree it’s bad manners not to have some snacks and offer more drinks for a visitor that has been invited to spend the afternoon, I am a bit confused why you’re saying “there will be no next time” and “we didn’t want to offend them if they saw us in the pub later on” - why do you care if they’re offended if you’re never planning on seeing them again?

Also, it is weird to steal crackers rather than ask for something to eat. I probably would have said “God, I’m starving. Being pregnant has made me so much hungrier” and if nothing was forthcoming then made my excuses and left rather than steal some old crackers.