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To think benefits need to be cut to fund increased spending on defence

706 replies

Viviennemary · 14/06/2026 20:04

This is absolutely necessary. Keir Starmer shouldnt have backed down the last time. But now with the current situation with Russia drastic steps need to be taken. We simply can't afford to sustain the current benefits bill with the armed forces so depleted. The money is needed to increase defence.

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Curveygirl · Today 14:45

ThreadGuardDog · Today 14:38

I take issue with the fact that you’re using the ability to work as the yardstick for assessing the severity of disability. Another example of your wrong thinking because PIP and DLA have absolutely nothing to do with the ability to work. They don’t assess for it at all, because it’s not an out of work benefit - it’s purely to help with the cost of disability. It’s also massively over simplifying complex disability.

There are many people who could work but are allowed to choose not to because their disability would cause them difficulties or embarrassment at work. I fully support that, having supported a disabled lad who tried to work despite severe spinal issues affecting bowel and bladder. He lost control at work and couldn’t get to the toilet in time - left a mess on his chair and had to go home to bathe and change. Can you imagine having to walk back into work the following day and face your colleagues after that ? And before you say work from home, where are the work from home jobs. It was all trotted out very neatly by various prime ministers speeches but the fact is that WFH jobs tailored to the needs of the disabled are very few and far between, if they even exist at all.

When have i said dla/ pip are related to work ability- i haven't never mind using it as a yardstick. However the thread is discussing benefits, it's in the title so keeping the discussion on that seems appropriate.

You realise you've just accused me of "wrong thinking" are you really trying to stop me having an opinion because you don't agree with it? They have words for that....

I have empathy for the young man you supported but wouldn't that come under being so disabled he can't work and in agreement with what I wrote?

You seem to be trying to virtue signal by mis representing my posts.

Curveygirl · Today 14:55

ThreadGuardDog · Today 14:24

Why do you not understand that an able bodied person telling a disabled person they are lucky not to be more severely disabled than they are, and that there are other people worse off than themselves, is not insulting in the extreme ? Where is your filter for offence, because there doesn’t seem to be any evidence of it here.

Why are you making assumptions about me when I haven't given any details about my life? You have absolutely no idea what my life consists of. The poster did divulge information on a public forum. They are able to work and have overcome a lot of disability, why is it unfactual to say that there are other people that are more disabled? Bloody hell even the dwp have levels of disability benefit awarded because not everyone with a disability is equally disabled!

So along with the wrong think do you now want to sensor everyone who disagrees with you too?...

Curveygirl · Today 15:01

youalright · Today 14:34

Yeah I'm the one being an arse 🙄

Yes, that's a good assumption but if you wanna try the debate idea it means not using insults as retorts and actually thinking about others ideas.

Fluffypuppy1 · Today 15:05

MulberryBrandy · Yesterday 21:02

I propose transparency in looking at the spending around the Royal Family. We are not allowed to know how much it costs to provide security for them. We do know it cost £22 million for the taxpayer for the security for the Coronation.

When the Queen died, Charles did not have to pay any inheritance tax at all.

Before anyone mentions tourism - the Royal households are not very popular on the list of tourist attractions in this country but cost a lot for staffing and upkeep.

According to figures from the Association of Leading Visitor Attractions and the royal household’s own figures for their residences, Buckingham Palace is at best the 69th most popular attraction in the UK.

Windsor Castle does better but is still only at number 18, behind Chester Zoo, Somerset House, Edinburgh Castle and the Botanic Gardens in Kew.

Buckingham Palace is only open to visitors from early July to late September, so wouldn’t be expected to have the same amount of visitors as attractions open most days year round. Windsor Castle also has a limited availability for visitors.

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:05

Curveygirl · Today 14:35

Are you saying that every person who claims pip at every raye for every condition is completely honest?

What nerve did i touch? Was it when i corrected you that not everyone is cared for in the community and some with disabilities are still locked away or when i said i was surprised you agree with the send reform given most disability charities don't?

No, not at all. But fraud and error in the disability benefits system is very low. And abolishing an element of a benefit for genuine claimants is not the way to tackle the fraud that does exist. Having worked within the PIP system it’s been my experience to date that PIP actually works the other way - rather than waving through spurious claims as seems to be the MN opinion, it actually prevents genuine claimants from getting the award they are entitled to. As evidenced by the 65-70% success rates where cases are brought to tribunal. Something is clearly wrong and it suggests that in many cases assessors are not qualified to judge the conditions they’re being asked to look at, because actual doctors and social care experts who make up PIP and child DLA panels tend to disagree with them at a very high rate. Which is massively unfair to the claimant.

And you haven’t hit a nerve with your comment about care in the community. Because it’s nitpicking. I was referring to the closing of the institutions which routinely housed disabled people up to the 1960s and 70’s simply because they were disabled. The people who are ‘institutionalised’ these days are mainly autistic people, those with learning disabilities and mental health conditions. Some are inpatients in mental health hospitals or assessment/treatment units, but the difference is that the average stay is five years, not whole lives as used to be the case. Many are detained simply because there is a lack of suitable community housing and social care available to support them. Many also enter the prison system because their needs are not recognised until they commit a crime - even then they tend to stay in prison because of the state of MH services generally in the UK.

As for the SEND reforms I broadly agree with the intended aim of focusing on support in mainstream schools because more children will be reached. The reception from disability charities has been mixed - welcoming increased support in mainstream education but pointing out that as with everything, the devil is in the details. Much of the debate is focused on structure and efficiency, but there needs to be more attention paid to the children who fall through the net - those whose needs aren’t recognised until they’re in crisis. More early diagnosis and less labelling of kids as defiant or disruptive will hopefully lead to earlier appropriate support and better outcomes.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · Today 15:06

ThreadGuardDog · Today 14:24

Why do you not understand that an able bodied person telling a disabled person they are lucky not to be more severely disabled than they are, and that there are other people worse off than themselves, is not insulting in the extreme ? Where is your filter for offence, because there doesn’t seem to be any evidence of it here.

That was particularly jaw-dropping, I must admit...

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:06

Curveygirl · Today 15:01

Yes, that's a good assumption but if you wanna try the debate idea it means not using insults as retorts and actually thinking about others ideas.

You seem to regard anyone who doesn’t agree with you as being insulting. Why is that ?

MandingoAteMyBaby · Today 15:09

Really baffling how people want to take from the poorest in Britain to buy bombs to kill poor people overseas.

Means test the state pension (because overall pensioners are the richest generation in British history), pledge to buy defensive capabilities only, no global power projection, declare political neutrality, and do not join foreign wars. Ever.

And get rid of Trident.

MulberryBrandy · Today 15:15

Fluffypuppy1 · Today 15:05

Buckingham Palace is only open to visitors from early July to late September, so wouldn’t be expected to have the same amount of visitors as attractions open most days year round. Windsor Castle also has a limited availability for visitors.

Yes and St James Palace does not seem to open to visitors much at all. My point is that the revenue generated by the actual Royals seems over-emphasised. There must be great savings to be had. Maybe cut down on some of the processions with them in open carriages, they don't look that comfortable doing this anyway?

The worst thing is the secrecy. Unlike the public the wills are kept in secret. Charles did not pay any inheritance tax on his mother's estate. The Met does not disclose the cost to the taxpayer of the security bill for the Royals. The Andrew/Epstein emails have been known by the Palace for six years, etc....

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:18

Curveygirl · Today 14:55

Why are you making assumptions about me when I haven't given any details about my life? You have absolutely no idea what my life consists of. The poster did divulge information on a public forum. They are able to work and have overcome a lot of disability, why is it unfactual to say that there are other people that are more disabled? Bloody hell even the dwp have levels of disability benefit awarded because not everyone with a disability is equally disabled!

So along with the wrong think do you now want to sensor everyone who disagrees with you too?...

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Nobody, not even the DWP would presume to tell a disabled person that they are lucky not to be more disabled than they are, or to remember that there are people worse off than themselves. I’m disabled myself and I wouldn’t even think of presuming that someone else’s’ disability is any of my business. Or comparing them to other disabled people. It’s not disability top trumps and it’s just another example of your jaw dropping insensitivity.

Curveygirl · Today 15:22

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:05

No, not at all. But fraud and error in the disability benefits system is very low. And abolishing an element of a benefit for genuine claimants is not the way to tackle the fraud that does exist. Having worked within the PIP system it’s been my experience to date that PIP actually works the other way - rather than waving through spurious claims as seems to be the MN opinion, it actually prevents genuine claimants from getting the award they are entitled to. As evidenced by the 65-70% success rates where cases are brought to tribunal. Something is clearly wrong and it suggests that in many cases assessors are not qualified to judge the conditions they’re being asked to look at, because actual doctors and social care experts who make up PIP and child DLA panels tend to disagree with them at a very high rate. Which is massively unfair to the claimant.

And you haven’t hit a nerve with your comment about care in the community. Because it’s nitpicking. I was referring to the closing of the institutions which routinely housed disabled people up to the 1960s and 70’s simply because they were disabled. The people who are ‘institutionalised’ these days are mainly autistic people, those with learning disabilities and mental health conditions. Some are inpatients in mental health hospitals or assessment/treatment units, but the difference is that the average stay is five years, not whole lives as used to be the case. Many are detained simply because there is a lack of suitable community housing and social care available to support them. Many also enter the prison system because their needs are not recognised until they commit a crime - even then they tend to stay in prison because of the state of MH services generally in the UK.

As for the SEND reforms I broadly agree with the intended aim of focusing on support in mainstream schools because more children will be reached. The reception from disability charities has been mixed - welcoming increased support in mainstream education but pointing out that as with everything, the devil is in the details. Much of the debate is focused on structure and efficiency, but there needs to be more attention paid to the children who fall through the net - those whose needs aren’t recognised until they’re in crisis. More early diagnosis and less labelling of kids as defiant or disruptive will hopefully lead to earlier appropriate support and better outcomes.

They are still institutionalised through lack of funding or community care. Five years may seem minor to you but it's five years that someone is detained/ dol without doing anything wrong. These people aren't an accceptable minority and shouldn't be an after thought. We cannot describe all disabled care as being in the community while people are kept in ATU's and hospitalised for this reason this isn't nitpicking, it's a national scandal. It's rather gearing that for someone who seems to be an advocate for all disabled you minimise their confinement.

You acknowledge that fraud does exist but chastise me for saying it. Removing the lower rates is what i've wrote as preferable (in my opinion) if benefits are reformed so that those with higher rates retain theirs.

The only disabled charity i've seem say anything near palitable about the send reforms is contact a family. The devil in the detail is removal of legal rights and the move to put the majority in mainstream with set provision rather than provision to meet need. I don't believe it's going to be as helpful as you clearly feel it will be. If anything there will be more "units" in mainstream to babysit rather than educate. I am genuinely surprised at your support for this given how much you've said you've worked with cwd families.

Curveygirl · Today 15:23

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:06

You seem to regard anyone who doesn’t agree with you as being insulting. Why is that ?

No but this poster has repeatedly.

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:24

MandingoAteMyBaby · Today 15:09

Really baffling how people want to take from the poorest in Britain to buy bombs to kill poor people overseas.

Means test the state pension (because overall pensioners are the richest generation in British history), pledge to buy defensive capabilities only, no global power projection, declare political neutrality, and do not join foreign wars. Ever.

And get rid of Trident.

Means testing the state pension would necessitate taking it out of the NI system. You can’t ask people to pay into state pension provision all their lives if there’s little chance they can claim it at the end.

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:25

Curveygirl · Today 15:23

No but this poster has repeatedly.

And yet you were the one who was deleted.

Pikachu150 · Today 15:27

Curveygirl · Today 13:44

@Pikachu150

This is my direct comment.

Your post : "you said that disabled students get more support than other students and in the next sentence said that people on benefits shouldn't have a better standard of living than those who work which strongly gives the impression that you begrudge everything they get if you don't get it too.
Also, the support you mention isn't something other students particularly want anyway. Nobody particularly wants the ground floor or have a noisy mini fridge in their room. The DSA is very limited too. It in no way levels the playing field."

I do believe people on benefits shouldn't have a better standard of living than those who work full time. It isn't right or fair, I own that i wrote that as that is what I believe.

Benefits should be a safety net for people in difficult circs and people should have a minimum standard of living regardless. As I've written many times on this thread though there is only so much in the pot and we are discussing how it should be spent. I believe work should pay and people should see a difference in their lives who work full time to those who are on benefits. That's common sense.

In regards to the uni comment the pp to most post wrote that disabled people can't just go to uni or something similar, they can and they are supported to do that. I agree with that and don't want people thinking the reverse is true.

I can hold two different thoughts at once about benefits, it isn't an all or nothing. Ie work should pay and disabled students should be supported to improve their qualifications.

You might want to see my post correcting a pp who said that all disabled people had care in the community now too. I pointed out that they don't and some of the most vulnerable are still locked away without commiting a crime in hospitals because it costs too much to care for them in the community. Benefits are varied and people are varied.

I don't have a problem at all if some disabled people receive more money in benefits than some healthy working people. You are not taking into account the effect of disability on someone's life at all when you talk about standard of living. Not only does being disabled often cost more but it also effects quality of life.

Curveygirl · Today 15:30

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:18

Nobody, not even the DWP would presume to tell a disabled person that they are lucky not to be more disabled than they are, or to remember that there are people worse off than themselves. I’m disabled myself and I wouldn’t even think of presuming that someone else’s’ disability is any of my business. Or comparing them to other disabled people. It’s not disability top trumps and it’s just another example of your jaw dropping insensitivity.

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I didn't say they were lucky tho? You won't be able to quote that as i didn't write it. That is you mis quoting and misrepresenting what i did write for your narritive.

This is the exact quote of what i wrote "why do you find it insulting that somebody may be in a worse position than you are and not able to work at all? Ofcourse there are people who are more disabled than you are, that isn't an insult, it's factual."

At no point did I say they were lucky. That poster used the word lucky in regards to her graduate education.

That is just factual. If somebody is having a discussion about disability are we just to pretend that everyone is equally as disabled?

Curveygirl · Today 15:32

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:25

And yet you were the one who was deleted.

No i wasn't they were, my post in reply still stands. You may want to check that.

ThreadGuardDog · Today 15:35

Livelovebehappy · 14/06/2026 23:48

Of course there should be a review of all benefits. Childcare should be subsidised so that parents can go back to work full time without all their salary going on nursery fees. So many parents having their part time salaries topped up with benefits. Subsidising child care will cost significantly less money than giving parents UC. Child benefit removed completely. Have children only if you can afford to financially support them yourselves without relying on state support. Disability claimants to be examined by state approved regional medical professionals, rather than GPs being relied upon. I know of at least one GP at our surgery where patients clamber to be seen by them because he gives fit notes out with minimal effort to diagnose, just accepting patients requests on the back of their own summaries. So much exploitation of the system goes on. Defence spending needs to increase because we’re living in an increasingly unstable world. Not only Russia, but the whole of the Middle East is a tinder box.

Disability benefits are not awarded on the basis of a fit note, because they have absolutely nothing to do with the ability to work - they are there to support the extra cost of disability. And the claimants already are examined by state approved health professionals, they are very definitely not decided by a GP.

Curveygirl · Today 15:36

Pikachu150 · Today 15:27

I don't have a problem at all if some disabled people receive more money in benefits than some healthy working people. You are not taking into account the effect of disability on someone's life at all when you talk about standard of living. Not only does being disabled often cost more but it also effects quality of life.

But i can hold that view. It's mine to hold, i'm allowed. You're allowed your view too.

I believe everyone should have a basic standard of living. I've said that repeatedly but full time work should give a better standard of living than full time benefits. That's my view, i won't apologise for that.

youalright · Today 15:38

Im confused why my comment saying maybe you should get a job rather then spending all day everyday on here telling disabled people to get a full time job but your reply of calling me an arse wasn't deleted I'd love this explaining @mumsnet

Curveygirl · Today 15:39

Curveygirl · Today 15:32

No i wasn't they were, my post in reply still stands. You may want to check that.

My reply has now beem deleted too as expected.

youalright · Today 15:42

Curveygirl · Today 15:39

My reply has now beem deleted too as expected.

So it should be don't namecall I've not once called you a name or sworn at you on this whole thread. The only thing i said that was for some reason has been deleted is instead of telling disabled people to get a job maybe you should get one is that not a fair point since you have said it repeatedly on this thread for 3 days

Whatalunatic · Today 15:46

Curveygirl · Today 15:30

I didn't say they were lucky tho? You won't be able to quote that as i didn't write it. That is you mis quoting and misrepresenting what i did write for your narritive.

This is the exact quote of what i wrote "why do you find it insulting that somebody may be in a worse position than you are and not able to work at all? Ofcourse there are people who are more disabled than you are, that isn't an insult, it's factual."

At no point did I say they were lucky. That poster used the word lucky in regards to her graduate education.

That is just factual. If somebody is having a discussion about disability are we just to pretend that everyone is equally as disabled?

'disability' isn't a fixed thing, is it? People with disabilities may experience better, really good, good, not so good, awful, unbelievably bad periods in their lives in relation to the condition or issue they have. People with the same condition will experience it in very different ways. You cannot - nor should you - suggest that one condition is somehow less awful than another or because Person X works 50 hour weeks, Person Y should also.

Curveygirl · Today 15:50

youalright · Today 15:42

So it should be don't namecall I've not once called you a name or sworn at you on this whole thread. The only thing i said that was for some reason has been deleted is instead of telling disabled people to get a job maybe you should get one is that not a fair point since you have said it repeatedly on this thread for 3 days

No i haven't said that at all. I wrote that you clearly have skills which are transferable and could be used to wfh.

You were being facetious telling me to get a job because i'd been on mumsnet. You have been insulting repeatedly which i've repeatedly called out.

Curveygirl · Today 15:55

Whatalunatic · Today 15:46

'disability' isn't a fixed thing, is it? People with disabilities may experience better, really good, good, not so good, awful, unbelievably bad periods in their lives in relation to the condition or issue they have. People with the same condition will experience it in very different ways. You cannot - nor should you - suggest that one condition is somehow less awful than another or because Person X works 50 hour weeks, Person Y should also.

That isn't what i've said but if it was you have no right to tell me what to do.

Discussion around benefits especially disability benefits is difficult to have if we all have to pretend every disability is the same and nobody is more disabled than anyone else.

The fact that i've acknowledged that some people will never ever be able to work and are severely disabled all the time isn't a bad thing. There are people who are profoundly disabled and should recieve more support than others because they need it.

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