To say I don't have time for work this week ?

[Fluffiest9087]

This week inbetween my 50 hour working week i have:
dentist appt for me
Oncology telephone appt
Water plants for sister who is away. I'll need to go to hers every other day. She's a 15 minute drive each way
Have roots done - the only appt I could get for 8 weeks
Take DC1 to an appt in the day - 1 hour drive each way
PT every day (5am)
DC2 has dentist appt
DC2 has hospital

... how the hell am I going to fit in work ?!

... and a lot of people only work Monday to Thursday now. Are you doing 12 hour shifts OP?

Is the PT good looking?

Ask your sister's next door neighbour to water her plants.
Drop half your personal trainer sessions.
Keep medical and dentist appointments and take time off work for those - though have your child ferried via uber to and fro school whenever it saves time.
Keep the hair appointment

1. Make a list.
2. Prioritise.
3. Cancel the last on the list.

I don't know anyone working full time with other commitments who could fit in a PT everyday. That's crazy. Why did you volunteer to water your sisters plants if you don't have time to do it?

You're trying to do too much OP. Only you can fix that.

What sort of plants are they that need watering every day?

I often feel like this trying to juggle work and life outside work!

No, I can't fit work in either

As usual, the main issue is useless fucking husband.

I don’t understand how a man capable of work is incapable of bringing his child to the dentist.

She said DH father so I assumed that meant there’s no DH

I know what you mean op. Stupid work gets in the way of everything - I was just saying the same thing to an acquaintance yesterday when I was in the post office mid-afternoon. I need 3 lunch breaks really - one to walk the dog, one to pop to the shop, one for school pickup. Oh, and then actual lunch!!

The problem is that the average mother isn't working a 50hr week which is clearly the issue, I wouldn't work those kinds of hours, that kind of working will push people into early graves!

Yes! And then the OP excuses his behaviour. Even if he has issues - he can still help.

There’s a theme of - people pleasing, excusing behaviour, trying to fit too much in, trying to be a perfectionist. None of this is a criticism- but it’s unhealthy and a cancer diagnosis should have been the thing that forced a reevaluation and a change.

The DH can water some plants and take a child to the dentist. He’s not fully disabled.

In no way is it healthy to do a PT session every morning at 5am instead of getting a bit more sleep. A few mornings a week is sufficient. You don’t have to be superwoman OP. Your body has already complained to you and you haven’t listened to it.

This way of living us very unnecessary! Why work such excessively long house? Why do you need to see at personal trainer at 5am every morning? You don't need to water plants every other day! This sounds all a bit made up to me! Why would you have kids just to actively avoid being part of their life by choosing excessive working hours and obsessively visiting a personnel trainer every single day? What time are you getting up in a morning to have breakfast and get to a personal trainer by 5am! This just doesn't sound realistic to me! So between your obsession for work and personal training and needing to get some sleep, you are a very absent parent!

Could your husband take a day or a couple of half days A.l for the kids appointments? So that you’re sharing the jobs? You just book the other days off as AL. The watering thing is a nice thing to do and I’m sure she’d help you out if you needed a favour. My neighbour got a timed watering system for her plants which means she no longer asks us to water them when they go on holiday. Maybe suggest that to her for the future.

So do we all but we fit that around work not the other way round. Such an odd perspective you have. Most of us would be thinking 'how will I fit in exercise each week around my job and what day can I get my hair done...'

Anyone with kids has appointments for them and the kids, the options are work less or use annual leave

It's amazing everyone is suggesting dropping the two things are likely just for the OP, and are likely things that'll lift her spirit. After all, her week sounds hectic as hell.

I'd book some annual leave for some of the appointments and ask for some time out for the medical appointments.

You could get off MN, that would save you time. And just get on with it like we all do

Again, very unkind, ignorant and frankly stupid responses on this thread. Especially @FlyingCatGirl

You need some help,or less hours at work. That said you can't really expect to do a hair appointment in work hours.

The hair appt is in my own time
I get the time given to me for medical appts and DC medical appts
BUT I am still mad dashing around to get to it all..