AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

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First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

Are you looking for a way to resolve this or just venting?

Wait untill there's ever a time no one is parked outside their house then plonk your car right outside your house. Everyone else will be forced to swap the side they park on and voila you've got your own spot exactly where you want it - right outside your house. This is the goal!

Plant more trees then everyone can have a bit of shady parking?
just be grateful they are not full time residents OP.

Agreed. Can’t argue over a parking spot that’s not even outside your own house! It technically is outside someone else’s home! So it’s really first come, first served.

If everyone parks outside their house but there is only parking on the opposite side to your house where are the people on that side parking their cars?

Agreed except that a person who waits for their neighbour to go out and then quickly and deliberately nicks the parking space is being a selfish entitled twat. Especially if they intend to occupy the spot for days. Legally parked can be a very low bar.

What 😂

It's empty most of the time.

this comment is my point op.
you are looking at this completely the wrong way round.
You bought a house with close neighbours, and with that comes noise.
you are INCREDIBLY lucky that rather than all year round noise, which is where your expectation should be, you only have to tolerate this noise for a few weeks a year.
you bought a house with no parking.
you are INCREDIBLY lucky that most of the year both your ndn and opposite neighbour aren’t there so you get to park super close.

‘invasion’ aka people using the homes they have bought.

Probably venting 😅
Wondering if I’m right that this seems a bit twatty I suppose

Yes, it’s exactly this

That's fair enough, but given the parking situation you either need a wheelie trolley to move shopping from your car to your house or as others have said, accept that parking is probmatic sometimes.

Thank you!

Yes very similar aside from Ndn on the left looking from that point of view

OP I don't think YABU to be peeved about the situation, but I do think there's not a lot you can do about it.

Most people would notice the usual parking situation in your street and respect the status quo, but the neighbour sounds extremely up himself in general and so thinks he is above all of this. Not surprising to me, as I live an area of the UK where there are a lot of 2nd homes and quite a few of them consider themselves superior to locals (I realise you are not in the UK).

However as you know there really isn't much you can do here, so maybe you just have to let it go and be thankful he's not there all the time.

Having said that you've said you do hiim favours in regard to keeping an eye on his house, so that maybe gives you the chance to try and talk to him about this and appeal to his better nature? If he responds negatively then I'd be making it very clear that favours tend to exist on a quid pro quo basis and you won't be doing him any going forward.

They don't know it's rude. You drive off, all they see is a shady spot to park so they do.

YABU. This is like arguing that because you live there it's ok to put your towels on the sunbeds.

Which probably means most of the street is displaced in the summer and can't park in their preferred spots. It's unfortunate but if the benefits of the location outweigh this then it is probably worth putting up with for a few months of the year

You don't want to park in front of your own house but opposite?

People need to realise they don’t own anything outside their plot. They don’t own the pavement, the road. If you live in a street that requires no permit to park and no double yellow or red lines then people are allowed to park wherever they choose. It’s pointless getting annoyed and it’s a losing argument. You’re inconvenienced a handful times. I can imagine if you park in the prime space that’s not even right outside your house may be a contentious to others. So why be pissed off when you do exactly what they do

I don’t think you are.

If he just parked there if it was free when he got back, that would be a bit annoying and not “in the spirit” of the street, but coming home and parking opposite his own house then watching and waiting for you to leave so he can then nip in and take “your” space makes him a massive bellend, IMO.

And it’s really straightforward to understand the layout of your street if people just bother to read your posts.

Do you have any kind of relationship with him/others in the household? If you’re just nipping to the shops you could try knocking on his door and saying that you’re not going to be gone long and you would really appreciate it if he didn’t jump into that space, given you’ll have shopping, DD etc. Probably won’t achieve anything but you never know.

I don’t think you are.

If he just parked there if it was free when he got back, that would be a bit annoying and not “in the spirit” of the street, but coming home and parking opposite his own house then watching and waiting for you to leave so he can then nip in and take “your” space makes him a massive bellend, IMO.

And it’s really straightforward to understand the layout of your street if people just bother to read your posts.

Do you have any kind of relationship with him/others in the household? If you’re just nipping to the shops you could try knocking on his door and saying that you’re not going to be gone long and you would really appreciate it if he didn’t jump into that space, given you’ll have shopping, DD etc. Probably won’t achieve anything but you never know.

I could kind of see your point until you called people staying in their homes an invasion. If you are tired of where you live, finding your neighbours annoying and looking for further reasons to find them annoying, you could move house.

Well, if you were feeling petty, you could get into your car, start the engine and then merely straighten up (or drive around the corner and back). After a few days of grabbing his car keys and dashing out to his car whenever you do this, he may tire of this game. You might tire of it first, though.

We understannd. You don't have parking directly outside your house, so, in your head, you've made up a random "rule" where you feel entitled to park directly outside someone else's house (which also happens to be the best spot due to the shade from the tree). Your neighbour isn't following your self-made nonsense rule, and also prefers to park in the shady spot (directly outside neither of your houses) when that spot is available. He's doing nothing wrong, and you are no more entitled to the shady spot or a close spot than him. If you want a dedicated parking spot, you need to buy or rent a house with private or reserved parking.

You are being ludicrously entitled.

They know very well

They can't possibly know, because it's simply not rude, and you are no more entitled to the space than them.