AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

No, just no. Not matching colours. Leave the lad alone.

I posted then read all your updates. So you aren't attending your son's prom, it's for pics at home.

I personally wouldn't have went out and bought something new fro this, I would have just put on a nice dress I already have. Nah, actually I wouldn't have got dressed up tbh but theres nothing wrong with putting something nice on for pics but buying an outfit for it I think is too much.

I don't agree with the shitty comments your getting about your son not being interested in girls at thd minute. A post about a dress and people decide to be nasty, nothing unusual about this website

Don't, please don't.

As any Mum I love my son more than life itself. Dressing up to 'match'??? Absolutely not. That's making it about you not him. Dress nicely if course yes but matching? H3ll no!

My sister did something similar a long time ago.
He is now 36 still loving with her ....

Looking back. He was always Molly cuddled and he just needed to grow up. She just needed to accept he needed to grow up ...

“Boy moms” are a particular subcategory of boy mums. There are Facebook groups dedicated to the phenomenon. It’s stomach-churning honestly.

We aren't , why do you assume we are?

They are right. You have to be trolling, because no sane mother would buy that for a prom.

My ex and I both had a photo taken individually with our daughter when she was dressed up for prom, but we were all just wearing our usual day clothes. I do think it's a bit too much as you're literally just having a quick pic before they head off

I agree with this. Make it about your son. Pop on a nice dress if you want, and take pics, but I’d not go further than that.

I think the whole matchy matchy outfits is a bit cringe. I know families whose kids are now adults who still all dress to match each other when they go out, a big like the Kardashians, and it’s just a bit weird.

Oh dear god please let him have his night.

I wouldn't. It smacks of being overinvolved and wanting to take the limelight off him.

But if your son really wants you to (and I mean really wants you to, not you convincing yourself that he really wants you to) then go for it.

But its still weird!

I’m all for mom and son photos but matching your son moves slightly into the creepy zone and I would dread to think what his friends would think let alone his date. Get yourself your hair done if you want but play it cool if you ever want your child to respect you and not hide from you. Sorry just being honest.

I don't like the idea of matching dress but come on, what she spends her money on is her business.

A definite no, don’t do it - just like the majority of respondents have already said but worryingly you don’t seem to want to hear that. Please think again and don’t do something that will be immensely embarrassing.

Don't let people get to you, your money, you choose what you spend it on.

You need help op

Your so n is absolutely right. It's his night and should be about himm bit embarrassing for him probably. You can get some nice photos of him on his own or with his friends or with you in normal clothes before he goes oit

No..please dont do this! Mums dont normally get in on the photos from what i remember.. it seems cringe and weird tbh

Sounds like her son is confident enough not to need a girl hanging off his arm. Are you this horrible to people's faces?

Don't do this. Wear something smart but not a going out to a formal do outfit and have some nice photos at home before he goes. But that's it.

I agree with this. Sorry OP, though you sound resilient so hopefully you dgaf about the rude comments.

I love that he has his own style and wears whatever the hell he likes.

Judging by some of the comments by grown adults about a 16 yo's choice of clothing, I think we all know who the bullies were in school.

Don't embarrass him

Exactly. Being 16 and not that fussed about having a date or a gf should be normal. It’s perfectly healthy. And it sounds like he knows you, you know him, you get on well… if he’s happy for you to have a nice dress for pics, well that’s nice and doesn’t say much more than you’re a bit extra and you have a good relationship - we can’t read into whether you’ll be a toxic MIL or if you’ll ruin his future relationships!!

Ignore that poster, she's probably projecting ;-) 16 without a date whether it's a boy or a girl is nothing. When I was 16 people acted like you were on the shelf but these days, the world is thier lobster (iykyk) and they have so much more to focus on. I wouldn't go with matching dress colour though, it's a bit much.