AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

No one owns a parking spot. You snooze you lose.

Play your theory forward - if everyone only parks outside their house but you can only park on one side of the street…… no one on your side of the street gets to park! You are likely benefiting from the fact that some people don’t drive or park outside their house often - but they could? And if you ‘move further up’ aren’t you then parking outside of someone else’s house who then might write this post about you?

it sucks. But you live on a street so all parking is fair game.

Can you plant a tree for shade in the other spot.

Obviously you know and they know that you have no ownership of the parking space, but then you get threads like the one yesterday wondering if they buy a second home will they be hated by the neighbours.

This type of car shuffling behaviour from a second home owner is one of many reasons why they then don't feel welcome and can't fathom why.

OP you have no rights, but your second home owning neighbour is a selfish prick, be sure to never report any storm damage to him over the winter!!

If it wasn't for the shade would you be as bothered? Whilst i can see it would be annoying, you both have your reasons for preferring that spot and your reason doesn't trump theirs.

I explained a few times that the lady directly opposite our house is there very rarely and when comes to stay, out of respect (even though we don’t *Have to) we park down the road or round the corner

It’s not outside your house though, do you understand?
You are the one claiming eveyone else except this specific neighbour parks outside their own home but they don’t, you and exactly half the street don’t park outside your own home.

So really your OP is “my favourite spot is under a tree outside another property on my street, sometimes another person parks there and it annoys me”.

I avoid parking under trees regardless of the weather…….all that sap dropping onto the bodywork plays havoc with the paintwork! I know it shields the car from the heat but tree sap is notoriously difficult to remove…..just as bad as bird poo and you can guarantee the birds roosting in the trees are going to use the car for target practice!
However, if you genuinely feel so precious about the parking space…….use your voice and speak to the neighbours.

Op, do you even understand that no one on this thread apart from you understands the road layout?
because you don’t seem to.
you started the thread saying everyone parks outside their own house, then this turned out be a complete lie when ‘obviously’ you can only park on one side of the road so in fact only half the people park outside their own house, and that half isn’t your half. Why do you think that would be obvious to people who have absolutely no idea of your street layout?!?
your whole mindset it so so negative.

why isn’t it ‘lucky us, we get to park super close to our house for most of the year because it’s our neighbours second home.’

😂

I know. I read your posts.

can you please explain what I’ve said that is inaccurate?

it’s not outside your house. It’s outside the house across the road. And you don’t like someone else taking what you’ve deemed “your” space, because your rule is that people should park outside their own houses - except that you’re not doing that. You’re parking outside someone else’s house.

We’re not in the uk…I like to get out of the house and shop with Dd

I feel your irritation! I have a particular spot I like to park in outside our house I and get eggy if someone takes it! I know that as long as other cars are taxed and insured then they can park wherever they like but I’m like you and feel that the road outside a persons house should be for them to park in. I know legally it’s nonsense and I would never challenge anyone about it and it’s my own personal gripe! I’m currently wishing flat tyres and batteries to the recovery truck that keeps parking opposite our house! 🤬

As I understand it:

This is it, it feels v selfish and also arrogant and deliberate

No, not this at all!

I have read the thread and fully understand the situation even without a diagram and I can thus say with absolute certainty that the situation is annoying but boils down to the age-old phenomenon of “tough luck.”

I wish other people were this sensible. Would save alot of drama and angst on the local FB page.

I agree he sounds like a selfish twat.

Can your DH have a quiet word? My experience if that the more self-centred and entitled a man is, the less they are likely to take kindly to being asked by a woman, unfair as that might seem.

Am not a negative person at all 😬
We will from now-ish to September a packed road, in sweltering heat with a guy next door who expects us to address him as Dr who moves his car every second opposite our house instead of his own
Maybe i’m too grumpy, summer is a hard time with the invasion of the second home owners, their parking and noise. Prefer the rest of the year with our lovely considerate neighbours and friendly community

So you park on a spot that's belonging (by your own rules) to another holiday cottage owner who is rarely there? 😁

You are meant to only park outside your own house, that's you enforcing that rule and not abiding by it?

Hey Geoff, is there any reason why you prefer to use the space outside my house WHERE I LIVE ALL YEAR when you come and visit? Only it makes it hard work for me with the kids and shopping”

Geoff prefers to use the space because it's in the shade. Not all spaces are equal, this one is clearly better.
If he's moving one space from next door to under the tree, how much more difficulty with shopping and kids could he be causing. He's now left a space outside his house, next door!, that the OP could use.

If parking outside your house was so important then you should’ve bought a house with private parking. He can park there is he likes and I suspect you’re annoyed because he’s a man going by the derogatory talk about him.

It’s exactly this though.

YANBU to resent them! You know there's nothing you can do, there's nothing that is technically or legally wrong, it's just annoying, so YANBU

I'd be tempted to move my car the second they're out and leave it there as much as you can.

People know exactly the difference between a city centre, where you park where you find a space, and more residential or quiet areas where you only park in front of your house, they just pretend they don't!