AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

I was thinking you were being a little precious until you wrote the part about the neighbor moving his car if you leave. I would be furious.

Perhaps you’re right, but can we agree these actions are pretty twatish

That’s the annoying bit!

It isn’t though. It doesn’t belong to you and It isn’t rude either. Anyone can park there. Just because you think it’s an unwritten rule doesn’t make it one. Lose your entitlement and park somewhere else.

It’s annoying but there’s nothing you can do. I used to have my neighbours son park his huge pick-up truck full of rubbish outside my house, it used to stink in the summer and attract flies so I couldn’t open my windows. He’d never park it outside his parent’s house where there was a space. I think someone else complained about him in the end because he’d leave the truck overnight uncovered so it became a health safety issue.

I don’t know if it is though. I think he thinks any space is fair game, so long as he’s sticking to one side of the road. He wants his car to be in the shade so when he sees the space is available he moves his car there, as that’s where he wants it to be and would have parked originally if it had been empty when he arrived.

In all seriousness though, do look into getting a steering wheel cover. You can get plain black ones that just look like the normal wheel and you only have to put it on once and then forget about it so it’s not a big effort. It really does make a huge difference.

Okay, I think I get it. Parking is only on one side of the road and most people park outside their own home/or opposite their own home.

So, when this guy moves into 'your' spot, why don't you park in his spot? Opposite next door, rather than at the end of the street? Surely there's an empty spot there. If there's no empty spot, isn't he just parking in the nearest available spot?

I would reframe this as aren’t I lucky they only do this a few times a year rather than all year long.

Talk about drip feed!

I added two explanatory images on one thread and the reaction was 'your image is poor quality' or something like that. Not that I expect gratitude but ...

I don’t know how old you are but it’s probably time you understood that you can’t control other people’s actions or behaviour, only your own.

I just don’t understand why you are allowing yourself to get so wound up about something so insignificant.

Here's the key phrase:

no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space

I understand exactly what you are saying. Yes, he does legally have the right to park there. But zooming in after you have left to ‘claim’ the space and then staying there, would annoy the hell out of me too.
I certainly wouldn’t want to help him out either after that level of self entitlement.

@PrueRamsay , Because it's probably made her feel like she's being watched. The NDN might be alerted by the door camera every time she walks to her car.

@Chipsanddipsforlunch , you could go to your car dressed like you were going out then sit in it to see if NDN comes out.

Do a few trips to the car, e.g. to put something in the boot or glove compartment.
Make a game of it.

If there’s no legally allocated space anyone can park there.

I guess people who earn enough for second homes are likely to have an eye for a chance and will not be ashamed to take them. It's the nature of the beast.

Console yourself with the fact you get to live there all year and you are a better human being.

Could you start parking in what should be his space and see if that suddenly makes him want that one instead? I'd give up because it's not worth the stress. People are weird unfortunately.

From the OP: it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space

The OP is already doing what you suggest when she can, she doesn’t like their spot because it’s not shady.

They probably think they are being considerate since they are apparently parking outside the other holiday let home which is rarely used. I imagine they are congratulating themselves on not causing inconvenience to full time residents by parking outside their houses.

Hey? No drip feed and I never said your picture was poor quality 😬

No drip feed It was a joke hence the smiley.
I never said your picture was poor quality That was somebody on a completely different thread not you.

On this thread I've had some of those 'React' thingies.
Big thank you to those kind people.

Our neighbour's parents do this when they visit - they park outside our house rather that outside their kid's house next door - anyone can park there so I'm not at liberty to complain - but I suppose tourists and second home owners are easy targets.

Ahh ok 💓

Blimey. It wouldn’t occur to me to cease addressing a doctor with his title just because he had retired.

OP, you sound insufferable, with your pettiness and ‘unwritten rules’ which are probably only known to you and 1 neighbour. Honestly, get a grip.

The only doctor I would refer to as doctor is one who's treating me in a medical capacity. If my neighbour was a Sergeant Major I wouldn't address him as Sergeant Major.