AIBU to stop covering my job-share partner's time off?

[JobShareDrama]

I job share with a woman at work. We both work 2 days each. I’ve covered for her a few times when she had child care issues during school holidays, but never had her cover for me yet.

I asked her in Jan to cover my 2 week holiday in July and she agreed. A few days ago she sent me a list of all the days and weeks she needs me to cover. I agreed to them, even though it’s not convenient for me, as she’s covering for me.

I agreed to them all, and on doing so she immediately sent me a return message saying she can no longer cover my holiday, leaving me in the lurch.

So, I’ve covered for her multiple times, and she’s not once returned the favour.

I feel like saying I’m not doing her dates then, but then this will pretty much ring the death bell on a cordial working relationship. TBH I’m sick of being a peacekeeper and mug to people.

AIBU to from henceforth just say I’m not free to cover her days off?

She's now said she can't cover your days so you now just say you can't cover hers. As a part time worker, UK employment law says you can't be made to work on your non working days. They can ask, but you can say yes or no. If you agree they have to pay you or give you time off in lieu.

She’s went back on her agreement- you can go back on yours! Don’t let her walk over you, she will keep doing it.

Why? The other woman pulled out of her agreement to cover OP why is it always on one person to be a doormat to keep cordial relations going?

Because the other woman certainly isn’t

OP just be honest, so the days that I agreed to cover for you are really inconvenient for me but I felt i really should abd couldn’t say no because you were covering for me. But as you’re not covering for me, I don’t feel that obligation

You need a proper shift swap policy.

We didn't used to have a formal policy and it was chaos and there was bullying. Now we both have to independently agree via email or phone to the resourcing department to both the intial swap and the return swap at the same time and once it is changed on the roster system it becomes permenant and like any other shift, so for example if you go sick on that day it comes out of your sickness record like any other shift.

If it's not a formal commitment for her then it isn't for you, so just say no.

Because it’s not going to make her look good with her line manager, I would guess the LM isn’t best pleased that the other person has reneged on the cover agreement. So personally I’d suck it up for what I’d already agreed to cover but refuse to cover in the future. But each to their own.

Do the same thing to her . She agreed and backed out. You do the same thing and see how she likes it . Fuck her

Tell her she has to do your dates she agreed to and you will do her dates. If she says no then neither of you cover each other and management can sort it.

Why are you covering her leave on your non- working days? If you were full time presumably your work would have to arrange cover. I had a job share partner and I didn’t cover her leave.

Isn’t this something your employer should be taking responsibility for?

No, she’s cancelled dates she already promised to cover, so OP can just stop cover immediately

If she can’t cover your reasonable request, don’t cover hers. Say that it’s a two-way street and you’re not prepared to do any further cover for her, which would include all of the days and times that she’s asked for. This is not a cordial relationship it is a toxic working relationship and you need to make it clearer that this is not fair.

Just message her back on Monday and say you’ve gone to put the dates in your calendar and have realised there are other things planned so you’re unable to do them.
I assume you get paid for the overtime? If so, if there are any that are convenient for you, I’d still cover for the extra pay. id just stop doing any that really inconvenience you.

as for the one she agreed to. I’d go straight to management for them to sort and tell her so

No it isn’t. What happens when a full time worker goes on AL? Who covers them?
What if your job share partner can never work outside their contracted days, due to caring responsibilities or another job for example. Can you never take your annual leave?
You might have an informal occasional day swapping arrangement between you. But not for annual leave.

Exactly !
She has left you down badly , why would you be so accommodating to someone so selfish.
She is taking the complete piss .
Don’t let her OP

Absolutely not!! She literally crapped on your generosity. She won't be there long afterwards anyway, as you won't cover days off. She'll screw up eventually.

Some of these must be ragebait or staff generated .. of course you are being used and must immediately inform her that you won't be able to cover for her at all. And yes, time off is for management to deal with so maybe just let her know that you need a more reliable time off policy so suggest you both refrain from covering each other and speak to management instead to organise.