To say I don't have time for work this week ?

[Fluffiest9087]

This week inbetween my 50 hour working week i have:
dentist appt for me
Oncology telephone appt
Water plants for sister who is away. I'll need to go to hers every other day. She's a 15 minute drive each way
Have roots done - the only appt I could get for 8 weeks
Take DC1 to an appt in the day - 1 hour drive each way
PT every day (5am)
DC2 has dentist appt
DC2 has hospital

... how the hell am I going to fit in work ?!

Well, yes, we’d all like to give ourselves some TLC, but that doesn’t mean it’s reasonable to prioritise that over having a job.

It’s your job that’s paying for things like hairdressers and a personal trainer.

Take two or three half days strategically, so you have time for the things Cut back on the PT.

I often take a morning off if I have appointments. You can move from A to B easier in the mornings aa roads aren't as busy mid mornings.

I couldn’t work 50 hours a week

Can you drop the rope a bit at work? (Or are you a doctor?)

That just means don't do any work

5 am is a good time. Sets you up for the day and it's absolutely TLC to take that hour for yourself. If I was overloaded the gym wouldn't be the first thing I'd shelve.

Cut out all unnecessary things. Like getting up at 5 am. Ridiculous. And watering other folks plants wtf!

How dod you schedule the appintments in the first place?

Where is the children’s father in all of this? If you’re working then why do all the appointments for the kids fall to you?

Also best part of an hour every day when you have a busy life to water your sister’s plants is ridiculous. Say no next time.

I don't think watering the plants belonging to your sister is an unreasonable thing to do

I feel for you. I mean I'd definitely cancel the PT at 5am because any excuse would be great haha. Fully appreciate some people really find it useful though and want to exercise.

I think the spirit of your post is really to say how we all feel - being a working parent is a bloody tough gig! I hope your week goes by without being too awful and you can have a nice rest on the weekend. Also I would think about booking emergency annual leave for the worst day of you can

Did you read the part where she mentioned oncology? Have some decency

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Well you dont have to do PT or get your roots done so there is a significant chunk of time back.
The forecast isnt that hot so you should only need to do the plants every third day of you give them a good soak each time you go.
But honestly, your schedule seems no better or worse than almost every parent going so stop trying to sound like a martyr.

People are allowed vent/ rant/ moan freak out, and every parent definitely should list their shit and freak out over it to someone else every so often!!!!

I know what you mean!
Somehow though I think busy people make it all work

I volunteer for a couple of charities alongside a very full time job and both my own chronic medical condition and my children's appointments

I don't see why you should give up the PT. My daily swim is my little pocket of "me time" and clears my head for the day

I do think that ideally someone else should water your sister's plants. But equally I understand wanting to help out family

Just know when enough is enough. I said no to a couple of volunteering bits recently as I realised I do have to accept my limits

None of your lost is onerous or time consuming so I'm really not sure what you're talking about in regards to not having time to work. I'm obviously missing something.

Absolutely agree. If you have cancer you should NOT be getting up at 5am to see a personal trainer-and work a 50 hour week. Something needs to stop

Out of interest what plants does your sister have that need watering every other day? I have many house plants all of different breeds and needs but none that need watering more than once every other week and that's only when it's hot.

I feel like work gets in the way of my life all the time, but unfortunately I have bills to pay and I'm waiting for that lotto win to come through - I get two chances now though.

Surely your work treats things like oncology telephone appointments and kid's medical needs differently to PT sessions and getting your hair done?

Yeah i give mine a proper good soak and let them sit in the water for a while so the roots get a good drink from underneath and it can be 5 days or so before the soil dries out.

I don’t water my house plants every week, let alone every other day! Why did you offer to do that? Can your DH not take the kids to at least one appointment? You should have a hair appointment during the weekend. Half your schedule is your choice, and some you can foist on someone else (other parent) - otherwise it looks pretty normal.

OP's schedule reminds me why I decided to be single and child free.

the plants are all outdoor .. hanging baskets and garden . and we have no rain forecast here this week. some of the plants are under cover .. so even if it did rain, they will not get the water.

Appts were all imposed, I did not schedule for them all to be the same week. All NHS, so I had to take whatever they gave me or or risk a long wait for the next appt.

PT is mentally a life saver. It has more mental health benefits to me than physical.

DH father is around .. but he is ASD and cannot cope with himself.. let alone DC appts. He has already had a bit of a mini mental crises this weekend at his work load for this week ..he does not work 50 hours, but is FT.

Edit to add the hair appt was the only one I could get for 8 weeks.

You must be exhausted @Fluffiest9087i mean it’s rained a lot here overnight … I’m sure the plants could wait an extra day. Physically PT is a lot at 5am and if you need it everyday as it’s a ‘lifesaver’ then I get you need to do it (what makes it a life saver mentally ? Perhaps worth unpicking that as it will be pretty gruelling on your body and not recommended).

I get with ASD the mental aspect is hard when they feel overloaded already but you’re clearly over-compensating in so many areas of life and will make yourself ill. Maybe it is worth taking a couple of days off leave. You’d be surprised if you just asked your husband maybe he could help. Good luck! I’m so glad you’ve recovered from your cancer - it really is time to focus on you.

You can opt out. Millions of people do

Book leave for the appointments, especially if it takes an hour to get there and your husband genuinely can’t share the load.
50 hour week is ridiculous too…