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Should they describe this menu item better

263 replies

holidaybubble · Yesterday 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

OP posts:
Growlybear83 · Yesterday 14:11

holidaybubble · Yesterday 14:06

Definitely spicy even I didn’t eat them I as they where spicy I am a wimp though and don’t even like pepper. Definitely had cumin in and some other spices they made my mouth feel slightly burning @wishingonastar101 I don’t let him spit out food but he took a mouthful and they burnt his mouth being spicy with I guess chilli and he’s only 1 @CoastalCalm I said full English as was easier to say than baked eggs with spinach

But you said in your first post that he WAS spitting out the beans.

grumpygrape · Yesterday 14:12

Full English is easier to 'say' than 'baked eggs with spinach'. Dear heavens

Don't ever go to Boston (USA) the home of the baked bean....you might find, horror of horrors, meat in the beans.

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 14:12

I would be more upset with the spinach and baked eggs on my full English breakfast

DollopOfFun · Yesterday 14:13

I said full English as was easier to say than baked eggs with spinach

Maybe they just find it easier to say beans on toast, rather than spicy homemade beans on toast.

OneThreadOnlybyN · Yesterday 14:13

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 13:17

He should have just eaten the beans if he was that hungry. I can't believe they were that spicey. I like that they've tried to jazz them up a bit.

Have you never met a 1year old!

Honeyhonay · Yesterday 14:14

holidaybubble · Yesterday 13:58

I had a baked egg dish thing with spinach he hates eggs spiced food and eggs is something he hates he had already eaten some toast the cafe only gave us one portion even though I paid for 2 I assumed more toast was coming so we had half each

Interesting change from inhaling your full English in front of him.

ChipswithMayonnaise · Yesterday 14:15

Another lightly disguised Forrin is Bad post...

Our English baked beans have been contaminated by Forrin spices! Our children suffer!

Incidentally, there are records of cumin being grown and eaten in England even before the 1066 Norman conquest.

Lougle · Yesterday 14:15

I think you're right @holidaybubble . Baked beans means something specific. Just like 'macaroni cheese' should have macaroni and not any old pasta.

Foundress · Yesterday 14:15

JohnnyFedora · Yesterday 14:00

What utter fucking nonsense that you've never been anywhere that serves tinned baked beans? You must have been to a cafe or restaurant or hotel or school canteen or anywhere similar that sells tinned beans for jacket potatoes, breakfasts and beans on toast etc

Edited

Glad you said this Johnny I was thinking exactly the same.

WoollyHeadedMammoth · Yesterday 14:16

I would have asked to be on the safe side if child is picky; some places will flag menu items that are very spicy (hot) but this would be based on local adult taste unless it's on a children's menu. It's odd to assume they'd be tinned instead of homemade - most people would have expected the opposite and possibly complained if they got tinned! If the toast and beans were two separate items I don't think getting them at different times is unreasonable but they should have taken the toast back if you asked and the beans weren't coming very soon.

PublicHare · Yesterday 14:17

You're not wrong I'd have expected normal Heinz baked beans without any 'enhancements" with that description. I wouldn't class your DS as fussy either. Mine would have done just the same and probably would have rejected the sausage too if it had too much black pepper in it.

OneThreadOnlybyN · Yesterday 14:17

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 13:24

Fly them into his mouth like an aeroplane rather than leave him pushing the pot around while you eat.

They're not going to be any less spicey no matter how many air miles they do

didntlikethis · Yesterday 14:17

grumpygrape · Yesterday 13:57

You have an allergy to chillies and 'they are everywhere ' but you wouldn't think to check. ?

Not in baked beans, no.

Unless it said 'spiced baked beans' (in which case I wouldn't order it).

ChocolateApples · Yesterday 14:17

Baked beans means Heinz or whatever out of a can. Homemade baked beans are an entirely different dish. Not a fan when menus don't describe things properly. I want to know what I'm ordering.

WhatFlavourIsIt · Yesterday 14:18

Oh,.op your thread seems to have set of the Twat signal. No one that's ever been to a cafe for breakfast has expected regular beans!.
Yes, they should have listed the beans as homade or said something when you ordered.

Katypp · Yesterday 14:19

ChipswithMayonnaise · Yesterday 14:15

Another lightly disguised Forrin is Bad post...

Our English baked beans have been contaminated by Forrin spices! Our children suffer!

Incidentally, there are records of cumin being grown and eaten in England even before the 1066 Norman conquest.

Don't be ridiculous.
OP, I think you need to realise that you and your son were only two of their customers and the staff were not on standby all morning to attend to your son's every whim

DappledThings · Yesterday 14:19

It's odd to assume they'd be tinned instead of homemade - most people would have expected the opposite and possibly complained if they got tinned
Rubbish. I've only ever been served beans that were anything other than tinned in one place and they proudly declare them as their homemade spicy beans on the menu

ChipswithMayonnaise · Yesterday 14:21

Katypp · Yesterday 14:19

Don't be ridiculous.
OP, I think you need to realise that you and your son were only two of their customers and the staff were not on standby all morning to attend to your son's every whim

Not being ridiculous.

ilovemybluesharpie · Yesterday 14:24

Most cafes/restaurants, around here at least, all serve tinned baked beans. There are one or two that do homemade ones and both clearly advertise that on their menus. We tried one, but they were not nice, the beans were hard and the sauce was bitter.

YANBU.

Springtimeinsunshine · Yesterday 14:24

WhatFlavourIsIt · Yesterday 14:18

Oh,.op your thread seems to have set of the Twat signal. No one that's ever been to a cafe for breakfast has expected regular beans!.
Yes, they should have listed the beans as homade or said something when you ordered.

I'm thinking Twat signal too. They've even brought out the forrin angle now 🙄

OneThreadOnlybyN · Yesterday 14:25

Hadenough32 · Yesterday 13:45

It's a community cafe so I wouldn't make a huge deal. But yes I'd expect baked beans if I'd ordered beans on toast. I'd assume baked beans is standard as they come with breakfasts and lunches on jacket potatoes etc. If it's not standard baked beans then there should be a description. I'd be surprised if you're the first person this has happened to so wonder why they've not changed it

Because maybe everyone's just left without telling them?

JohnnyFedora · Yesterday 14:26

holidaybubble · Yesterday 14:06

Definitely spicy even I didn’t eat them I as they where spicy I am a wimp though and don’t even like pepper. Definitely had cumin in and some other spices they made my mouth feel slightly burning @wishingonastar101 I don’t let him spit out food but he took a mouthful and they burnt his mouth being spicy with I guess chilli and he’s only 1 @CoastalCalm I said full English as was easier to say than baked eggs with spinach

😂😂

now i know your chatting shit .... easier to lie about a meal than was to say what meal you actually had? LOL

I think you didn't go to a british cafe that serves 'traditional' british cafe food, and actually it would be reaosnable to expect a bit of spice in the meals 🤔

CoconutGroove · Yesterday 14:27

didntlikethis · Yesterday 13:12

I have a significant allergy to chillies, so, yes, this would be a huge deal for anyone with the same thing. I wouldn't think to question baked beans in a café.
There are chillies in bloody everything these days!

I agree. A relative of mine has a chilli allergy so anything we make if they are eating with us never has chillies in it.

If I saw baked beans & toast on a cafe menu I’d expect a detailed description of it was anything other than standard baked beans, as spices may cause digestive issues as well as customers potentially having allergies as well as just not wanting to eat spicy beans!

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · Yesterday 14:28

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 13:17

He should have just eaten the beans if he was that hungry. I can't believe they were that spicey. I like that they've tried to jazz them up a bit.

He's ONE...even a bit of spice is a weird flavour if he's not used to it. He's also not going to think "well, this is all I've got so let's just get on with it".

OneThreadOnlybyN · Yesterday 14:30

Overthebow · Yesterday 13:47

Spiced or spicey? I’ve had some lovely homemade beans in cafes before that you could described as spiced but in no way spicy, just beans cooked with homemade tomato sauce and some paprika. I think that’s perfectly acceptable and expected when cafes serve baked beans, I wouldn’t usually expect baked beans to be from a tin and happy when they’re not as less processed. If they were actually spicy then I’d expect the menu to have said.

& that's fine if that's what you enjoy.

but a kids 'beans on toast' at a cafe, should be the bog standard version they'd expect. Plenty of opportunity to expand their tastes at home and other things are available if they don't like them