AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

Ah you are not in uk?

Because the road is too narrow, cars wouldn’t be able to drive through? I would love to be able to park completely outside our home instead of the short distance across from it

You know, Pollyanna and the finding the bright side - “the glad game” - “glad they’re only here a few times a year” - “ lucky I usually get to park in the shade” - “glad I get to live somewhere lovely that they only get to visit”.

But you stated everyone else has an unwritten rule that they park outside their own house but literally half the street don’t.

No

But you are, by definition, outside someone else’s house?

So this

sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.

isnt true.

A noun can be turned into a verb very easily. For example ‘I’m going to do a Hugothatway’. In the case of the pp she made a verb out of the noun Pollyanna by adding ‘out’ in the model of ‘style it out’.
Unfortunately I still don’t know what she means by ‘Pollyanna it out’ but it’s not the grammar obscuring meaning! A

You own the property not the road. It's a case of first come gets the best spot. YABVU to complain.

They know we park there as see it and obviously it’s opposite our house, he goes to huge lengths to park there, only have to nip out and come back to him having moved his car into the space, it’s odd!

YABU. They park there for 2-3 weeks a year, you park there for the other 49-50. You both have as much right to park there as each other.

You are lucky that some of the homes are left empty for most of the year and not owned by families with adult children at home and 3-4 cars to park!

Still needing a diagram to make a reasoned judgement OP….,

They pay as much for their house as you do. They cause you no problems and for much of the year you get to feel like you have fewer neighbours.

First come first served, if the parking space is available, they’re just as entitled as you to use it.

@KTheGrey, Pollyanna is not a verb and doesn't work in this scenario.

I would not be able to be glad that someone moved their car to where I usually parked just because I'd nipped to the shop.

Only picking you upon it because your post needed explaining.

POLLYANNA Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster

They do as a few are holiday homes with owners v rarely there

I feel like OP and pp are making this thread entirely confusing.
We need a diagram, and are there houses along both sides of the road or just one side?

Ok, just odd that no one else does that aside from this guy

This!

Having lived within a few moles of Central London for 30 years or so, this a non issue. I would suggest a windscreen sun shield.

I live in a village really close to an infant school. Trying to park in my ‘usual’ spot, or even on my road, is impossible during pick up and drop off times. I had to have a word with myself when I started getting annoyed. It’s not my spot, they’re not doing anything wrong and I was only winding myself up by thinking otherwise.

They don’t come for 3-4 weeks a year, 3-4 times a year and for most of summer
We do have families with three cars they park their other two at the end of the road

You didn’t explain the situation very well. Hence all the comments about ‘outside’ your own house. So there’s been a lot of tedious explaining.

So you’re upset about a car parking outside someone else’s house? That does seem a bit odd! You know you can’t own a spot on the highway, so I do think you’re being unreasonable.

How are they supposed to know, if it’s an ‘unspoken rule’?

I’m assuming they are decent people, who just make sure they’re not parking on double yellows (or whatever the equivalent is where you live), or blocking people’s driveways - and they just see a place where it is safe and legal to park, and are parking there 🤷🏼‍♀️
If I saw a nice shady spot that was available, I would too! I wouldn’t give it another thought.

I mean, you have the option to explain the ‘unspoken rule’ to them, but I don’t know how you would do that.

’Hi, holiday home neighbours - can I just tell you that you are breaking an unspoken rule in the street that everyone parks opposite their own house, and you are being rude by breaking this rule, even though there are no signs and you are not parking dangerously, illegally or over anyone’s drive.’ 😬

If you said that to me, I would say ‘Ok’. In the interests of peace, I would then comply with your - now spoken - rule, be scrupulously polite to you in future, and be absolutely astonished at your rudeness.

Cut the tree down.

Yes I think this is the annoying part, if he was just sometimes parking there, ok, but it’s the looking out and then moving his car quickly there, I mean it’s quite sad but also irritating when it’s a lot of the time-just park outside your own house?!