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You meet the one. They're perfect for you. Then youve got the ick so badly you eant to set fire to yourself. What petty thing did they do?? 👀

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 14/06/2026 16:58

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Eaten tuna 🤢

Monstrous food eaten by those with poor morals.

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TheSquashyHatofMrGnosspelius · 15/06/2026 09:38

shuggles · 14/06/2026 23:33

As I said, it's just committment issues.

The ick and commitment issues are two totally different things.

I went on a date with a bloke who told me he never washed his actual anus (don't ask how we got to that convo) and I icked out. Within a week I met my now DH and we were married 19 years yesterday.

It is clear I had no issue with commitment. I had issue with the ick and a bloke whose sphincter and crack must look like a gravel path.

Bertiebiscuit · 15/06/2026 09:41

Man wore white jeans. The nail in the coffin of attraction

Bertiebiscuit · 15/06/2026 09:49

Met a friends new boyfriend for the first time, he accidentally called her by his previous ex's name in front of me - she stayed with him, so the result of that ick was i dumped her! Some people have no pride. Don't know or care if she's still with him
😕

Additup · 15/06/2026 09:51

shuggles · 14/06/2026 23:04

@mumofoneAloneandwell The "ick" isn't real. It's just an excuse for committment issues.

If very minor and insignificant details annoy a person, then that person should reconsider whether they are suitable for relationships.

The ick is definitely real. I occasionally get it with my dh (usually when he uses a phrase his late mum used to say).
I have to mentally bleach my brain, take a deep breath and deal with it though 😂

Beachtastic · 15/06/2026 09:55

jaketeckel · 14/06/2026 19:03

I got the ick when I went to a firework display and he jumped every time there was a loud explosion

Had he been in combat?

MagpiePi · 15/06/2026 09:57

He had a history of high cholesterol in his family so wouldn’t eat butter. He wouldn’t even eat one slice of my fresh out of the oven, still warm bread with butter and wanted low fat cottage cheese on instead.
His house smelled musty and he had the thinnest, mankiest duvet I have ever seen.

viques · 15/06/2026 09:58

Turned out he was my daughter’s RE teacher. And he wore a jaunty little neckerchief scarf around his neck.

In my defence I was going through a dry spell, and I didn’t know about the RE teacher thing.

Dollymylove · 15/06/2026 09:59

Busybeemumm · 15/06/2026 08:20

I know right! Buy for no reason at all I suddenly got the ick. It was actually so sweet and with the benefit of experience maybe I would not have the ick now. It was about 20 years ago so lack of experience in dating. Maybe I let a good one slip away!

Similar to me not liking the guys surname. It wasnt that bad tbh, but I was an 18 year old, head full of romantic nonsense and thinking, Im not marrying him with that surname 🤣
Looking back he was actually a really nice young man, he even asked the DJ to play a song that had my name in it .
Who knows, he could have been the love of my life 🥰😍🤣

Bertiebiscuit · 15/06/2026 10:00

Mumtobabyhavoc · 15/06/2026 03:52

He was a young Tom Cruise look-alike.
Worst kisser ever. Very slobbery.
It was bad.

Tbh looking like Tom Cruise much worse than sloppy kissing

ClairDeLaLune · 15/06/2026 10:09

MagpiePi · 15/06/2026 09:57

He had a history of high cholesterol in his family so wouldn’t eat butter. He wouldn’t even eat one slice of my fresh out of the oven, still warm bread with butter and wanted low fat cottage cheese on instead.
His house smelled musty and he had the thinnest, mankiest duvet I have ever seen.

Umm it’s up to him whether he eats butter or not. How very icky to not want to die prematurely of heart problems 🤷‍♀️

snowmichael · 15/06/2026 10:12

WilfredsPies · 14/06/2026 18:27

My friend stopped dating someone because she didn’t like the way he ate an apple, and someone else because he had a stain on his top. It was clean, he just hadn’t got the stain out.

She stands for no messing 😁

> She stands for no messing 😁
She probably stands alone

CleanShirtLaundry · 15/06/2026 10:13

Called a jumper a "gumpy"

Justanopinionnothingmore · 15/06/2026 10:15

NoArmaniNoPunani · 14/06/2026 20:19

Sounded like a weak moped when he came

I'm weak after reading this LMAOOOOOO

Justanopinionnothingmore · 15/06/2026 10:17

I was about 18/ 19 and his name was Barry. Shame as he was good looking. I just couldn't get past it and also he told a fib when he met me so with both of those, absolutely not. 🤣

At the time there was Bazza in eastenders so absolutely not.

Additup · 15/06/2026 10:18

Heartofglass12345 · 15/06/2026 00:12

My husband of 13 years has grown a moustache, I feel like it’s grounds for divorce tbh. I sit in the back when we’re in the car (had to separate my 2 kids 🙄) and I can see the wiry hairs poking out to the side when he’s driving 😱

Is your husband Aidan Turner in Rivals? If not then I agree, that is completely unacceptable 😁

Dollymylove · 15/06/2026 10:22

Justanopinionnothingmore · 15/06/2026 10:17

I was about 18/ 19 and his name was Barry. Shame as he was good looking. I just couldn't get past it and also he told a fib when he met me so with both of those, absolutely not. 🤣

At the time there was Bazza in eastenders so absolutely not.

Edited

I also met a guy called Barry. His name wasnt the problem. The problem was that he had a bald head but his remaining hair round the edges was very long. I hinted he should put it in a ponytail but he was having none of it 😒 I will say though, that 40+ years on we are still friends and meet up once every year or 2 for a drink. He is still single 🙄😆

MrsShawnHatosy · 15/06/2026 10:26

jaketeckel · 14/06/2026 19:03

I got the ick when I went to a firework display and he jumped every time there was a loud explosion

Are you sure he wasn’t ex army and had PTSD? Or autism related sensory issues?

Spacedsunshine1 · 15/06/2026 10:27

When he said he was applying for a new job (okay) and then sent the blank application forms to me and his mum, with the expectation one of us would write his application for him!!! Nope! He didn't even ask. Just sent it. I sent it back saying he had accidentally sent a blank application form, and he said, "No, I want one of you to fill it in, my mum always fills them in for me"
Erm what?!!!
He was 42!
Bye, bye!!

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 15/06/2026 10:27

Aberdyfi · 14/06/2026 17:46

I very nearly walked away from an otherwise perfect man after the first night we spent together, because the tops of his feet were really smooth. I gave myself a good talking to and got over it.

🤣🤣🤣

Aliflowers · 15/06/2026 10:29

Hadalifeonce · 14/06/2026 19:46

Agree re the GP. But I tried for ages to change a headlight bulb on one car, I eventually 'phoned the garage, they said the only way to do it is to go up through the wheel arch!

Was gonna say the same. My DH was gonna change the bulb on my car a few years ago but said it would be an absolute PITA. That the headlight had to come off and short of taking the quarter panel off there was no way of accessing the fitting unless you had what he assumed was an extender. He said garage could easily do it from up on a ramp but not so easy down on the ground without the tools. And also you risked knocking out the alignment.

SomeGarlic · 15/06/2026 10:30

Is he Bill Bailey, @Dollymylove? (I could forgive his many hair-related errors, I think)

You meet the one. They're perfect for you. Then youve got the ick so badly you eant to set fire to yourself. What petty thing did they do?? 👀
jellyfish798 · 15/06/2026 10:33

This is a great thread 😂

MrsShawnHatosy · 15/06/2026 10:34

Justanopinionnothingmore · 15/06/2026 10:17

I was about 18/ 19 and his name was Barry. Shame as he was good looking. I just couldn't get past it and also he told a fib when he met me so with both of those, absolutely not. 🤣

At the time there was Bazza in eastenders so absolutely not.

Edited

Ooh had a huge crush on a guy called Barry as a teen. Barry John, the King, one of the greatest rugby players ever!

You meet the one. They're perfect for you. Then youve got the ick so badly you eant to set fire to yourself. What petty thing did they do?? 👀
WannaSweetie · 15/06/2026 10:43

There’ve been a few but this one springs to mind. Sitting in his bedroom waiting for pizza to cook. Lovingly stroked the pillow on his bed & said he’d had it since he was a baby & proceeded to take the cover off to show this thin, stained, brown pillow then he looked at me with 🥹 🥹 Ick. We were late 20’s

jellyfish798 · 15/06/2026 10:45

JuliettaCaeser · 14/06/2026 21:43

I was in a night club with a date and the bar man said “what on earth are you doing with him?!” Put me right off.

Another man laughed after every comment. He was jolly but just did not fancy him. Jolly is not sexy I don’t want to date Father Christmas

🤣🤣🤣 barman obviously fancied you

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