AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

Would it be possible to try and get a few more trees down your road? Appreciate it might not be, but if it's the tree making that space nice, why not trees all down the road?

I'm baffled why you keep saying "just park outside your own house" as if it is some golden rule when you clearly don't park outside your own house.

Both sides

YABVU. The street is not yours. The fact you normally get to hog the shaded spot doesn’t mean it is yours and no one else can park there. Just be grateful they only come a few weeks a year.

it’s the looking out and then moving his car quickly there 100 % this.

My NDN asks me to move my car if it's outside his. There's always some excuse like they're waiting for a delivery/he wants to wash his car (lies unless waiting for a delivery is his family coming round). If I can just reverse so my car is outside my house not his I'll do it. If not, I refuse. The CF knocks on my door to ask me. I keep meaning to say no because it's annoying.

Parking outside someone’s house when they aren’t there still means you are parking outside someone else’s house.

Why should he when you don’t?

Everyone has to park on that side or cars won’t get through, do you understand

Because you said that if your next door neighbours park opposite your house you then have to park opposite theirs and struggle home with your shopping

If I have to park outside next door it adds approximately 2 seconds

Oh ffs 🤦‍♀️

You literally want him to do something you don’t, which is hypocritical.

Ok I’m clearly being unreasonable but it really doesn’t feel like it!

I would be inclined to go to the NDN and explain the problem and ask them to park outside their own house if possible. If they came back with the entitled "I can park anywhere I like" I would point out (politely) that when you are an occasional visitor its not a good idea to antagonise the locals. After all there may be a time in the future when they need your help. Unattended homes can suffer damage such as break ins, floods, etc. If I only visited once a month I would like to know that a friendly neighbour would contact me in the event of some emergency. I scratch your back you scratch mine.

Ok, I think it’s hard for others to understand and me to explain the set up, even though ive tried to explain

Oh they expect us to look after their house for them…which we’re happy to do

YANBU to feel slightly peeved, but YABU to say anything or to think you have any right to that space in any way.

I know nobody owns the road etc etc, but that would piss me off too. Not sure what the answer is though, as you don’t have the right to claim the space. Being a bit of a gobshite, I’d probably say something next time I saw him, in the hope it would embarrass him into being more thoughtful….”Hey Geoff, is there any reason why you prefer to use the space outside my house WHERE I LIVE ALL YEAR when you come and visit? Only it makes it hard work for me with the kids and shopping”

Wait, they park outside THEIR OWN HOUSE and you are upset?! I thought you were reasonable until that update, I thought they were parking outside YOUR house but this whole time you’ve been parking outside theirs and now complaining that they are parking there 😂

I think it’s because he does come across as a bit of an entitled, arrogant man. He’s a retired Dr and used to want everyone to address him a Dr (very old school attitude where we are)

Can you please explain what I’m not understanding?

there are houses on both sides of the street

Everyone parks on one side of the street only so that traffic can get down

this means that only half the people are actually parking outside their own house.

you are not parking outside your own house. You are parking outside the house across the street.

and complaining when your neighbour does the same. Because you deem it “your” space.

bloody hell I’ve just seen that you keep an eye on the house for them, in that case definitely say something!

Oh I won’t say anything but wanted to see others views

And why don't you and your husband do the very same, nip out and move when the neighbor moves ! You should get a wheelie bag for moving your groceries .....

What?

Most big supermarkets have delivery services online unless you live up a mountain in Scotland.
Hane you actually explored the online shop? Delivery charges depend when it's delivered but it saves a lot of hassle.