AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

As I said, I move when she’s here

I know! You’re spot on!

So you park outside of someone else’s house and you’re complaining about them? 🤣 Sounds like there isn’t enough on street parking for every house so it’s just first come, first served isn’t it?

Give me strength 🤣

This would drive most people potty, it is inherently selfish and unreasonable. We know its not legally wrong, but its ethically dubious and shows that he is inconsiderate and arrogant. He does not give a damn and it does come across as disrespectful.

And who on earth addresses someone as Dr, unless they are their own Dr? This is nuts!! You know him in a neigbourly capacity not in a professional capacity and he has absolutely no right to dictate how he is addressed. He sounds like a total arse!

100%!!!

Ylu are being unreasonable. But to be fair so would I be.
I would be unable resist the spying on him and moving my car in when he goes out. But I am very petty.

I agree with you OP and @BingoJingo .

I had a similar situation where a neighbour just around the corner was renovating and chose to park his elderly sports car outside my place instead of on his own road and sometimes he would leave it there 5-6 weeks. I did break and ask him politely in the end if he wouldn’t mind just backing up a bit as my older visitors use the space and he doesn’t use it much . Strictly he had every right but it was irritating so I spoke up and it worked for me.

I think you should tell him, don’t write a note, just say I notice you park here when you visit; I live here all year and usually park here; it’s just me and DD and it’s hard to unpack my shopping etc. To be honest I think he’d be an arse to refuse but even if he does, at least he’ll know he’s disrupting the usual status quo and you won’t be any the worse off I guess!

Oh don't. Some people further up on my street have acquired 2 cones and some other plastic round thing that they've started reserving the road outside their house with. I wish some pissed teenagers would just steal them in the night, it's so entitled. You don't own the road in front of your house, so occasionally, you might not get to park right outside, get over it.

They put wheely bins in the street here.

I can understand why you approached this situation in this way and I am glad it worked out for you. However, I think the OP's circumstances are potentially more tricky, since your neighbour lived on a different street and it was a 'one off', albeit annoying and selfish, circumstance.

However, you had geographical and emotional distance from the person and you were not highlighting the fact that you had noted his petty and selfish actions in terms of re-parking his car to take the spot when OP's car leaves. I would think carefully I think about how to address this.

Oh honestly get on with life, so your car is a bit hot sometimes when the neighboyrs visit. You have zero rights you get to do what you want most of the year.

Buy a house with parking. Problem solved.

You haven't though

You live in a holiday destination and dont work and cant even be bothered to draw your own diagrams for your shitty parking wars 😅

Don’t work? Where was that said anywhere? I work

Can’t be bothered? -someone already drew it and it was correct, should I draw it again, the same thing as they did or could maybe be bothered to read through things properly?

Yes, I have.

You are the problem. You do not like him and you resent the fact he has a second home. Stop letting him live rent free in your head and enjoy the time he’s not there and ignore him when he is.

It is ethically dubious and inherently selfish for anyone to feel entitled to reserve the only shaded space on the street for their own use - that includes OP.

Similar here but I have a drive so I park in that but if my daughter or anyone else in the family or a visitor needs to park they want to park on the road nearby if possible.

Next door have a double width drive so park their van and car on that. However their very many visitors block the space outside every house on the street except their own!

Once a friend visited me and the only space was outside their house. So the neighbour reversed their car off their drive and parked across my drive and blocked my car in! We tried to go out and when my friend got out and asked them to move they shouted at her for parking outside their house because “they needed the space”. She asked why they don’t just park on their drive and they said they had to keep it free for their husband’s van! Even though the both park there every day and night!

Mind you I’ve seen the same neighbour spend an hour trying to get a bird off their roof by flapping a towel out of the window at it and I caught the husband standing in my drive, leaning against my car and reaching over the wall to get stuff out of his van so they really are CFs who think they own the street (and the sky!)

Oh don't worry @TeethAreImportant , I wouldn't actually do it, and I've been told it's illegal anyway, but when it's chucking it down with rain and you have a supermarket shop to schlep into the house, you can see how I could have a grudging admiration.
As a PP said, I just have a word with myself.......

I hear you. I've been known to stop in the middle of our street, it's only a side road, not a main route, ring my husband in the house to get him to come out and get the shopping so I don't have to carry it from miles away. Its annoying, but if you buy a house with no off road parking, par for the course. I occasionally have a grumble, but would never dream of trying to 'reserve' outside my house with cones. So embarrassingly entitled it makes my toes curl.

Thank you for your reductive commentary that is also unnuanced.

😂